Watermeadow, how lovely that you have inherited some money.
If your house needs attention, i.e. needs repairs, I would first get that sorted. You've obviously got some savings set aside for work on the house. Don't go overboard with it. Get the repairs done and a freshening up. It will make you feel good.
I'm all for treating family but certainly, dont 'blow' the whole lot on them. Take them out for a nice meal. But the main thing is, spend it on something that you will enjoy.
Yes, most of us have this worry that our house will be sold to pay for our care home fees. Such a shame, isn't it? Those who have spent the lot on cruises and high living, will not have to pay for their care, but those of us who have been frugal and own our home and have some savings , are penalised.
Good luck watermeadow with whatever you decide to do. You seem such a lovely person.