How do you define someone as being posh?

Always say Front room too never had a lounge or sitting room they do sound posh ? it’s what you grow up with isn’t it ?

I have just done that quiz. Oh, dear!

I've got a feeling that some of the things that might be called posh I think of as affectations.

There's some things I do differently in different circumstances, but that's more about good manners and treating guests with respect than anything to do with being posh. You know, use side plates or your best crockery and cutlery.

Of course I put sauce bottles on the table, but we only eat at the table if we've got visitors.

Well, I don't agree with that quiz because apparently I'm definitely middle class!

"Locally sourced", "bicycle lane", "it's pronounced keen-wah": sound familiar? That's cause you're a fully fledged member of the middle classes.

There's no way I'm anything but working class.

What's the U people have posted about?

I can't think of anything that defines 'posh' for me. Now and again I might say something is posh, but I don't think I think about the people I know or meet as posh.

Oh! I've put my 'common' in the 'posh' thread by accident!

My Nan used to tell me that whistling is common: "A whistling woman, a cackling hen, is neither good for God nor men".
My mum forbade us to ever arrange to meet our friends on a particular street corner, as that was common. We weren't allowed to wear 'jelly' shoes, or navy blue knickers either. Too common!

You must be going downhill, paddy

I once heard posh desribed as if your bookcase is bigger than your TV ....in which case I was posh until I gave a couple of thousand books to the local school after their library burned down.Now our TV is definately bigger than our bookcase though smaller than our cd collection ..woner what that means ?

My sister is posh but I am not. She has a four bed house with a sitting room & dining room in a leafy modern private estate, plays golf, goes to dance class, is very involved with the History group and does lots of charitable work. She is tall and slim, spends lots of time and money at the hairdressers, has a brand new car every 2 years, a huge pension(She was a senior civil servant), shops at Sainsburys, has a gardener and lunches with friends a couple of times a week.

I have an ancient 2 bed cottage, we eat in the kitchen or on trays in front of the huge TV in the living room, shop at Aldi, I tend our huge garden growing masses of fruit and veg, making jam etc. I am short and dumpy, buy clothes in Charity shops and make do and mend, our car is a 5 year old Berlingo. Having worked mainly in the voluntary sector I have no works pension. Neither has DH who was self employed. I am a political activist. I get my hair cut at the barbers when I accompany DH there.

The thing is Big Sister was always POSH. My friends at school used to remark how posh she was compared to me. she even sounded posh, while I had the local accent. BS was a prefect in an immaculate school uniform with braid. I was a year behind at school so I got the blazer with the braid unpicked. Teachers, Grandparents and My Mum were always saying - 'why can't you be more like your sister?

I love my BS dearly and would not change a thing about her, though I wish she would stop telling me what I should do to improve myself. Nor do I envy her, I would rather be me. All I am trying to say is that it is not wealth or possessions or life style that makes you posh or not. Some people just are POSH and others, like me, are Common.

I`m apparently as common as muck! Which I already knew, of course.

Where do you sit, synonymous?

We obviously had an extremely egalitarian builder since our bungalow is laid out in such a way that we have neither a front room or a back room! I think that if anyone is bothered about being posh then they clearly are not - whatever it all means anyway?!

I call pudding 'afters'.

I'm 'out and out U'. These things depend on how you were brought up, though. I never heard pudding being called anything but pudding until I was an adult, for instance.

Though in all honesty, I don't have much time for whether people are posh or not. It's what they're like as human beings that's important to me.

Front room for me. The alternative here in Essex is 'laange'

We say sitting room.

I've always said front room. Not sure why, as we haven't a back one.

Posh is having napkin rings (and using them).

I dont like snobs ,of any variety .Book snobs who only own up to reading serious literature or biographies,wine snobs who dismiss supermarket wine as rubbish,people who look down their noses at council housing estates .I used to be friendly with a couple who slated a previous dinner guest for bringing Lambrusco to a dinner party ...reverse snobbery is just as bad though mawbroon I hate "lounge" instead of living room though I think thats just what I grew up calling it

Oh, apparently I'm and out and out U as well (even though I had to look that up to check it was good, not bad, and I still haven't a clue what the first question meant). Good job sauce bottles didn't come into it.

Who puts bottles of sauce on the table? Me!

I haven't done the quiz yet, but I do say loo and pudding. Though one of my in-laws told my great niece off for saying loo and said it was ever so common. Then she asked where she'd heard it.....

Lunch or dinner, tea or supper, toilet or lavatory, lounge or drawing room whether it or not you use the word “posh”
It is impossible for an Englishman to open his mouth without making some other Englishman hate or despise him," wrote George Bernard Shaw

Well, according to the quiz is if you call the lav the loo or say pudding instead of dessert.

I grew up thinking that 'dessert' was posh and pudding was apple crumble and custard that your Mum made on Sundays, but apparently it's the other way round.

If I had an Aga I would probably be even posher

Well I wouldn’t eat a roll with my dinner and if I did I d put it on the side of my plate why dirty another one ha and of course you put sauce bottles on the table where else... the floor?

I agree with you old meg that the term has no place in today’s society. It’s usually used as an insult, a manifestation of the inverse snobbery which is just as bad as the ordinary kind.
That’s from a self-confessed matching-bra-and-knickers woman.