How do you define someone as being posh?

I'm 'out and out U'. These things depend on how you were brought up, though. I never heard pudding being called anything but pudding until I was an adult, for instance.

Though in all honesty, I don't have much time for whether people are posh or not. It's what they're like as human beings that's important to me.

I call pudding 'afters'.

We obviously had an extremely egalitarian builder since our bungalow is laid out in such a way that we have neither a front room or a back room! I think that if anyone is bothered about being posh then they clearly are not - whatever it all means anyway?!

Where do you sit, synonymous?

I`m apparently as common as muck! Which I already knew, of course.

My sister is posh but I am not. She has a four bed house with a sitting room & dining room in a leafy modern private estate, plays golf, goes to dance class, is very involved with the History group and does lots of charitable work. She is tall and slim, spends lots of time and money at the hairdressers, has a brand new car every 2 years, a huge pension(She was a senior civil servant), shops at Sainsburys, has a gardener and lunches with friends a couple of times a week.

I have an ancient 2 bed cottage, we eat in the kitchen or on trays in front of the huge TV in the living room, shop at Aldi, I tend our huge garden growing masses of fruit and veg, making jam etc. I am short and dumpy, buy clothes in Charity shops and make do and mend, our car is a 5 year old Berlingo. Having worked mainly in the voluntary sector I have no works pension. Neither has DH who was self employed. I am a political activist. I get my hair cut at the barbers when I accompany DH there.

The thing is Big Sister was always POSH. My friends at school used to remark how posh she was compared to me. she even sounded posh, while I had the local accent. BS was a prefect in an immaculate school uniform with braid. I was a year behind at school so I got the blazer with the braid unpicked. Teachers, Grandparents and My Mum were always saying - 'why can't you be more like your sister?

I love my BS dearly and would not change a thing about her, though I wish she would stop telling me what I should do to improve myself. Nor do I envy her, I would rather be me. All I am trying to say is that it is not wealth or possessions or life style that makes you posh or not. Some people just are POSH and others, like me, are Common.

I once heard posh desribed as if your bookcase is bigger than your TV ....in which case I was posh until I gave a couple of thousand books to the local school after their library burned down.Now our TV is definately bigger than our bookcase though smaller than our cd collection ..woner what that means ?

You must be going downhill, paddy

My Nan used to tell me that whistling is common: "A whistling woman, a cackling hen, is neither good for God nor men".
My mum forbade us to ever arrange to meet our friends on a particular street corner, as that was common. We weren't allowed to wear 'jelly' shoes, or navy blue knickers either. Too common!

Oh! I've put my 'common' in the 'posh' thread by accident!

Well, I don't agree with that quiz because apparently I'm definitely middle class!

"Locally sourced", "bicycle lane", "it's pronounced keen-wah": sound familiar? That's cause you're a fully fledged member of the middle classes.

There's no way I'm anything but working class.

What's the U people have posted about?

I can't think of anything that defines 'posh' for me. Now and again I might say something is posh, but I don't think I think about the people I know or meet as posh.

I've got a feeling that some of the things that might be called posh I think of as affectations.

There's some things I do differently in different circumstances, but that's more about good manners and treating guests with respect than anything to do with being posh. You know, use side plates or your best crockery and cutlery.

Of course I put sauce bottles on the table, but we only eat at the table if we've got visitors.

I have just done that quiz. Oh, dear!

Always say Front room too never had a lounge or sitting room they do sound posh ? it’s what you grow up with isn’t it ?

What quiz ?

^Posh is having napkin rings (and using them).*

Not at all sure why you all want to judge other people but if you are judging yourselves this is very middle-class!

"Posh", if you mean what used to be seen as upper-class, would not need a napkin ring because you would know you would have a clean linen napkin at each meal.

I was told that only the middle classes had napkin rings. Posh folk had servants who laid the table with freshly laundered linen napkins for every meal. The common folk didn't use napkins except on special occasions when they used paper napkins. Common folk trying to impress will refer to their paper napkins as "serviettes".

A lounge is only found in a pub, hotel or airport, not in a home ( unless you're trying to be Hyacinth Bucket).

I echo that about napkin rings. Prince Charles was given some once, and he didn’t know what they were. If you’re posh you don’t have them. Same goes for sauce bottles.

I did the quiz and am apparently U, but. I couldn’t answer some of the questions properly. I don’t call my friends any of those things. I call them friends.

I do use the word ‘posh’, but only ironically.

I'm U too!

It's a weird quiz though as lots of my answers were choosing the nearest thing. For instance, we don't like asparagus but I do know how you should eat it.

I use China mugs but we have a lounge. We have a dining room but mostly eat in the kitchen, we use serviettes because it's more ecologically sound and therefore we have serviette rings.

When we have the grandchildren here we put their sauce in little bowls for them to 'dip' into.

It's all a bit of fun really - which is what Kate said at the beginning

I’m an out and out ‘U’. I think it was the kitchen question that did for me. I said the must have was an aga. I’m temporarily staying in a house that has one, and it’s fabulous, darling.

How should one eat asparagus, kitty? Do tell so I can ramp up my poshness rating! ?

(not that I'll change the way I do eat it but it'll be nice to know ?; one of those insignificant little things that might be useful in a quiz)

Granny23 you sound lovely ! I hope your posh sister appreciates you .

Many years ago, my DSs ex girlfriend went home and said we were posh because we used a gravy boat.
Apparently her mum went and bought one!

Well I took the quiz twice, answering the questions the same the first time I was middle the second time I was common as muck however it’s a daft quiz as a lot of the question don’t actually have my answer
But I m working class not common and I don’t know any men that wear red trousers what’s that got to do with the price of bread I don’t use serviettes I use kitchen roll or on guests appearances paper napkins I live in a front room and as for the birthday cake I ve never been in a Sainsbury’s so it d probably be Asda for me as I don’t think Lidl do them ? none of those drinks were what I would chose so I had to go for the least unlikely ... load of tosh actually

Nouveau riche people who ostentatiously flaunt their cash are not posh.People who are used to being posh are always understated. I still can't bring myself to put a milk or sauce bottle on the table having had it drummed into me that this was 'not done' .
If you have kitchen supper and not tea you are posh!!
Not sure where all that leaves me eating from a tray in the 'lounge'