Life Lessons

Katy I think that I have been the go to person for everyone's problems for so long that I expect to always be able to fix things. You can't fix someone who only thinks of themselves and has no friends and has cut out members of their own family. You can't fix someone who is vengeful and never wrong, even when their is proof they are.

twin I suspect we all have friends like that. When I had a big life change I decided I was no longer going to be the one who did all the contacting. This has resulted in losing contact with one person but another one has chased after me when I stopped contacting her. Surprising how you don't miss them once you have decided to stop working at it.

I believe my mum was right you end up with true friends on one hand

I am learning some friendships which I thought were for life come to the end.

It’s a hard lesson.

Some friendships also appear to be one way. I’m the one who phones and arrange things which are really enjoyable. but there are no return calls or arrangements. There are 2 ends to a phone. Dh says don’t stress about it !!

I did have the courage to say to 1 friend she never rang me only txt and she said she genuinely hadn’t realised.
Maybe I need to be brave and say something.

There are very few things you absolutely have to do.

Yes. Be nice to people because you want to be or it makes you happy. Not because you want anything in return.

Great post Nonnie. I have been in that situation too. I thought it was me who was wrong, then realised this 'wonderful person' was not so wonderful. I know I am a good, decent person but began to feel otherwise.

Thanks Dannie the hardest lesson I have ever learned.

Well said Nonnie.

I have learned that no matter how kind you are, how thoughtful and considerate, how well you lead your life some people will still want to hurt you. It is not your fault there are people who are just plain nasty. I spent years examining my conscience, trying to see what I had done wrong until someone made me see it wasn't me. The person I was having such a bad time with was described by a beautiful person, who never says anything bad about anyone, as 'evil'. She forced me to see that there was nothing I could do to improve the situation. Still hard to accept but there really are horrible people in the world.

I have the hoard gene, got it from my mother. It's really tough but I am fighting against it, mainly because I don't want my children to have to go through the clutter that my mother left. Talking about rubber bands, margarine tubs, gas bills from 1962 etc. etc.

Me too!

That’s exactly what I feel like “a slow learner”

Well I suppose the common denominator is me who seems to be a very slow learner life wise.