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moggie57 Sun 07-Apr-19 22:23:47

i would never smack my grandchildren..... i would get the children together and explain to them that it is not acceptable to hurt another child or anyone else.all children should be supervised no matter what age.there parents should get the school counsellor to get involved .maybe something is going on under the surface, but its the parents job not yours.

FlexibleFriend Sun 07-Apr-19 22:18:19

My kids wouldn't have been playing out at 5 without adult supervision.

Bellesgran Sun 07-Apr-19 22:15:37

Its all because I asked them to zip their jackets before going out BlueBelle.

BlueBelle Sun 07-Apr-19 22:14:32

Personally I think the parents should be taking more action to resolve this and not leave it to you that’s unfair and too much to expect of you When are the parents back? no training or job is more important than sorting this out out If they are this much trouble at 5 what will they be like at 10
I would not let them out to play with other kids or someone will end up getting really hurt I m very surprised the four year olds parents weren’t on your doorstep

Bellesgran Sun 07-Apr-19 22:07:04

BlueBelle, oh they fight with each other as well, trust me sad. Their parents don't often go away but they do work long hours so its me that looks after them the vast majority of the time. Their parents tell me that they favour grounding the girls but when I try that they just take major tantrums then throw things which gets me frustrated.

crazyH Sun 07-Apr-19 22:02:16

Even if you did believe in smacking ( I did ), you do not smack someone else's children i.e. your granddaughters. I have smacked my own children ( it was done those days), but when I was in charge of my grandchildren, I never ever smacked them, even though I knew my daughter would not have questioned my decision, if I did. Inform your granddaughter's parents and let them deal with it. Biting is a weapon used by very young children. I'm curious to know how they develop this tendency (to bite). My 3 year old grandson bit his nursery-mate and my son and daughterinlaw were called in .

BlueBelle Sun 07-Apr-19 22:00:08

Oh well that second piece of information it looks as if they have definitely bullied the poor little girl and if they are bringing notes home many times from school then it sounds as if they have been behaving pretty badly for a while so what have the parents done about it up to now
If the parents are only away for a week then they must deal with it when they return or you must ring them and ask what they want you to do
Of course you can’t smack them but I wouldn’t let them out to play with other children until you hand them back Keep them with you so you can keep a close eye on them Do they fight each other or just gang up against another child
Do their parents iften go away, are they insecure ?

Bellesgran Sun 07-Apr-19 21:50:33

Well, I saw bite marks on the girl plus she showed me bruises on her legs from where she had been kicked hard so, I am inclined to believe the little girl who is only aged 4 by the way.
Next, yes, the girls are liable to bullying, they have been given notes home on many occasions regarding bullying other children at their school.
And finally, yes, I'm in charge of the girls for now as their parents are on a training week from their job.

BlueBelle Sun 07-Apr-19 21:40:08

Well in what way are they supposed to have bullied her is it in their character. Kids can fib or extend on these stories are you sure the other child is telling the truth
Are you in charge of the twins?
Are they normally bullying?
You say you ve tried everything so does that imply they are normally naughty kids

Bellesgran Sun 07-Apr-19 21:11:54

Hi ladies, I am needing advice on how to deal with my twin 5yr old granddaughters because I had another child come to my house crying, claiming that the twins bullied her :/?

I have tried everything but nothing works plus, I don't believe in smacking either so, what can I do?