Childish husband/grandparent

Thank you Aggie. He does love the grandchildren. Just is struggling with the school holidays taking up my attention. Whilst he sits at the computer all day. He is asked if he would like to join us on days out, but the reply is you go.

As others have said you need a full and frank discussion as to what you both want from retirement and how to apportion your time.

My husband is hands on when our grandchildren come to us, although he does stress there are limitations as to how often he wants to do child care, certainly not four days a week. He's had 4 children and has 5 grandchildren, although only 2 of each are ours together, undoubtedly family is a very important part of his life, but so is his hobby, golf, which he plays 3 times a week to keep fit, plus the male camaraderie sid of things. I think life is about balance ideally. Time for yourself, for each other and for family and friends, anything can become all encompassing whether it be a sport or looking after grandchildren. Grandparents have been through it all once, to have it again to almost the same degree, could be a bone of contention, not everyone wants to be a "professional grandparent".

Sulking is difficult to deal with though, especially from the grandparent

He might find out that he liked the GC

Perhaps he should simply involve himself with the GC and it could be a joint enterprise.

I agree with sodapop. You need to discuss what you each want from.retirement both separately and together and the both, if necessary, be willing to make a few compromises so that both your needs and expectations are met! That is, if you actually want to spend part of your retirement doing things with him....?

Sounds like a heart to heart chat is called for. Have either of you actually consulted each other on the way you want to spend your retirement. Compromise is called for, you are doing 4 days a week child care if you include your husband's family. Not sure how much time he spends going to football.
A reduction on both fronts maybe and arrange to do some of the things you both enjoy now you have free time. Sulking is difficult to deal with I know, happened to me for similar reasons, I called him on it and we had the mother of all rows but it cleared the air. We then talked and agreed compromises. Good luck.

I couldn't live with someone that needy .I like my own space so giving my (much loved) OH attention 24/7 is a definite no.If he doesn't want to be involved in childcare then tell him he needs to find other things to keep himself amused while you enjoy your time with them,and that he can sulk all he likes and it will make no difference to you