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It was rather odd to see that some threads, with one particular one in mind, was littered with deleted posts. I've never seen so many deletions on one topic. A bit upsetting for those of us who have been posters for a long time and are not generally known for making outlandish accusations or ill judged posts.

Just a thought , would/should " browsing " replace " lurking " and sound/read less sinister ?

Glad to see you back MawBrown . I was taken aback to have a post deleted . I have recovered ! I am full of the cold and lacking the brain at the moment to add further words of wisdom

I agree with the majority of the earlier posts .

Me too N&G and I agree that GN has been rather a strange place to be in the past few weeks.

I, too, had a post deleted when I mentioned a certain garment - but I did believe that the whole thread should have been deleted and was trying to warn other posters. Perhaps the 'day staff' were on leave over Christmas?

However, very vitriolic posts, such as practically accusing someone of being a Nazi are not deleted .

Just Walk Away Renée is good advice merlotgran
But sometimes it is difficult to tell.

Shhhh,. Don't tell HQ Oldwoman

Hmm - perhaps "Renee" could be the new code word!

Perhaps GNHQ are having a well deserved break from the mid-winter celebrations too.

Just hum a quick chorus of 'Walk Away, Renée' and leave 'em to it.

Even if it looks as though a person has brought everything on themselves and asks us if we think they are in the wrong, they rarely want to be told yes; in reality they may be feeling fragile, and being told too bluntly that their problem it is all their fault, can destroy them. As few, if any, of us are trained counsellors we could potentially do a lot of harm..

starbird I am sorry I disagree. If someone posts a problem on an open forum like this, they must know that not everybody will agree with them and they will say so. There is no room for abuse or nastiness, but there is room to say politely, now and again, that someone is making a lot of fuss over nothing.

We have many posts from people in desperate situations to whom most of us will offer help and advice if we can, but when someone posts to say that they have been crying for 2 days because the Sainsbury's delivery was an hour late and they ran out of biscuits when their DGC came round. I think it is quite reasonable, to point out politely that they are over reacting.

Felice I wish you well for your op on Wednesday and your recuperation afterwards.

I remember your thread
and agree that some poster s were unable to take on board how your health system works and were quite derogatory when you tried to explain

Please post and keep us updated with your recovery.???

I found it a bit odd how some posters kept coming back for more. There couldn't possibly have been some (whispers) enjoyment involved, could there.? No! Daft idea!

I got totally confused as I was not around so much when the unhappy posts began.. came in part way and it took a little bit of reading through to appreciate what was happening. It is hard for admin to know for certain who is out with a wooden spoon and who is just a naïve poster. I have a friend who is admin on another type of forum and he says it can be a tightrope!. Glad we are able to air our concerns..thanks Maw

I think , if in doubt Diva , ask the poster for more details . I think Bluebelle has a good point.

I'm sure this isn't the first time things have got a bit nasty here over a long Christmas holiday. I have noticed it before. Just a few new posters out for trouble, and some existing posters challenge them, and it all gets very unpleasant.

I feel we should totally ignore their posts, as they thrive on the attention. I know many of you don't agree.

I agree with Kittys' post Mon 07-Jan-19 17:00:43 . GN should let us warn new posters of a possibly suspect post in some agreed way, just until it's been investigated.

The only alternative I can think of, is not to accept new members for a short period before and over Christmas, unless recommended by a existing member. I realise this is a bit drastic and unfair to some who might really need help, especially over the Christmas period.

I think it was all due to the long drawn out 2 weeks Christmas and New Year break where a few had too much time/wine on their hands and decided to channel their own " entertainment " by ruffling everyone's feathers here.

Anyway it's back to work and school so there shouldn't be any more shenanigans until at least Easter although there are bound to be the odd clash of personalities, but hey-ho onwards and upwards.

Felice I’ve just lost a long, post to you. Simply put it was that DH has had both knees done. He felt it was definitely worthwhile. You will be fine. Best wishes on Wednesday

For myself I am saddened that HQ have responded on another thread about a technical issue, but have so far not peeped in here (or have they?)

Well said, MissA

prestbury I was set to make a comment on this thread when finished reading all comments.
Your comment said it all for me. It is exactly what I would have said. Thank you.

I was shocked that some of the long-time regular posters had such nasty abuse hurled at them. I would have ducked below the wall and dug an escape trench.
I hope GN returns to the friendly, welcoming, and informative forum it has been in the past.

Yes, MissAdventure.
Agree.

A distinct lack of response from GNHQ but it's clear that many of us share the same concerns so let's hope that after due consideration they get back to us with some suggestions or questions.

Farview that is a good point of view fir you but doesn’t help people who are going the extra mile to help someone they feel is in distress and getting taken in

I saw a six of one, half a dozen of the other atmosphere on here.
Lots of people getting irate about nothing of any great importance.

If I get any sort of bad vibe on reading a thread...as in the ones over Christmas..I just steer clear.. ignore them..

Maw - I agree GN has had a strange atmosphere over Christmas.
Felice - I hope all goes well for your op.
Annie - I'm glad you have decided not to leave.
I'm sure things will settle down.