Finding the positive place

Xxx

Gillybob I'm sorry you feel that way, you shouldn't, your posts have often given me cause to think, we don't always agree but nothing wrong with different points of view. You are unique in a such a good way, I value your comments and insights so you should too.
and share a with me.

David1968
I made that decision in my 40s.
My OH calls them oxygen thieves. That might sound a bit harsh, but it's often true.

Thanks for your good wishes, ladies. After 48 hours at home, I am already feeling more like my old self, amazing what cuddles from the little'uns can do! A week's decent food and sleep, and more medicinal cuddles, and I shall be well up for the surgery...so long as I can avoid the sniffles and coughs currently afflicting the family. If I absolutely HAVE to have it, then better this week than next, but I'd really prefer not to have it at all! Got to go to the dentist too...chemo and/or the rest has caused my gums to shrink, so 7000€-worth of dentistry done only 8 months ago is now useless and worthless! Thank God for insurance, eh?!

Oh my goodness Grannymosh you poor love. I've been through breast cancer so I can sympathise. You've certainly been through it. Sending love x

The best thing is to see kind positive people, and get out if at all possible.

For you poor loves who are unable to contact Age Concern as they can arrange visitors to cheer you up.

Sending positivity to you all x

Feeling a bit exhausted and negative today.Finding my job more and more tiring,and my very elderly mum is still refusing help and one the one hand telling me she can cope,then the next minute saying she is struggling.I seem to be in a permanent state of exasperation and guilt lately !
However I found my positive place this afternoon in our lovely garden.A couple of hours if tidying up with a robin for company.Very restorative.

My family - always, and finding things to laugh at.

GrannyMosh - you are amazing. All good wishes.

Gardening. I've been pottering in the garden all afternoon.
Have weeded, planted some broad beans, cleared a couple of veg beds, sorted out my little lean-to greenhouse. Gave DH some occupational therapy (he doesn't garden) sorting out last year's bird scarers made of wire and foil bun cases. Bliss!

Thanks for your comment deansway, food for thought indeed.

deanswaydolly's comment will do me. Better than some.

X to you dwd.

Reading one of my favourite novels usually by Georgette Heyer. She captures the Georgian period so well.

I'm a positive person - my mum called me a bloody Pollyanna - but if I'm down, after Dh, my grown up children are who I turn to. After that my lovely friend of over 40 years - we are a mutual support system.

Being by the sea.
Watching the birds making their nests.
Reading.
I don’t need money for any of these.

I’m loving these! Really envious of moxeyns I’ve never yet seen one pair of boxing hares, never mind seven of them (was there a group of 3?!), despite living amidst many fields!

I love sitting in my sunroom to watch the sun set. There have been many spectacular sunsets recently. A deep, hot bath with scented bubbles usually cheers me up too.

Kalu, have She Shed envy, lucky you, I always wanted one , like you I would have a wicker chair, books , radio and my coffee maker and my crocheting , that would be my positive, happy place ,

I open the hatch on my narrow boat home, feed the swans and just take in the movement of the water and I can't help feeling positive. Being positive comes from within....it is about smiling at people and caring about life and your environment..
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A cuddle with DH at bottom of stairs as we set alarm before going to bed and a friendly morning argument about whose turn it is to make a drink. Not in a smug way at all. I am blessed with my 2nd DH and count those blessings every day.

The salty scent of the seas, the way it used to be before it began to lose its salinity and lifeforms- The smell of cotton candy and the sights and sounds on a loud, crowded midway- Remembering my children when they were infants- Revisiting favorite movies, "Miss Truvy, I promise that my personal tragedy will not interfere with my ability to do good hair -" Accepting that I never grew out of being socially awkward- Thinking about each grandchild and experiencing a loving, unique connection with each - Rereading favorite poems, The More Loving One by Auden, The Draft Horse by Frost, The Country by Billy Collins, Atavism by William Stafford, Kindness by Naomi Shihab Nye- Sharing ..

Lilypops I am halfway through crocheting a blanket for DD2. Seems we have quite a bit in common?

This She Shed is one of the best ideas I have come up with. My go to place which helps me to switch off from problems and woes which beset so many of our lives.

Hope there is a chance you can have one too.?

Gaggi3, thank you, but I'm really not! Just had a lot of practice at being positive..another Pollyanna here! Remember, even when the glass LOOKS totally empty, it is actually full of air, and boy, is that a precious commodity! ?
Yorkshiregirl..thanks for your good wishes. Where in Yorkshire? I moved to Osnabrück 2.5 years ago to be with my family, am from near Pontefract originally.

Thnk you for the poems Rosecarmel. I have looked them up and read all four. Lovely.