Not looking my best

As a keen walker I frequently end up in coffee shops looking bedraggled and muddy.
One time a friend phoned to ask me to meet her after my walk for a coffee in the Harvey Nichols cafe...perhaps a different venue I suggested as I already had mud up to my knees and several miles still to go. We met in Cafe Nero and her first words were..oh my, you weren't joking about the mud!

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Enjoy your walking and don't care what the snobs think. You are probably happier and healthy than them.

Ha ha! I would have done exactly the same, childish as it may be.

Think I might have given the impression about to leave and then sit down again saying perhaps another coffee would be lovely. Then take of my coat and spread myself around a bit.
How dare they treat you like that!!

Your money was the same colour as theirs, was it not! I can't understand why your husband didn't have a seat though. I would have said to them,' You may have wanted this table but, I'm afraid, you were not here first but you are welcome to take the remaining two chairs.' They may have moved the chairs and sat elsewhere then. If the women kept giving me filthy looks, I would have said,' Yes, can I help you with anything?'

Well I think you’re all very childish - and thank goodness! I’d have done exactly the same! The whole post has made me smile - let’s hear it for those who stand/sit their ground against rude bullies!

Was it Hyacinth Bucket and a friend?

Good for you Tippy I would have done the same, self entitled snooty cows ?
If their old enough to be on gransnet I do hope their reading all this ??

Good for you for staying put!!! Congrats to your husband too for being a gentleman and allowing a woman (def not a lady) to have his seat.

You made smile I would have done the same as you. Your money is the same as theirs. So you have same rights to sit at that table.

Good for you Tippy
Very gallant of your DH though I thought.
Nobody has a right to an unreserved table.

I would definitely have spun it out, smiling happily at the lady giving dirty looks. I hope you remain as quick on your feet Tippy.

I would of taken my walking boots off and given my feet a good rub ............[laughing]

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I have tried to add a conversation on here several times but it has not been posted so hers goes again! I divorced 2.5 years ago after 40 years of marriage. My x had moved in with another women within 3 months and got married last year less than 2 years after Divorce. My children who are 40 and 38 now have a step mum not much older than themselves and two step brother not much older than their own children. My x has told my children that nothing was going on before we split up despite the fact that he changed our will 9 years ago in case “either of us remarried” I was stupid enough to completly trust my x on all financial stuff not knowing what he was doing behind my back. I took the Divorce really badly and since then I have been diagnosed with Boderline personality disorder. This I am sure effected my marriage and now my children don’t talk to me at a time when I needed them the most, I did some awful things which was not nice for them to see but I was desperate I now don’t see them or my 3 grandchildren. I have tried to keep in touch but they ignor any communication this was the 2nd Christmas not seeing them. I am very sad my Grandaughtet writes to me and tells ms how much she is missing me and can she see me but of course if I’d upto my daughter and it doesn’t happen. My daughter has told her I am not well.

You are having a bad time, maggie273, but there are others who have had similar experiences and will support you. This conversation is about something else, so you would be better posting your story in the section at www.gransnet.com/forums/relationships Follow that link to that page, and then select "Start a new thread" and repeat what you have posted here. Best wishes.

Well done you. You did the right thing. X

Wonder if they had as good a day as you did out in the fresh air.

As long as you weren't that dreadful woman who rushes past everybody else and nabs a table just as others are walking towards it! Surely not!

Haha. That's how I met my future husband in the seventies. We were in a crowded pub, a table became available and two groups of us ran to get it. He was in the other group and ended up sitting beside me. The rest is history.

Well done you. 'Stay sat sitting' that's what I say. If the hotel was OK with you being there that's just fine. Your money is as good as anybody else's.

Good for you ! Personally I would have ordered another one coffee at least ...or a pot ! and maybe lunch !

Ha, ha 123Kitty no I was not that person. In fact the table was near to the outside door so I was surprised anybody else would want to sit there.

I had a similar situation when I pulled up in a small car park to drop off my daughter who lived in an adjoining property. As I was about to pull away, a woman motorist started shouting abuse at me. Apparently, she was late! I pointed out to her that had she kept her mouth shut, she would have been on her way! With this, I turned off the engine and got out of the vehicle. "Are you going to hit me?" she asked for some stupid reason (intelligence not being her strong point!). "No!" I said, "I'm going to waste your time!" and with that, I delayed her for a few more minutes. I really love upsetting rude people.

You must always stand your ground calmly but assertively so that pushy people get put in their place !

Oh well done Tippy for standing your ground. So what if you were wearing an old anorak and tatty trainers ? You and your husband had every right to sit at that table. How dare they expect you to vacate for them. They may have been dressed up, but they obviously need to brush up on their manners as they are obviously lacking in that area. Rude to say the least.