Need a hug!

Here's a HUG for you! Remember, it's not bad to talk and ask someone's help when needed. You may also want to have a pet with you that can be with you anytime.

Well if there are any lovely people out there who want to 'adopt' my family - just let me know any perhaps we can exchange some details. I think we all do need to be careful about 'safety online'. Tricky, isn't it!!

Loneliness probably also encompasses lack of human contact meaning no hugs. I only said to my husband recently that I would love to be a ‘grannie’ to maybe a single parent who struggles. I thought for some time that Gransnet could be a way of getting lonely people together. If you say where you live you would maybe get a response and start by emailing. Having said all that am hoping that I haven’t opened a can of worms re ‘safety’ online. ?

Thank you for your kind words!!

Dear Kate......I wish we lived closer together (I am in Glos...) My husband died two years ago, I have recently retired, and I have time and love to spare. My own family could do with an injection of fresh perspectives as well......ummmm....you have given me food for thought......BBx

Hello everyone!
I am new to this website and wasn't too sure where to post this message. I am married with a lovely paramedic husband, a 6 year old boy and a 9 year old girl. My background is in teaching. My husband has no parents and although I do, mine spend most of their time holidaying abroad. We would dearly love to 'adopt a grandma or grandparents'. We could so do with some support right now, especially as my leg is in a plaster cast!
Would anyone like to adopt a family who has lots of love and cuddles to offer in return (that would benefit everyone!!). I would love to have an extended family. I'm sure an entrepreneur could sort out a website to help match families and older people!
We live in Rushden, Northamptonshire.
Look forward to hear from anyone who would like to get in touch!
Best wishes Kate x

Good point MissAdventure! ?

I miss a man cuddle.
I dont miss having to make sure it stays at 'just a cuddle'

I think I personally would prefer to make friends by joining clubs classes etc and if a special friendship develops with someone take it from there. I wouldn't want to feel needy or dependent on someone. But that's just me.?

Time to think about a 'boyfriend'! There are some really lovely men (in a similar situation to yourself) out there. You are too young not to have the cuddle you crave. It will take a little nerve but start by some modest flirting, nothing more than being just a tad more friendly...and ask questions. Men love being asked about themselves!

A BIG hug from me to you

A great big hug from me too. I know exactly how you feel as you are repeating what I said to someone last week. I lost my husband just over 2yrs ago and miss his hugs which nothing can replace. It's not about being comfortable but about being loved. Take care xx

Sending a big hug

A hug from me and lots of love to you x

Sending you a big squishy hug...I am on my own too and sometimes in bed I give myself a hug and pretend someone else is doing it and then I relax....works wonders x

My best friend and I never hugged for years. we've known each other since we were five. We started just a few years ago - little pats, half hugs and now we're quite comfortable with it. I think we wanted to let each other know we cared while we still could.
Sending you a big hug Oldwoman

I'm not a natural 'hugger' and I got nose bleeds after the few massages that I have ever had (though at no other times!) I like grandchildren cuddles though! Nevertheless I would hug a friend if I thought they needed one so here's a virtual one from me too. xxx

I don't have any experience of living alone, but this post reminds me of my youngest daughter when she split up from her husband (no children). She was left with the house, and lived alone for about 3 years. I remember her saying how much she missed human physical contact, and that the only time she was ever even touched was when she came home to us. I had never even considered this before - and was so sad about it. Eventually, she got a 'rescue' cat from the RSPCA, and said it was so nice to know that 'somebody' else was breathing in the house. This helped her enormously - having a living creature to feed and look after, and make a fuss of.

I suppose it's the same for many people who live alone. Work colleagues and strangers don't touch you, and even if you have friends who do, you don't see them all of the time.

If I were you, Oldwoman, I would take the bull by the horns, and start 'touching' your friends (without mentioning your feelings). Just a pat on the hand or arm - something small and almost unnoticeable, at first. You may be surprised to find that they will respond in kind. From there, you may be able to build up to a full-blown hug! After all, they too, might feel just the same as you and welcome your physical contact (with open arms!).

This could be a long process, but do try to make other friends too (hard, I know). Be more touchy and huggy yourself, and I'm sure you will get a loving response.

Good luck!

(This comes with a huge, snuggly hug!)

My cat snuggles up against me every day and dogs can't usually can't get enough love so I would recommend getting a pet. I do have grandchildren who like cuddles but I'm not keen on all this huggy business from adult friends. You could always try dating again or taking classes which require physical contact like ballroom dancing or treat yourself to beauty treatments as others have suggested.

Also a big hug from me. Two thoughts: Is there anyone round your neighbourhood with a nice dog you could cuddle? Or a cat? Although they can be fickle.
Also, with your friends, maybe they feel awkward instigating the hug, and would also like one. Maybe if you said to them what you’ve said on here...just an idea. Hope you feel OK.

Give yourself some nice pleasure days when you go and have a nice hair cut followed by a tea for two with a friend. book a foot or hand massage etc. so that you get some regular personal touching contact.

Big hug for you - hope you feel better after all these hugs.
I come from a culture where we don't do big hugs and kisses.....I find everyone here gives a kiss when they enter, then kiss when they leave.....I think it's lovely !!

Sending big hugs to you, it's awful sometimes isn't it xx

((((Massive Hug)))) from me to you X

Hug and flowers from me and (hope you're not on a diet)