How much sleep do you get

Nonna

That killed me.
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My husband went to bed and fell asleep instantly and snored for years so we ended up in separate rooms - then he was diagnosed with sleep apnoea and given a C-Pap machine. Now he's quiet and probably gets better quality sleep but hates the machine especially 'Pipe' which has a personality all of it's own and often tries to strangle him during the night He's recently been given Amytriptaline for his sciatica but can't take 2 at bedtime as he has to drive an hour to work - one seems to be ok and possibly helps him sleep better.

We go to bed at 10 and I'm up at 5 - even if I don't have to wake him up for work at 5.45. I read for a few minutes when I get into bed then fall asleep. I usually have to get up to the loo at least once but often its my cat who wakes me up as she goes in her tray - this week she's had cystitis which has been horrendous and I've only had a couple of hours sleep. Even if we've been out and are late to bed I'm still awake at 5. I often start work when I get up if he's not working and have got loads done by 7am! When we were in the same room I slept very badly so separate rooms are a godsend!

I’m from the US and curious as to what DH means. Damn Husband? Sounds like it might be so. Love this group. My DH sleeps all night. I’m right with you gals - I’m lucky to get 5 hours sleep.

Apparently, many many decades ago, people used to go to bed until maybe 2-3am then get up and visit friends, family, neighbours and make love (or any permutation) They would then go back to bed and sleep for another few hours.
THAT is the true cycle of sleep. It comes in waves.
I can sleep for England and have no qualms or guilt about reading in the afternoon either outdoors in good weather or on the bed if too hot, with a fan on, windows open, shutters closed, waking up to find it's 5 or 6pm.
Still, that's one luxury of being retired.
Normally bed around 11pm, read, sleep and wake around 6-7am.
I do occasionally wake around 3am and make tea which I take back to bed. I also keep tabs on my sleeping and eating habits, BP, heart-rate, stress and oxygen levels via the Samsung Health app which is pre-loaded. I find it handy in that it keeps graphs of your health history.

Yes, holidays are a double edged sword! I have ear plugs, husband is instructed to use nasal spray, 2 pillows and those snoring strips. Sometimes it’s ok, but mostly it’s not. My gp will give me zopiclone for a week ( I suspect he has many others our age with the same problems), but when I’m still woken up with the snoring I get really pissed off as I refuse to take more! So we get a ‘junior siute’ when we can, costs less than 2 rooms, and he sleeps on the sofa bed in the living area. It’s not ideal, but I don’t want to give up holidays yet while we are still able bodied!

My DH snores louder than a jumbo jet taking off. After numerous operations to try and cure it he was given a C-pap machine. It’s amazing. He has always fallen asleep no matter where we were- cinema, trains and planes, in the pub. You name it, he’s snored in it. He cleared a campsite over night when we were camping in Northumberland. We went to bed surrounded by other tents and caravans and woke up to an empty field at 6am. Everyone around us left in the middle of the night due to his noise. That’s when he realised how loud his snoring really was. With the C-pap it’s now blissfully quiet. Now all I need is something to stop him falling asleep in public, that way I can take him to the cinema again

My sleep 'pattern' is very erratic., and I consider a good night's sleep if I get about 5 hours. What makes me cross is the medical 'experts' telling us that lack of sleep, or poor quality sleep, is bad for our health. We have no choice!

I go to bed at 10.00pm and am up again at 4.45am as I do a paper round for my village newsagen 7 days a week - the only day I have off is Christmas Day and of course holidays. I do need a little doze in the afternoon though.

I go to bed at 10.30 most nights and don’t have any screen time, iPads etc, except for the tv during the evening. Sleep like a log and if I am disturbed by him next to me dreaming he’s playing football and kicking his legs then in darkness I just move to the spare room. Other night he was dreaming he was trying to blow out the candles on his birthday cake! Takes somedoing when you are 70. Anyway any trips to Lloyd or spare room done in darkness and too flushing the loo. Works a treat.

Until three years ago I was getting up at 4.30 to get to work at 5.30..... Now I get to sleep about 12.30ish and wake at 3.30 on the dot..... then I sleep til daylight which at moment is 4.30 and that's it! Night over !! I'm as fit as a fiddle . Jump outa bed make a cuppa , go back to bed ...read for an hour.... go swimming at 7....come home at 8.30 and eat breakfast. My husband ( the laziest man ever born) is still sleeping. Forgot to mention while making tea at about 5 ish I also put a wash load on. It's done by the time I. Home from swimming and hung out by time hubby falls outa bed.I LOVE early mornings. Was brought up on them. I was that milk mans helper who woke you up at 5 or 6 every day before school rattling the old glass 'empties'.

Separate rooms, a Scandinavian crime drama on iPad, industrial earplugs and occasional meds which my gp is happy to give short term if I’m heading for a bout of depression/anxiety. I can actually function on far less sleep than I think I need, it’s just the ability to get away from the ‘washing machine head’ which we all need for our sanity.

So many women don't sleep! I'm always so shattered when I get into bed that I can barely read a couple of pages of my book before nodding off. DH lies awake for ages before he drops off and struggles to wake up in the morning after having at least 7 hours. I always need the loo in the night and can't go back to sleep as DH is either snoring or I'm just wide awake.
I'm now back on steroids which makes sleep even worse, I can now survive on 3 - 4 hours, whereas I was getting 5 - 6 before and didn't think that was enough.
We have a super king bed which helps as DH is very restless and when we go away we rent a two bed place so that I get decent sleep on holiday, unless in a hotel and then I go for the biggest bed I can find.
I long for more sleep!!

My bedtimes change seasonally. In winter I'm a 9 to 9 girl and summer is 1030 to 5 and straight out into the garden if weather alluring. The acquisition of an iPad made me see sense with the former. I don't sleep any differently. My body seems to have decided that a 5 hour solid bash is all I need and the remainder is fitful. Too scared to take medication and, happily, don't seem to need to. I do so appreciate the freedom retirement offers in this arena. God bless it!

I have suffered with increasingly severe insomnia for about three years on and off ... a friend sent me an article by Belle Mooney who also suffered with insomnia until it was suggested a course of Hypnotherapy May help and she tried it and it worked.... I’ve found an absolutely wonderful hypnotherapist local to me and I have had to learn how to relax and to practice doing so . I was a hyper vigilant child and have always lived on the edge of my nerves so this has helped me immensely and I am sleeping deeply now every night. I have to discipline myself to follow a programme of relaxation at bed time and not self sabotage it. This really is working for me. Give it a try. What have you got to lose?

I survive on my little sleep as I spend hours on my laptop or reading or watching tv and, if I go out, I often return after midnight. My motto is,,,,,,'I can get all the sleep I need when I'm in my coffin!'

Separate rooms are a blessing , he doesn’t wake me up with his snoring ( he’s in denial about that) and I don’t wake him up when I read until very late.

I haven't slept well for years. Mainly pain and stress/anxiety.
I use Valerian maybe once a week to get a good night (4 or 5 hours)
I do occasionally fall asleep on the sofa mid afternoon. I prefer not to do this as I always wake up in pain. I have just been prescribed pain patches. I'm hoping they'll help with night pain, I'll come back and let you know when I've collected them from the pharmacy.

There seems to be lots of people out there whose sleep is disturbed by the snoring of their partners/DHs. Why not simply sleep in separate rooms?? Ok, if you have just the one bedroom, I can understand the issue. But more than one boudoir....what's the issue?

I read about raisins helping you to sleep in a previous post
about night time visits to the loo. I didn't think it could possibly work but I tried it & it does work for me. I can now sleep at least 6 hours before having to visit the loo during the night. I can't remember who posted this advice but I thank you very much

I had my bladder removed a year ago following a diagnosis of bladder cancer so no more hourly loo trips throughout the night, silver linings, silver linings!!! I go to bed around 11.45 and am usually asleep by about 12.30 and wake up around 8 - 8.30 but have been known to sleep till 10!

I think all the items warning of the harm lack of sleep does to body and mind hasn't helped the non-sleepers (one more thing to lie there worrying about).

Every older couple I know where they sleep apart either often or all the time is based on her insomnia and his snoring. Why do older women sleep so badly/lightly/poorly? Just asking for a friend!

Why is it that the men sleep so much better than us ladies.

I am lucky if I get five hours a night. Usually wake between 5 and 6am. Very lucky if I’m able to drift back of again.

Luckily I don’t have to get up in the night for anything.
My drifting of time I usually between 12.30 -1am.
I think it’s because us ladies have so much more to do generally and of course bedtime is when I mull over thoughts and to do lists.
If I can’t sleep or wake early, I listen to LBc radio. All night talk programme.

It seems to be common with many of us.

Justalaugh. Sleep in another room

I have the reputation of being the one who sleeps most in our house. This is not strictly true, because DH gets up early, but sleeps in one stretch from he goes to bed until he gets up.

I sleep for a couple of hours, wake for a while then go back to sleep and can sleep later in the morning than DH.

I have adjusted my sleep pattern so it fits in with DHs - really I would prefer to go to bed at 3 a.m. and get up at 10 a.m. but around midnight to 7 a.m. fits better in our joint day.

To those of you who feel tired during the day because you don't sleep well: are you sure you are getting enough exercise during the day? I find if I don't that I can't sleep at night.