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Snowflake generation?

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paddyann Mon 04-Feb-19 14:44:26

We had two exchange students with us one summer who were freezing while we were having the hottest week of the year .They cant help being cold .One of ours had two duvets and still slept with fleecy tops on.
Food is difficult ,there are things I dont eat ( my mother was the same ) and if anyone put any type of fowl on a plate I would and have refused to eat it.My mother never forces us to eat things we didn't like or didn't want .I've been the same with my children and GC Think about it would YOU force down food that made you feel sick?

When we have our exchange students we do our best to find things they'll eat and enoy ...and even ask for the recipe.They are our guests and I was always told treat guests the way you would want to be treated .

Teetime Mon 04-Feb-19 14:40:14

Oh this could get complicated. I think they should have told you if they were cold, you wouldnt want guests to be uncomfortable would you? As to the food well its impolite to comment on food if you are a guest in someone's house but there again these are the manners our generation was brought up with and if they have been allowed to choose what they want at home then that is their norm. However again I shouldn't think you want your guests to be underfed and it is different with our own families. We can impose regimes on them that we cant really do with other people. I suppose really we need to know more. Who were these ladies? Were they paying guests or just staying at your invitation and your generosity - makes a big difference. Personally I would never impose my choice of food on anyone else at all, and as for heat I have yet to find the person who like a house as warm as I keep mine. I'm cold wherever I go so take my big cardi to wrap up in.

Grammaretto Mon 04-Feb-19 14:32:12

Maybe I should have put this on AIBU but I genuinely am interested in what you think.
I have had 2 youngish (mid 20 ish) volunteers staying and from day one they made it plain that they were
a) cold
b) didn't like our food.
So after a few days of this I suggested, (and had given them extra bedding) they should find somewhere else because having brought up a family who ate what was on their plate or went hungry, I was not prepared to compromise with these 2 .
They sounded surprised and one said that it was because her own DM had been forced to eat as a child that she in turn allowed her children total freedom.

Why is it we either react against our upbringing or repeat the conditioning with our own children. i.e.
What was good enough for me
I'll never inflict that on my own kids
Any views out there? These 2 have left and I am relieved.