Soop's warm and welcoming kitchen...

ann, as we have a community transport scheme in Poynton, staffed by volunteers, I thought there might be something similar in Stockport.
www.stockportcarscheme.org.uk/
They might be willing to take you to and from the hospital as it's difficult for you to use public transport. Worth asking.
xxx

Sending love ann, the improvement is a positive, now sleeep well, you’ve done all you can today.

ann do hope your DH gets a bed soon. The improvement in continence sounds hopeful. Hope you sleep better tonight.
Maw hattie looks so cosy on her bed. I'm glad she allows you to share it with her. [ grin] Hope you feel better soon

That should have read “UTIs are a BGR to deal with”

Oh dear annsixty I remember how hospitals do prefer patients with continence issues to wear hospital gowns (obvious really) but I used to insist Paw wore a pj jacket and he had his big thick dressing gown to wear when sitting out in a chair, sometimes just round his shoulders. We set a lot of store by trying to keep up appearances, shaving etc and when he was too ill to bother, I knew he was really ill. UTIscare a bar to deal with but it sounds as if the ab’s are beginning to take effect, so fingers crossed.
Now do try to get a good night’s sleep.

Only visited once today, still tired though.
H was sitting in the chair by his bed, well slumped and nearly falling out.
Just a gown, no socks or slippers, he was very cold. GD and I sorted him, staffing was really bad, a woman with MH problems was kicking off, 2 nurses were sitting with her, staff nurse ringing everywhere for help. Even tried security who said they were too busy.
H decided he needed the loo, at least an advance on yesterday, eventually a commode was brought, he had to wait for ages until staff came from elsewhere, he cannot move at all unaided.
When he had "performed" he had to sit there for at least 10 mins again for reinforcements from another ward. It was not the fault of the staff at all.
When I got chance to see the nurse about the ward round she reiterated they are still trying to get him onto a ward.
The bed manager knows about his situation, oh yeah?
Physio will not try to get him mobile until he is on a ward.
However she told me there is no way he can come home until help is in place for me, yeah!!
He must be more mobile and they realise I cannot cope without help, so things do go on in the background that we don't realise.
He is obviously on his way to continence which is good even if it takes time.
He is still on IV fluids.
I feel progress is being made but I cannot see home home yet.

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No one wants to go on a luxury cruise next xmas so I’m going to have to try to cope on my own!

Ann I’m glad there’s someone on the ward seeing your dh as a real person not just a patient and caring for him with kindness and respect. You’ll be weary as well as worried with it all, not to mention your own achy bits. I hope you’re able to pace yourself a bit to avoid getting completely worn out yourself. None of us want to sound like we’re nagging you, just concerned that you’re looked after too.
maw I think Hattie has realised that for this week her role in life is to make sure you rest properly. She doesn’t look set to move any time soon!
soop your self restraint around sweet goodies is admirable indeed, that'll be why you look so slim and elegant and I’m just wee and dumpy! I don’t know where your sunshine has vanished to, but it certainly hasn’t come my way. Perishing cold and wet in these parts. I hope you’re having better weather for your removal fennel. Our rather awkward neighbours along with their multiple vehicles and myriad of cats moved last week, there’s no sign of the new owners yet I’m hoping they will be pleasant and easier to get along and just 1 cat would be fine!
n&g your grannying duties sound full on this week, how many little boys all at once?? You’re supergran personified. I smiled at the thought of you “parking” grampy on your shopping expedition mostly cos I do the same does he come into his own when it’s boys stuff?
I bought some rather nice cheese today so I'm off to open a nice bottle of red and hunker down for the evening. We have 2 little girls arriving early tomorrow to spend the day with us so we’d best not get too carried away!

corner Sad to say that the sunshine has vanished big time. Never mind, I've no complaints.

I hope to be able to spend a little more time with you lot tomorrow. It's been a rushy day. Cannot seem to catch up with myself...

Thinking of all our Granspals who are having a tough time. It would be joy to hear that ann's husband is rallying.

Bye for now.

So envious of your sunshine soop, it’s been falling down all day here, Littlest was happy playing with anything and everything. He’s gone home so I’m having a sit down before re-building our home.

Mr C is struggling, stuck neck again, he did far too much today and so is scowling at the world as he’s in pain. Physio tomorrow, I so hope it helps.

I’m sorry you’re so worried and exhausted ann, I do agree the fact that the HCA is so thoughtful is a real positive. Others are right, please do let your family help, I’m sure they will want to. Hoping for better news when you are able to update us.

Good luck with the move fennel, your worries are understandable but may come to nothing.

You’ve done all you can morethan, enjoy those dream eggs.

Hope you’re staying in and not having to venture out maw, Hattie looks oh so comfortable, please keep resting together.

Right, onwards to reclaim our home. Take care everyone.

Look after yourself Ann60, he is in a safe place and you don't want to end up in there too!

anno that's sound advice.

I appear not to be the only one putting in a special word for Hattie. Bless her paddy paws.

N&G Your shopping expedition was obviously a triumph. Enjoy your time spent with the boys. Maybe take a photo to make us lot

The ironing session took the energy from my inner battery. I'm knackered. Hey ho! MacSporran is making a [brew and because it's Valentine's day ^I treat myself to a calorie rich shortbread biscuit with Belgian choc bits in it. I know how to live dangerously.

Someone mentioned a blue badge, ann. Does your H have one so that he can be transported in your DS's car? You might be eligible for a bb, as you have had a knee replacement and are having a lot of hip pain. I think they might have forms at the library. AgeUK would have them.

Maw Remember please - it is Hattie's home - you are her lodger. Continue to take good care of yourself.

morethan If I could, I would give you an enormous bouquet of beautiful flowers. Well done!

fennel It's beautiful hereabouts. There is a hearty wind ablowing but the sun is shining and it is dry. You are in my thoughts. Please update us lot when you have the time.

Cherrytree59 Your wise words are spot on.

Understandable, it’s a way of keeping going isn’t it?
I just got cross at the monumental amounts we were paying out for transport (£100+ to London) and £3.50 per hour parking at our local hospital that I thought every little helps.

I’ve asked her that question Maw she’s very reticent and keeps her feelings very close to her chest. I only really find out how she feels when she reaches breaking point. She’s reluctant to ask for anything. It took her a year before she agreed to let the MacMillan nurse help her apply for a blue badge. It does make it very difficult for the rest of us including my son. That’s the way she wants to handle it, so we all go along with it. Pretending that there’s nothing wrong.

Just wanted to add my best wishes to ann at this very stressful time. I do hope you see some improvement in your dear H's condition. Thinking of you and sending hugs and .

Just a thought though morethan don’t hospitals waive charges for cancer patients these days?
We used to benefit when Paw had haematology appointments which were held in the MacMillan Centre and they stamped the ticket at the desk.

Home from hospital with DiL. Trying to keep three children happy for three hours while waiting for mummy was hard work( she has a weekly parking ticket annsixty much much cheaper as Maw advised) now back home with cup of tea, Cadbury’s creme egg watching ice skating. No children! Fabulous. Take care all.

Ann and Maw, thinking of you both and hoping things improve soon.

Ann, I agree, everything seems better than your first post 0 but still not good. You must be very worried and your poor Dh quite confused. Please let the family help. Let us know how you get on today. You know we are all thinking of you.

Have you enquired about transport from people like Age Uk and RVS? You might have to pay but the cost is minimal (possibly 40p per mile?) and the driver will ring you to organise exact arrangements and then either wait or return to take you home. There might also be community transport available which works similarly.

Maw you spoil that dog.

Off to do the school run - naturally, it's pickling it down!!!

She has taken up residence on my new duvet set from Laura Ashley and is showing no signs of moving off!
If I move (I am still in bed, feeling v feeble still) she just gives a little grunt and snuggles down all the more!

Maw it is Hattie's house!!!

I have bought a new duvet cover and pillow case for Tara's single bed!