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Sorry but I am so sad

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oldbatty Wed 16-May-18 08:36:50

actually now I have read about all the awful things that have happened, I would urge you to find a kind and professional therapist to help find a way through.

oldbatty Wed 16-May-18 08:34:37

mmmm, its great to be caring and to care and for sure it help fill a void in us. Your sadness sounds perfectly normal.

I dont know your back story but have you considered seeing a therapist to talk through some of this and maybe rediscover yourself and a way forward?

Panache Wed 16-May-18 08:08:09

All very understandable Anniebach.

You are much as how I would describe my dear Foster mother,your life is made up of loving,caring,and nurturing other young folk..............such a wrench when they all eventually leave.
You find they no longer need you.A sadness developes.

Of course you are naturally happy for them as leave and make their own way in this big old world........but your nest is getting colder.... and empty ...........so you are allowed a quiet moan!

Time to fill the space with a few more of the doggie variety I say............there are many out there in search of a kindly home..............think about it.

I know you have your limitations with not being able to go "walkies"........ but I am sure there are others whom would be only too happy to do the deed..........if only I were within calling distance, I would be delighted to become your dog walker!

Think on Anniebach..........you have much to offer. PLEASE do not let it go to waste.

Squiffy Tue 15-May-18 23:39:56

Annie I'm not surprised you're feeling sad, you've gone through so much and must feel quite bereft - and so torn between being happy for them and sad for yourself. Keep posting on here, you're not moaning and, even if you were, it's perfectly OK, you're allowed!

Bathsheba Tue 15-May-18 23:04:06

Oh Annie that really is tough. You've been through some terrible times recently, lost more than anyone could reasonably expect to in such a short space of time. No wonder you feel so sad - anyone would. Please don't apologise for moaning again - we're all here to listen, to be your virtual shoulder to cry on, so moan your head off. And plan your visits to your granddaughters later in the year. flowers

cornergran Tue 15-May-18 22:56:01

Why wouldn’t you have sadness, annie? Be gentle with yourself. Of course you want your granddaughters to be happy, but it’s not wrong to also want them close to you. There’s been too much loss, please take care and do keep in touch, it’s not moaning to share your hurt.

Anniebach Tue 15-May-18 22:52:19

It’s just too many in a short time, really upset the little one going too, I am very close to her, but three sisters, a niece, my three grandchildren , two dogs and my beloved daughter dying and all in 17 months , only Lottie left .

gillybob Tue 15-May-18 22:47:45

Oh Annie I’m so sorry to hear that both your elder and youngest DGD’s are moving away. It’s not selfish at all to be sad that you won’t have them close by although I’m sure they will both visit often. Is it not possible at all that once they’re settled you couldn’t visit them once in a while? You have had too much sadness and upset recently . Thinking of you Annie xx

Luckygirl Tue 15-May-18 22:46:52

Oh that is so hard Annie - my heart goes out to you. Please moan away and do not apologise. It is a tough time for you. flowers

Izabella Tue 15-May-18 22:25:34

Part of loving is having to let go. Grief is love having nowhere to go ........ ?

Anniebach Tue 15-May-18 22:13:00

Elder granddaughter preparing to move to the West Country in June. Today the youngest, my precious little one viewed an apartment with her boyfriend 60 miles to the north. I am happy for them but selfishly unhappy for me. The first time in my life there will be no one to care for hands on. Helped with my three younger sisters and brother, then married and had my darling daughters, plus seven nephews and two nieces, now ? No one , first time in my life no family near me. I didn’t think the two granddaughters would leave here the same time. I will be so lost. Sorry to moan yet again.