Irritating grandchildren

I have 4 grandsons and one granddaughter. She is beautiful and very clever. BUT, she annoys her brother so much and does it because she gets away with it. Now he is older he gives her two warnings then shoves her out of his room if she keeps on. I know they will stand up for each other if anyone outside the family attacks them, but at the moment it is hard not to interfere. My OH says he and his sister were exactly the same so not to worry. They were closer as they grew older.

My youngest grandson who is 2 wants 100% of my attention when I go to my daughters house at the moment. If I try to talk to her he is 'granny, granny, granny' until I answer him. It drives me mad because as much as I love the little horror, he is so loud and full of energy. He used to be so quiet and cuddly! He is also going through the stage of hating it when you say 'no' to him and is constantly trying to push the barriers back. Hopefully it won't last too much longer lol. But in saying that, they grow up far too fast nowadays.

There's an awful lot of door banging and screaming (You don't like me / You never do anything for me) going on with 2 of my gd's. They are 9 and nearly 6 and have 2 older brothers. 11 and 14 who are delightful if somewhat Kevin-like. What amazes and worries me is their parents just let them do it. Now, if they were mine .......... I find it very difficult to keep my lip zipped. My DD would never have got away with that type of behaviour. The younger one is treated as a baby by the whole family and gets away with murder. Thank heavens she has just started school; hopefully she will become less feral. I find her a very difficult child to like which is sad.

I also recognise that baby "cutesy" voice at least with one 7 yr old GD but I think it's her way of getting attention away from her older brother. None of ours have reached the terrible teens yet, so this earlier puberty some describe sounds scary. We should get 10 years of teenage GC!

The doctor at the hospital last week, who looked about 18, talked to my DH as if he were a helpless baby. Now that did irritate me but it was very likely best practice.

Looks like you have a few more years of babytalk to look forward to, watermeadow.

The outsize toddler I complained of in my original post is six. Please don’t tell me about any more fourteen year olds still acting like babies!

I love my grandchildren, all now adults but there were times when I found them wearing as I did my children. I used to feel guilty about this but realise now that not every woman is overly maternal. I have great relationships with them now apart from the eye rolling and sighs when I ask for help with technology ?

My eldest GS will be 12 in April and behaves like the 4 year old twins. Gets ratty at them when they "cheat" at games, -
they don't they play as a 4 yr old does with little interest in the rules, and the two of them thoroughly enjoy themselves until he comes along and starts acting the idiot. Sadly he is home educated and so you cannot get them without him. Yes I do offer to have him without them but then he feels he will be missing out on something at home....

My grandson made me a coffee and bought it to me in bed this morning.

We have 4 out of 5 grandchildren staying, 2nd youngest 9 has thrown a right strop re which bed she's sleeping in tonight, eldest 11 speaks with a baby voice one minute and as though I'm stupid the next. Just when I was ready to scream they all came and put a little show on for us to say thanks for letting us stay as other grandparents have never let them stay over ever.

Just tell her. Even with 2 sets of grandparents children understand the way of life between different parts of the family. Different behaviour is acceptable with different people. We probably all change, with different people, a little bit ourselves if we’re honest.

My own view is that it’s never too late to have a happy childhood - my daughter tutted and rolled her eyes, but I had a great water fight with DGSs!

GD1, now a responsible adult of 26, was appalling at 11. Gloomy, moody, monosyllabic and very attached to a white fleece top which her uncle, DS2, had worn as a member of the Stockport Youth Hockey team, some years previously. It was almost impossible to get it off her! Four years later, she was my companion on shopping trips, advised me on what to wear - or not - and held my arm when we crossed the road. I love her dearly.

I dislike the way they treat my daughter like a maid. They seem to be expected to contribute nothing to the running of the home, (granddaughters aged 10and 8). Often won’t cooperate about getting dressed etc.

But very touched when I was told that the elder girl couldn’t think of anything she wanted to do with £1 pocket money other than buy Grandma a small box of chocolates. Grandma had one, the others shared round the family! How nice is that!

I find girls between 10 to around 14 particularly irritating the gymnastics around the living room the baby voice and worse than ever the condescending I know better than you attitude give me a boisterous football mad GS any day

Its good for buffing the laminate too!

Kids these days don't do nearly enough rolling about on the floor. They are processing thoughts and developing their imaginations. Time doing nothing but roll about on the floor is actually very productive for them.

I love the GC dearly and always know where they are - or where they have been - by just following the trail of detritus they leave behind them!!! Drives me nuts but at least I know where they are!!!

I love my grandchildren - warts and all!

I remember being told off for speaking a babyish voice when I was a child - it's nothing new!

Though I have to say, I do find the way some young women today talk in a high-pitched 'little girly' voice rather irritating.

Re boys and girls, my oldest granddaughter is the whirlwind in the family. She never stops and is loud and unmissable!

Good point, and one I suppose I hadn't considered, sarahellenwhitney.
I shall try and remember it when I feel frazzled.

Enjoy your GC while you can as you never know what’s going to happen in the future. My 2 oldest ones became estranged from all our side of the family after my DS left their mother, who brain-washed them into how DS had “let them down” because when the marriage ended they had to move out of the 4-bed detached.

I wondered what wading was saggi
Girls act more boisterously when in a group, but are quieter than boys when on their own.
Our young DGC allow us to wrap them up warmly but the teenager won’t even contemplate a scarf or gloves.
So I guess we do irritate them.?

Our granddaughter went through the silly voice stage. My husband pulled her up on talking like a baby. She replied "what you need to remember grandad, is that baby in on your side". Point taken!

I remember my eldest granddaughter (now 20) being a delight while her younger sister was a complete nightmare as she never sat down or did anything quietly. At 16 and not living near us she's now very quiet and more likely to be engrossed in her laptop/phone than wanting a conversation with us. My little grandsons live on the other side of the world but were here for 6 weeks and we'd forgotten how boisterous boys are - especially the 2 year old. However by the time they went home they were very used to us and our first FaceTime on Sat was completely different to before they came - they actually took notice of us and had more to say. My SIL's little grandson at 5 is a typical boy and always targets my husband when we see him - I don't know what it is about him (husband) but he seems to have a knack of winding small children up so they hurl themselves at him and jump about on him