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grandmaz Fri 02-Feb-18 09:55:15

Thank you so much MissAdventure, Christinefrance, bella2, Iam64 and of course dear watermeadow who started this thread...your comforting words and kind thoughts mean so much. As I am alone here I can cry without holding back...it's so exhausting though. I do a little voluntary work on a Friday afternoon so I shall go there this afternoon for a couple of hours, at least it will be a small distraction, keeping busy, till I get home, anyway. This really has knocked me sideways and I thought that, given Larry's age, I had prepared myself, if only a little, over recent months...but I clearly hadn't. My daughter had a wonderful pet portrait of him made, from a very recent photograph, as a Christmas present last year. I have that to treasure, plus a little bit of his hair, till his ashes are returned. Stupidly I have kept his teddy on his bed in the vain hope that somehow I shall find it all messed up, as was his habit, however of course, it remains untouched. Thank you again for your comments my friends...and to those of us who find ourselves sailing in the same boat, hugs and deepest heartfelt sympathy.flowers

Iam64 Thu 01-Feb-18 21:31:54

Sincere condolences xx

bella2 Thu 01-Feb-18 21:21:38

Even now I think of our dog who we lost several years ago. The first week after losing her was awful, even now I can tear up when I think of her. I just had to cry when I needed to, often in the shower where I could do it in private. So my sympathies to you for your loss.

Christinefrance Thu 01-Feb-18 21:14:52

So sorry watermeadow & grandmaz it's so hard to say goodbye to our pets. At least you both know they were well loved and cared for.
Hugs and flowers

watermeadow Thu 01-Feb-18 18:38:04

Heartfelt sympathy to everyone else who has lost their darling recently.
I’d only had Alice for three and a half years, I missed her first seven years so feel cheated of the extra time I’d hoped for. My house is silent and empty but I have got a cat still.
I adored Alice and know that she was totally devoted to me. Every loved pet knows we love them.
I told the vet that I’m only going to heaven if our pets go too.

MissAdventure Thu 01-Feb-18 14:10:28

Ah, I'm sorry, grandmaz.
Its so awful losing a pet: you feel so responsible if you've decided to let them go.
I shall think of Larry when I light a candle in a minute.

grandmaz Thu 01-Feb-18 14:03:52

I'm so very sorry for your loss Watermeadow, Fennel and all of you who have recently lost your beloved friends. I had to have my lovely old boy Larry PTS on Tuesday and I am in bits. He was my sweet and loving companion for nearly twelve years... got him from the Blue Cross when he was about three, so he would have been fifteen this June. He was deaf from birth, but the gentlest and kindest of dogs. I miss him so much - it was just him and me... the flat is now so empty and my heart has a huge Larry shaped hole in it. I held and stroked his head whilst the injection was given and tried to keep eye contact until he lost consciousness and wasn't with me any more. It was hearttbreaking and I keep replaying that final minute or so in my head, hoping and praying that I did the right thing for him and that he knew how much I loved him.

Lisalou Fri 26-Jan-18 22:15:30

I am so sorry Watermeadow, losing one of our furry family members is so hard. I have two cats and two dogs, the lab is 13, the cats are 18 and 14, leaving only one little dog who is not ancient! I dread the day when I have to say good bye to any one of them and have been preparing myself mentally for some time to the fact that they wont live forever.

farview Fri 26-Jan-18 17:03:19

Oh Watermeadowmy heart breaks for you,went through the same a couple of months ago(thread our Molly on pets) I do still cry most days,it takes a long time and we have to grieve! Will be thinking about you and sending a hug ?

Fennel Fri 26-Jan-18 16:42:51

It's a difficult time, Watermeadow. Our own little sweetheart left us last week, aged 15, but definititely showing signs of dementia and anxiety/unhappiness.
They're only given to us for a short time.
Maggie - same here.

SueDonim Fri 26-Jan-18 15:41:28

I'm so sorry. flowers

BeeGran Fri 26-Jan-18 15:40:22

I know the feeling Watermeadow. You have my heartfelt sympathy. Hope things get easier for you xx

MaggieMay60 Fri 26-Jan-18 15:25:33

I am so sorry for you Watermeadow, I know how hard it is when you lose a pet. I had a springer/collie cross and we had to take him to be put to sleep and although he is has been gone for over 8 years now I still well up when I think about him... especially when I took him to the vet and he believed he was going for a walk as we put him in the car... I can still see his face.... better stop now as I am in bits!

Cherrytree59 Fri 26-Jan-18 15:13:41

Watermeadow so sorry our pets bring so much joy to our lives, but when they are gone they leave a big empty hole.

I still have our little dogs biscuit jar with a little paw print design. I can't bear to part with it.
She would look up with her big brown eyes and hold up a paw.
That meant it was now biscuit time.
Now the memory makes me smile.
I hope that one day you will smile at the lovely memories of the time spent with your dear friend.flowers

WilmaKnickersfit Fri 26-Jan-18 15:02:14

watermeadow I'm so sorry to hear about your little dog. It's heart breaking when we lose our little companions who are like our family too. flowers

Anniebach Fri 26-Jan-18 14:52:55

I am so sorry, one of mine died last October , they leave such a gap in our lives x

Alima Fri 26-Jan-18 14:41:20

I am so sorry watermeadow. I understand how you are grieving for her, they leave such a huge hole in your heart. Take care.

Kittye Fri 26-Jan-18 14:34:06

Oh watermeadow really feel sad for you. I had to have my little dog put to sleep last May. It's devastating! I feel tearful just typing this. What makes it worse for me is when people say " at least you have two other dogs so it's not so bad"
She was a little being in her own right and I miss her so much. Don't know what else to say. Hope things get easier for you flowers

Notagranyet12 Fri 26-Jan-18 14:25:23

That is really sad. They become so part of the family, especially difficult if you live on your own. I'm going to be devastated when I lose mine.....so sorry to hear that.

Crafting Fri 26-Jan-18 14:11:32

So sorry watermeadow. Anyone who has lost a beloved pet will know just how you feel. Take comfort in knowing you gave your dog a lovely home and comfort. flowers

hildajenniJ Fri 26-Jan-18 14:07:28

I'm so sorry watermeadow. I've been through exactly the same thing recently. It's been a month now, and I still well up at times, usually quite unexpectedly. I took my little old lady to be put to sleep on 27th December as she was lethargic and not eating. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Our dog groomer put a lovely tribute on her Facebook page, I read it and cried buckets!
It will get easier, this I know, but it's really no consolation. ??

watermeadow Fri 26-Jan-18 13:56:57

I’ve got cards, flowers in every room, thoughtful little gifts and chocolates, invitations from kind friends.
What I haven’t got is my beloved little dog, who was put gently to sleep on Wednesday. I can’t stop crying for her.