How would you react to an unsolicited compliment ?

Blimey...... “should’ve gone to Specsavers” Jane10

And if there had been a handsome waiter, would you have complimented him too, or would you have kept quiet in case he was gay, took it as an advance, and waylaid you when you visited the gents? You see, a woman receiving an unexpected compliment from a strange man always has at the back (or front) of her mind that it could soon be followed by a more physical expression of appreciation.

I don't think it would bother me much, wobs, but clearly it would some people.

Why was the lady's attractiveness more important than her politeness or friendliness or her efficiency in doing the job she was doing? Did you want to comment on those aspects too?

Finally, was MrsWobs with you at the time?

Ohh thanks Eglantine21, I didn’t know Wobbilybits was a man. In that case, I would be wary of an unsolicited compliment.

I think you're gorgeous gillybob!
Elegran is right as usual about Wobbly. He was very kind and supportive to me when I was upset and worried once. Cut him some slack people!

Well I can’t see a problem with the OP which seems a genuine question . (The bra thread was surely just a light hearted joke and not rude/dirty at all).

I can’t take compliments of any kind, ever . Not even from those I know and love. Having said that I’m not in the least bit attractive so wouldn’t get them anyway.

I think attractive people know that are and are probably used to being told so.

Wobblybits You have been posting under this name and your previous one long enough that (unless we have joined since you took your last sabbatical) we should know that you are actually a nice bloke. It is just that you can't restrain your impulse to add a bit of oomph to a sometimes rather staid mostly-female forum by posting something naughty. I wish you could, because mostly you add a welcome male perspective to conversations, but I am afraid you must have a death wish!

I remember this gentleman in a previous incarnation, when he was suffering severely with depression. I too suffered a similar fate and his kind posts and supportive messages were a great help to me.

I know that incessant sexual innuendo can be tedious, but let's cut him a bit of slack. That is not the whole of who he is.

jane oh yes, he’s checking with us. His other thread was asking what women keep in their bras..........

I sense a desire to post on a (mainly) female website with inappropriate threads, he’s probably sitting giggling somewhere like a naughty schoolboy.

He should grow up and go to back to his shed.

Awww give him a chance everyone! At least he's checking with us.
For my part if anyone offered me a compliment I'd be deeply suspicious but that's because I've never had any before and most certainly don't expect any now!

Is this the viagra talking?

FarNorth, if you meet up with family or close friends and a man you know well, feel emotionally and physically at ease with says something like " Great to see you again, your'e looking well" , that's friendly and appropriate. If you're a 'mature lady' serving someone in a cafe and the man makes personal comments about your appearance, that is entirely inappropriate.
Wobbly bits - the name says it all.

Aren't compliments usually unsolicited?

I would find it a bit smarmy, to be honest.

You can @asa woman and in some circumstances, admire an item of clothing or jewellery on another woman, but not man to woman unless you are close friends.
Why?
It is just not done. I would certainly feel uncomfortable and personal remarks or compliments are simply not appropriate in the workplace. At best they are patronising (“ You look very pretty today my dear” ? ) at worst suggestive and inappropriate.
I am glad you thought better of it.

Sorry Bridgeit, I was asking the OP. I'm fed up with men who have an over inflated idea of themselves!

Not something I would welcome I'm afraid.
On the other hand, as my job involves me working with the general public, I always appreciate any relevant compliments involving my work.

To be honest if that lady has ever seen your posts on here, she would be avoiding you like the plague.

And your
unsolicited compliment would have been??

I support and agree with MOnica’s comment.
If I take the OP at face value, accept his response to MOnica that his OP was a serious question, my response is -
I don’t like personal comments from men I don’t know.
The OP itself set my teeth on edge.

Am I missing something?

you thought twice and didn’t say anything, good move.

Served us? Hopefully not you and your OH.

Wobbly if any personal comments had been made to me, complimentary or otherwise, whilst I was at work (as that lady was), I'd have been deeply embarrassed. In fact, I'd have avoided your table for the duration of your stay. Please don't do it.

Depends which scale of comparison, compared to a ferret, I’m not too bad I suppose,but perhaps not to ferret lovers!?

How attractive are you?