Short lived relationships & resulting babies

My D employs a student part time from the local college.
On Friday she asked to speak to my D and burst into tears saying I am pregnant.
She is 16, she had just rung the not friend and of course he didn't want to know.
She said her mother would " kill her" mum has a child of 18 months from another man.
It played in my D's mind but she cannot and must not get involved.
Sex education is failing girls and not getting through to boys who want to have their cake and to eat it.

Have I misunderstood the OP? I'm sure PECS said.. "I know ' accidents' happen but if a father wants to be part of a child's life, even if the life was not intended, there really should be a stronger push from establishment & society tp make this the expectation". I took this thread to be about letting the Fathers and paternal side of the family be involved??

I wonder how many couples who 'had to' get married in the old days, stayed the course.

My bil and his young pregnant wife battled, literally, for 16 years before throwing in the towel!

This is not a new thing. When we were young the girls were usually forced to give up the child for adoption or sometimes the child was brought up by the grandmother.

I agree with the above. However, I read something once that made me think. Someone said 'one look from a man (or a woman) from across a crowded room can send 17 years of parenting down the pan'

Maybe the boys/men should take more responsibility and use protection as opposed to relying on the girl/woman.

Sex is over and done with relatively quickly, a child is for life.

A child brings much joy, but you only have to scroll through Gransnet to see the heartache caused when things go wrong.

Well bring your sons up to be condom wearing respectful men and your daughters to never have sex with men who are not the above.

That usually works well and did for our 4 adult kids.

In an ideal world parents would be equal - sadly when it comes to having the "power" in making decisions over children the Mum has the final say. Even the courts are biased in favour of the Mother.