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Naked neighbours - what would you do?

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crystaltipps Wed 05-Sept-18 17:22:39

A family I know live in a small terraced house which back sonto a similar row of terraced houses with small backyards. It’s an increasingly gentrified area and many of the residents have had loft and kitchen extensions and the like. One set of neighbours at the back have had their first floor bedroom extended over the kitchen with full length windows. The couple in this house have taken to appearing in the full length window in the nude at various times of the day and night. The families’ young children have had an eyeful several times! The mum is genuinely not happy about this and doesn’t want to see this show whilst the family are eating their breakfast. What would you do in this situation? go round and see the couple and tell them to cover up ? ( she doesn’t know them ) Keep the curtains drawn ? Just laugh it off?

Blinko Wed 05-Sept-18 19:35:31

Once long ago, when teenage sons were home and we were on hols, our neighbours reported they had been naked cavorting in the garden with girls.... The sons, not the neighbours shock

I dread to think what else they got up to.

notanan2 Wed 05-Sept-18 19:38:51

SpringyChicken that sounds sexual rather than just nudity.

I also agree with the poster above who doesn't pay much attention to neighbours windows. We are quite overlooked but I don't tend to pay much attention to whats going on. Personally I have a "thing" about my curtains being drawn as soon as the lights are on in the evening but some neighbours dont and leave theirs open in the dark when their lights are on. I dont know what they get up to other than the one with the REALLY big telly with blue LED strip lighting around the room...they must get terrible headaches surely???

Diana54 Wed 05-Sept-18 20:55:43

Public display of nudity is offensive, you might not be bothered about being seen in the altogether but if others can see you it is a nuisance. It's likely not a police matter but the local council would probably respond to a complaint, it's OK in private but standing in front of a window in full view of neighbours is hardly private and most reasonable people don't do it.

notanan2 Wed 05-Sept-18 20:59:23

No its not Diana, you just don't like it
You are as entitled to that opinion as people are to be naked.
It is not an offense to be naked in public in the UK so long as there is not offensive intent

notanan2 Wed 05-Sept-18 21:04:21

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/8235959.stm

Melanieeastanglia Wed 05-Sept-18 21:18:37

I think I'd try and ignore it as much as possible but I admit I have not visited the home and seen how near it is to the naked neighbours and how clearly things can be seen.

Failing that, I'd perhaps keep my curtains closed because, if you can see them, perhaps they can see you eating your meal.

I do agree that it is odd that people should parade around without their clothes on knowing that people can see them.

Diana54 Wed 05-Sept-18 21:50:40

It certainly is a grey area, most beaches have topless sunbathers a few have well defined nude areas but walk down the street or into a shop topless someone is going say something for sure.
Films and TV are censored so that children don't see nudity I think it is quite reasonable for them not too see it at the breakfast table. By that logic I would ask them not to appear naked because it upset the children, if they then repeated the nudity it would have been intentional.
The same applies to noisy neighbours, ask them to stop, if they repeat it they are deliberately being unsociable, the vast majority of us are considerate neighbours but there are a few that don't care.

MissAdventure Wed 05-Sept-18 21:53:19

I think perhaps a responsible naturist might give new neighbours prior warning?
Not that I'd know, I dont even enjoy getting naked for a bath!

M0nica Wed 05-Sept-18 21:54:05

I would talk to the police. They would hopefully send someone round to give them a word of advice (I believe that ts the phrase they use.)

MissAdventure Wed 05-Sept-18 21:58:40

Hopefully they'll inform him that they're there to discuss a 'small matter'.

notanan2 Wed 05-Sept-18 22:21:04

Nakedness doesn't upset children unless they pick up on the adults around them getting upset by it

M0nica Wed 05-Sept-18 22:26:45

But even if the parents are unphased, the children are being given the message that public nudity is nothing unusual. And that could be quite dangerous for their safety and well being.

notanan2 Wed 05-Sept-18 22:30:10

Children can distinguish between nudity and inappropriate sexual behaviour (which can occur fully clothed).

Its about teaching appropriate behaviours and boundaries not simply about the presence or absence of clothes and in fact children for whom the body is not taboo are better protected from abuse to an extent.

MissAdventure Wed 05-Sept-18 22:31:25

I suppose you could put some frosted glass effect film on the lower part of your windows, then you'd only see their heads.

JackyB Thu 06-Sept-18 06:17:06

(tongue is firmly in cheek heresmile

Get or hire a drone and hover it just outside the window when they appear again. No need to have the camera actually switched on, but the "threat" of being photographed might make them think again. They perhaps simply don't realise that anyone can see them.

gillybob Thu 06-Sept-18 06:38:15

Get the children to make a huge poster (the brighter the better) with ....... we can see your BUMS,BOOBS and WILLIES please put them away ..........written in huge lettters. Put it in the window .

Seriously don’t know what I would do if it continued but I sure as hell wouldn’t just put up with it . Who wants to see someone scratching their b*lls at breakfast time ?

absent Thu 06-Sept-18 06:53:05

*SpringyChicken" Indecent exposure was defined in the past as being by a man with an erect penis and I think it probably still is. A floppy little effort doesn't count. Breach of the peace, public nuisance might cover it (not the penis) otherwise.

absent Thu 06-Sept-18 06:54:31

*SpringyChicken" Of course, a piece of the breech might cover the offending penis.

Diana54 Thu 06-Sept-18 07:12:53

Notanan2.
You are out of line here, nudity in public is not acceptable and it is wrong to teach children that it is natural. It is not sexual in itself but if a girl takes her clothes off and walks down the street I can assure you it will. Men of course are more likely to be ridiculed than admired, in any case the police will turn up to have that "little chat".

Grampie Thu 06-Sept-18 07:15:18

Keep calm and carry on.

Set the example for your children and grandchildren.

harrigran Thu 06-Sept-18 07:19:51

If you can be seen by all and sundry through the window then it is breaching public decency.
Easy enough to say don't look but who wants their young children seeing that every morning ?

harrysgran Thu 06-Sept-18 07:29:46

Fit blinds that you can tilt and ignore the children's hilarious behaviour and tell them to get on with their breakfast

Pamaga Thu 06-Sept-18 07:33:38

Unless the guy has an erection or they are doing anything overtly sexual I don't see the problem really.

Theoddbird Thu 06-Sept-18 07:35:49

I doubt they are aware they can be seen. I think the poster idea best by the way Make sure it is big enough to be read...hahaha

Esspee Thu 06-Sept-18 07:40:43

We are just home from a continental holiday. After an early breakfast one morning we went for a walk along the coast, found a lovely little deserted cove and settled down to read our books. The place gradually filled up and on turning over onto my back I was shocked to see everyone around us had stripped off on arrival. Had to point out to OH that we were definitely overdressed and on going in for a swim we actually caught people staring at us whilst we tried not to look at them.
I saw more bare willies and boobs that morning than in the whole of the rest of my life. It will certainly bring a smile to my face every time I think about that holiday. Next holiday is to the arctic so not likely we'll have to worry about a repeat. grin
If we had exhibitionist neighbours I would simply pay a visit to the police.