Granny day

I’m afraid I’m not takng the piss.

Mum’s not a well lady and that apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

I try not to talk about it because there’s nothing to be done about it.

Should have kept my comments to myself, sorry.

No thanks. All these special days are just for money in the coffers of the card manufacturers, florists, chocolate companies and restaurants. I get so weary of the commercialisation of Mother's Day, especially since they started some years ago producing cards saying Happy Mother's Day to my wife/aunt/grandmother/
daughter/sister/sister-in-law/best friend/cousins. Still, if people are daft enough to buy them.....

muffinthemoo: Am not sure I am actually reading this right? Surely you are taking the proverbial P? WHO exactly gives in to demands of hundreds of pounds worth of presents for Mother's Day? Bahaha..... Either you are being faceitious OR you are the 'secret' millionaire? lol. NOBODY ever pays hundreds on 3 mother's day presents otherwise. And also...why would they hate such a generous person anyway? LOL

My little chap slept with me last night (he's 3). As I got into bed he stroked my hair then put his arm round me. It's not the first treasured moment we've had as we've snuggled up, on a previous occasion we held hands. I don't need a card and gift, I'm celebrating being a granny every day

Bluebelle I am told what they (mother, grandmother) want and by god if I don’t pony it up there’s hell to pay.

But grandmother has one and a half feet in the grave and mother is getting worse and worse as she gets older, and I no longer have the energy to be involved with all that. DH tried to challenge mother about gift demands about ten years ago and it ended very badly.

He prefers me to just buy the things they’ve named, make a fairly brief visit to drop them off, and just have peace on the day itself.

DH expects me to spend the same amount on MIL so I do so.

It all adds up :-/ But what are you going to do, cut them off?

Hundreds of pounds to three people who hate me sounds very cryptic Muffin. How strange I never heard of anyone spending hundreds on a mother’s day card and gift
Why would you ?

Hundreds of pounds - crumbs, Muffin. What a generous mother you are.
In supporting the OP I was thinking of the many grans who live near their GC and spend enormous amounts of time with them and caring for them. I don’t think I could easily sign up for a quarter of what you all do even if any of mine lived nearer. Hats off from me

I'm a mother, wife,daughter, mother in law, sister and granny 365 days a year, I don't want to be wheeled into a pub at 12 o clock on a day dictated by the media/card sales for a prawn cocktail when I consider my responsibilities are necessary every day in some form, sometimes more needy than others but mostly given with joy and understanding and pure love while enjoying the family my husband and I have created

Mothers Day already costs me hundreds of pounds in gifts to three people who hate me to “keep the peace”.

I dread another reason for them to expect tribute, but if it catches on, I will just suck it up...

But with all good will, will Mothers Day not do?

It’s a no vote from me too.

I’m curious how it would even work, as many children have multiple grandmothers. Due to divorce I’m one of 3, my dgs also has a great grandmother. I’m assuming she would be included? It would be a nightmare for his parents trying to include us all.

I fear a granny’s day would inevitably lead to a thread on gransnet, with people looking for support because they feel hurt and let down that the day didn’t live up their expectations. I know I’m loved, a manufactured day means nothing. As others have said it’s ‘granny’s day’ every time I see my dgs, that’s more than enough for me.

A No from me too.

A No from me too - I couldn't cope with any more of these money raking days! My children (all adults) already send cards to my mother on Mother's day - "To a lovely grandma on Mother's day"...... So much so that when my brother and his wife sent her a card, she grumbled that she hadn't got one from their children (all still children)!!!! We all said "Its MOTHER'S day" You got them from all your children and half your grandchildren. Bahaha No thank you to any more days!!! Birthday's Christmas, Mother's, Fathers, even Teachers in some parts. Give us a break

I think these special days can be painful for people who don't qualify as mother, daughter, father etc.
My parents are dead. My DGS lives with me since his mother (my only child) passed away, his father deserted them before DGS was born. So neither of us have a father or mother.
I'd like to do away with all these commercialised days.

No thanks. I'm tired of this commercialism
It's Granny Day every Wednesday in our house - it's known as such; no one feels they have to provide a present or a card - just turn up.

Grannys' day is any day when I see my DGC, and as I have 1 DGC living with us at the moment, it's Grannys' day every day ?‍?

Didn’t know about 7 October, but there could be another perspective. Many sad posts on GN from neglected grannies; it could create an occasion for older grandchildren - able to send a card themselves - to make amends.
But then for the grannies with resident younger GC it might mean a return to slushy weetabix at the bedroom door at 6.30 (and the same weetabix brought back at 7.30 if they were told it was too early).

And it's a no from me too. I've always discouraged the commercialised version of mother's day.

7th October is grandparents day, I see it as a good day for Clintons and places that do carvery.

Mothering Sunday has nothing to do with mothers. It began way back in the sixteenth century when, on the fourth Sunday in Lent everyone went to their "mother church" for special services. Servants were given the day off to go back to their church, and usually celebrated with their families. This was the day for eating simnel cake.
But we digress. Grannyday sounds like fun, but I expect we'll have to make do with Mothering Sunday.

Absolutely not. We have banned all such days in our family. We love our mothers equally on every day, we love our fathers as much on a Monday as a Sunday.

Mothering Sunday (in the olden days) was a day when mothers were specially remembered at church and did not require the spending of any money whatsoever. The people who promote"xxx" day are the card manufacturers.

And its a no from me as well.

No from me too There’s too many of these days already I m not a fan just a money making project

Could you be bothered?
It would probably mean the grannies and grandads would either cook for the family or take them out. Cynical ? Moi?
It’s my mums birthday soon and we, the whole family are congregating in Hertfordshire for a bit of a do. Grandchildren too.
I think there’s enough really, but your family could have a special day if you’d like another one.
You aren’t a florist or card maker are you? ?? only joking.

No thank you ..
Just another day to have to go out pour money into allready wealthy pockets with cards and flowers and chocolate or a dinner out somewhere.
just an " i love you nana" each and every time I see my gc is suffice.

Surely, if you are a grannyvyou are also a mother and we already have a day for them