Sad reflextion

I think my grandchildren will remember me because I have been and am, if not an everyday, a weekly (or more) part of their lives. When I kick my clogs or pop my bucket it will be the youngest ones who, I think, will miss me most because they will have known me all their lives and have spent and currently spend a lot of time with me. I have also been a figure of varying importance and influence in the older grandchildren's lives and I like to believe that I have been someone who made them consider moral and ethical decisions, think and question, evaluate and judge.

It is a sobering thought but it was ever thus and as others say, it's best to concentrate on the here-and-now. My paternal GP's died 44 and 36 years before I was even born so they didn't see their children grow up, let alone their GC.

I'm not that old, just in my mid-60's, and my youngest is only 22, while my mum is 91, so I hope I've a good few years yet!

I'm 72 and feel very positive of the time I have to spend and have spent with my 8yr old DGS. He is my only one and we are very close. My DD and DS never knew their GPs who died aged 62 and 66 so I really am glad DGS and I can spend as much time as we do together. My DH is 14yrs older and he and Granda just adore each other. I don't look too far ahead these days.

I totally understand how you feel too Lindaa4 . I have 4 grandchildren, 12 almost 13, 10 almost 11 and 8 almost 9, and then my little miracle baby girl (never meant to be) 6 months old. It upsets me to think that me and/or DH will not live long enough to see the little one grow up. We love them all so very much. My 3 older DGC have other grandparents but we are the little ones (my DD’s babys’) only ones.

Well grannyqueenie you are younger than me and your grandchildren are older than mine.
I find it best not to think too far ahead.
Paw knew 4 of his grandchildren (7,5,3,and 18 months) but sadly died at 70 before youngest DD was pregnant with my next grandchild.
Life is nothing if not unpredictable

I know that feeling about the lovely GC - especially my oldest who is 15 and just a treasure.

But we have to live for the day; be cheerful, fun and simply there for them while we can - and give them good memories of us to take on into their lives. And maybe hopefully a good example of how to be old, so it does not seem scary for them when they are contemplating it throughout their lives.

At 68 with 8 grandchildren 9-16 years and I’m very much hoping to see them all into adulthood. Mind you the youngest has already informed me I won’t be invited to her wedding party, since I’m sure to be dead by then! I’m thinking she hasn’t inherited the optimistic gene'

Well I’m 78 since we’re discussing age, and my three are 6, 6 and 4 so I’m pretty sure I won’t see them grown up. So let’s just enjoy them now. I admit I do often wonder how they will turn out but can only hope for the best. We’re all lucky to have them at all so I’m thankful for that.

Well I was 70 this year and I’m going to make as sure as I can to be around a whole lot longer ? if I live another 20 yrs I might even be a Grt Grt GMother ??

I wish I felt like I did when I was fifty. Can't hardly remember it though.

I was thinking the same about my grandsons early this morning. Well, and about my grownup children. You just have to shove those thoughts out of your mind and get on with something. Enjoy them while we can.

well I am 81 with aches and pains , a new hip and still hoping to see my 16yr old GS grow to his 20s , lighten up ladies 70 is the new 50

Totally understand Lindaa4. I am 70 next week, have 5 grandchildren and keep saying I want to live forever to see them all grow up, marry have children. I
can't bear the thought of not being around to see :-(