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Rufus2 Mon 07-Jan-19 02:34:30

An edited version of an article in The Oldie mag. by Matthew Norman.
Worth a read! grin Quote;
"The idea of female equality strikes me as an absurdity, if not an abomination. What I believe in passionately - what anyone on nodding terms with common sense knows for the plain and simple truth - is female superiority.
After almost 55 years of observing the species, it is crystal clear that in every regard other than one, women are by a colossal margin its better half.
The rule- proving exception concerns the final stage of the supermarket experience.
The leading source here is the philosopher Homer Simpson. As a husband, father, friend and colleague, Simpson elegantly franks the theory of laughable masculine inferiority on his own. As a commentator on the check-out gender divide he stands alone however, as he confirmed on a Springfield supermarket outing by choosing to queue for a check-out behind 20 men rather than a lone woman. To Sigmund Freud, famously, the most impenetrable mystery of human existence was what women want. But Freud never shopped in the Bayswater Waitrose in 2018. Had he done so, he'd have cracked it wide open.
What women want is to understand that, at the end of the process when the bill is calculated, they will be be expected to pay for whatever they put in the trolley.
My card is to hand long before the last item is scanned. The nanosecond the checkout person reveals the amount, into the machine it goes. It's not hard. If it was, it would be beyond me. Yet to 93.4% of female supermarket shoppers the request for payment is invariably astounding. It doesn't matter how many times they have been there before. It could be a hundred or a trillion. Whenever the checkout operative says "That's £73-49 ' it's always a JFK moment.....viscerally shocking, but forgotten by the next time, when again the purse is in the depths of her handbag buried beneath the 19 items that still need packing in the carrier bags......
Suffice it to say that this temple to genteel, middle-class shopping sensibilities isn't what it was - and that the horrific queues make it a moral imperative for every customer of every gender to avoid a place where the poor sods stretch back, like the biblical host of Israelites in the wilderness to the table sauces section at the far end of aisle 11." End of quote!

As a mere male I thought it made a good read, but sorry I couldn't copy/paste it into a GN forum; still a work in progress! wink

Rufus2 Sat 12-Jan-19 12:29:58

Must be a joke to be had about being flat chested
POGS; You've thrown down a hard challenge and I need all the encouragement I can get.! grin The "postage stamp" was feeble, but that's all there is at the moment.
However, a corollary exists in that a woman could possibly feel uncomfortable if her partner's "man-boobs" are larger than hers! After years spent in gym. saunas this is not hard to imagine, especially amongst the Seniors! shock

POGS Fri 11-Jan-19 16:10:06

Must be a joke to be had about being flat chested Lyndiloo.

Don't encourage Rufus. wink

Lyndiloo Fri 11-Jan-19 03:35:49

P.S. Keeping your card in your bra ??? How uncomfortable would that be? shock

Lyndiloo Fri 11-Jan-19 03:31:22

Rufus - let's face it, we're expert at most things!

quasidodo Fri 11-Jan-19 00:48:51

Here's a thought. Don't pack your purchases into bags at the checkout! Put them back in the trolley as they come through, pay for them, then find a quiet place out of everyone else's way to pack the stuff into bags. You avoid having a packing-induced panic attack and you also don't hold up the queue. Not rocket science.

POGS Thu 10-Jan-19 12:13:32

Rufus

My hubby likes to go shopping on his own because he always comes home with a 'free' bottle of whisky just because he bought a loaf of bread.

Never happens when he is with me? ?

Rufus2 Thu 10-Jan-19 10:19:37

Matthew Norman obviously hadn't met up with that other bane of check-out delays. Having finally retrieved the card from the depths of despair, it turns up in a purse containing about 20 other cards and so begins the game of finding one that still has sufficient credit to cover the impending transaction. Card after card goes into the machine until lo and behold "Approved" is bestowed! It's enough to drive a man to drink! shock It must be a measure of one's social standing to have more than one.!

Rufus2 Wed 09-Jan-19 10:00:53

you have a woman packing it for you! smile
Lindyloo; by going into an "un-calm" mode I can get more than one woman to take pity on a bumbling OAP; it's in their DNA! I'm happy to let them because after all, they are experts at packing. grin

totally inept in this area and leaves me to it.
Saetana; You're being taken for a fool! wink Of course, it's his cunning plan to avoid strenuous brain work; it's a common tactic used by over-worked bread winners! grin

Rufus2 Wed 09-Jan-19 09:32:18

I am surprised by that ( cards kept in bras
I don't know my bra size off-hand, but it wouldn't hide a postage stamp, or even a book of 10. grin

Lyndiloo Wed 09-Jan-19 02:00:39

Oh do calm down, Rufus! I suspect that your card is ready because, a) you don't buy a lot of stuff, or b) you have a woman packing it for you! smile

Bellanonna Tue 08-Jan-19 23:13:23

Especially in winter

lemongrove Tue 08-Jan-19 23:09:59

Biker I am surprised by that ( cards kept in bras ) I would have to rummage in several layers before coming into contact with my bra in a supermarket.?

Mrspn19479 Tue 08-Jan-19 21:55:52

When I shop at waitrose..in the foyer there are racks of scanners. I check in my shopping as i go along having scanned in my credit debit card after I have finished shopping I stick the scanner into the relevant checkout and checkout. DH collects his free coffee, I drive home and he has a relaxing rest reading his free paper. There are scanners at other supermarkets too, don't know about free coffee and papers though.

BradfordLass72 Tue 08-Jan-19 20:58:49

My son and I have had many discussion on 'female equality' - we are both in favour of course but when he was young, saw it in a very different light to me.

If we do the same jobs, we are entitled to the same pay - goes without saying but what women wanted and still want is equal respect and equal choice.

This is still a patriarchal society. Men assume authority, are given more authority even when far more capable, efficient women are available....and often disregarded.

We've come a long way since Victorian times but we still haven't quite gotten round the arrogance which assumes men are somehow entitled to more respect than women.

bikergran Tue 08-Jan-19 18:06:17

I am a checkout operator....I have to remain neutral so cannot comment lol.

But! a lot of ladies keep their card in their bra ..lol the speed they whip it out n back in is amazing shock its in/out in the blink of an eye!

Supernan Tue 08-Jan-19 17:20:43

We walked to a nearby town, with the intention of getting the bus home. We live in London so no cash, only passes on the buses. Get to the home going bus stop. DH has no pass. I get on the bus and he has to walk. He only forgot his pass the once! ?

Grammaretto Tue 08-Jan-19 16:03:50

I have just tried the self scan and as ever something refused to scan so the assistant had to come over which made me feel a twit. It turned out to be something wrong with the barcode but the process was not quick.

Davidhs Tue 08-Jan-19 15:44:27

Use self scan for small shops where it will all go into one bag but the platform isn't really big enough for a large number of items.
At the tills women are usually quicker at scanning and I can pack as fast as they scan, not everybody can. It is mainly women that are slower packing but then most women do the shopping

Magrithea Tue 08-Jan-19 09:05:54

Rufus I don't know if others have said but it's nothing to do with pockets but all to do with the fact that most women do the supermarket shop ON THEIR OWN!! So we're trying to unload a full trolley in the order we want to pack our bags AND pack the bags. When the cashier tells us the price we're stills struggling because she/he has whizzed things through the scanner faster than we can pack. THEN there is the issue of finding the purse, we know it's coming but we're just trying to do 3 things at once (a common female skill!) and unfortunately don't have 3 sets of hands!!

this is why I welcome the 'do it yourself' check out - I know a lot of others don't - or better still the 'scan it as you go' system that Waitrose, and now Sainsbury's, have. I can pack my bags as I go, in the order I want and just scan a code to pay. Yes, I miss the human interaction but for convenience it can't be beaten!

sodapop Tue 08-Jan-19 09:01:37

Crossed posts Yve1 still enjoy living here though.

arosebyanyothername Tue 08-Jan-19 02:03:32

I get a little peeved when the person in front gets a pile of vouchers out with no idea whether they’ve bought the items required. The poor checkout operator has to scan them all to see if any are valid.
My DH hates supermarket petrol stations as many customers have the cheek to purchase items along with their petrol! Never ceases to come back moaning about the inconvenience of having to wait. ( wouldn’t dream of using pay at pump though)

Saetana Mon 07-Jan-19 23:57:02

My husband is more than happy to go to the supermarket with me - however its me who loads the conveyor belt and packs the bags because, with rare exceptions, men cannot pack properly! I pack all my chilled stuff together, freezer stuff together, etc etc. I too hate the fact that women either have no pockets or really small ones. I solved that problem by buying a men's bomber jacket and with a small(ish) shoulder bag in the warmer months. My husband is well aware he is totally inept in this area and leaves me to it - he would never go to a self-service till on his own, as generally he needs to ask the nearest woman for assistance grin

MissAdventure Mon 07-Jan-19 22:43:05

I always get in a fluster; I'm usually still trying to pack my shopping when the next person is waiting to be scanned.
Where do people put their purse or card whilst they're packing?

Tooyoungytobeagrandma Mon 07-Jan-19 22:35:47

I have to say that I get cross at the people that don't have their payment ready. I get my card ready while standing in the queue before they start scanning my shopping. Nearly lost it at the co-op few weeks back. It's years since I've shopped there and know I know why. The cashier was sooooo slow and was carrying on a conversation with the customer and the cashier on the till behind her ignoring the fact her queue was getting longer by the minute. Whilst I don't mind a quick exchange while scanning my items if they can't scan and chat I would rather they scan. Aldi staff can chat, scan and clear a trolley full in no time at all, I love Aldi. I think it's as I get older I have less life life left to waste standing around waiting for folks to find their money/cards etc.grin

MawBroon Mon 07-Jan-19 21:54:56

I am amazed the misandry hit squad have not been alerted and are charging to the rescue ??