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grannyactivist Sun 24-Dec-17 13:36:06

I love the community spirit in my town! We have a very well attended community Christmas Day lunch that 70 people will attend and many more will be there as volunteers. Because some people don't like to be with too many others a local cafe is also opening up over the lunchtime period for drop-ins who can have free tea/coffee/cake/mince pies and either chat with others or keep themselves to themselves. This week the local food bank has delivered 66 hampers full of goodies including Christmas gifts alongside food and vouchers for fresh meat. The homeless charity has received lots of donations and individuals we're working with have been given gifts and cards by strangers.
What's happening in your village/town/city?

grannysue05 Sun 24-Dec-17 13:49:38

My GS's scout/cub group have opened up a drop in centre and a soup kitchen in the local church hall.
All homeless people and/or people with no family to go to will be going for companionship and a decent meal.
Everyone associated with scouts will be taking in mince pies, cakes, and fresh fruit as well as cheeses and pies.
The group has managed to provide hot dinners for the next three days, including, tomorrow, a traditional turkey meal.
All helpers are on a rota basis, and it is always so very much appreciated by the guests.
The true spirit of the season is alive and kicking in my town.

durhamjen Sun 24-Dec-17 13:53:41

skwawkbox.org/2017/12/24/in-the-bleak-midwinter-the-harsh-realities-of-a-grenfell-xmas/

grannyactivist Sun 24-Dec-17 14:29:42

And yet dj the real spirit of Christmas is here too:
www.romfordrecorder.co.uk/news/romford-relief-worker-delivers-christmas-gifts-to-grenfell-fire-families-1-5330816

www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/volunteers-wrap-dozens-of-gifts-for-children-affected-by-grenfell-a3725421.html

Anniebach Sun 24-Dec-17 14:34:36

There are homeless and bereaved all around the country

grannyactivist Sun 24-Dec-17 21:25:20

Yes Annie it's the sad truth that there are, but I am genuinely heartened by the goodwill that is so evident at this time of the year. I do sometimes wish that it could last longer than it does, but I'm happy that people are motivated to do good.

Anniebach Sun 24-Dec-17 22:06:03

I agree grannyactivist, all around the country, in towns and villages people are reaching out to the vunerable , as you said - the true spirit of Christmas

Elrel Mon 25-Dec-17 10:16:25

In the church of St John Evangelist up the road under the ??are gifts. Socks, toothpaste and toothbrushes for the homeless, to be distributed at Westminster Cathedral. So little can mean so much.

kittylester Mon 25-Dec-17 10:20:57

And there is lots of goodwill here on GN.

Anniebach Mon 25-Dec-17 10:33:49

There is a difference between being homeless and being roofless.

radicalnan Mon 25-Dec-17 11:22:24

I have been organising Christmas time events for many years and given up this year, I was so disappointed last year whenm 250 given a free slap up meal and presents were less than grateful. Several complaints were made about 'underdone carrots' and presents were returned as 'not what they wanted', there were far too many helpers vying for space and booking to 'do it again' as it is on a par with a panto to make them feel good.

Charities are proliferating problems, it is a sad truth.

I still do bit of helping when I can but gone for me, are the times when I think doing something at Christmas helps anyone but the helpers.

The real Christmas spirit has to be there all year round or it isn't real at all.

Anniebach Mon 25-Dec-17 12:16:36

Sorry but unfair and unkind to those who give support over Christmas . And criticism of charities ? Take those who visit the house bound every week throughout the year they are not needed. Those who train dogs for the blind. Mind who give much support for those with mental health problems. The cinnamon trust who walk dogs for the elderly. Shelter who give advise to those with housing problems .

So you didn't get the gratitude you thought you deserved? Tough, helping people with a need for gratitude isn't helping people it is a selfish need .

petra Mon 25-Dec-17 12:33:08

Anniebach
In defence of Radicalnans post, I understand and agree with what she's saying. It's almost become a virtual signalling at xmas to volunteer.
I've volunteered with many people that I never see again when they realise the realities of working with the homeless and people with mental health issues.

Anniebach Mon 25-Dec-17 13:04:25

Sorry Petra but I thought it unkind. Most of all the complaint of lack of gratitude . Being on the receiving end of good deeds day in and out has an effect .

I worked over many Christmases and throughout the year. Christmas was hard work and help was needed, I didn't care if it was a case of virtual signalling, I could not have prepared all that veg on my own .

MaryXYX Mon 25-Dec-17 16:54:29

I had Christmas lunch at an event run by the Food Bank. They catered for 400 people who had nowhere else to go. There were several other similar events that I know about.

Hipsy Mon 25-Dec-17 17:13:15

That's breathtaking Mary 400 people with nowhere to go?
What happens to them on every other day of the year?
I am genuinely amazed at such a figure.

Elrel Mon 25-Dec-17 17:23:23

Radnan - would you rather they kept unwanted gifts and expressed fake delight? Just like we do in real life!
Some of us undercook the veg for family meals too - it happens. Do want the guests to lie that it was all perfect?!
Lighten up - it’s Christmas!!

MaryXYX Tue 26-Dec-17 10:48:01

Hipsy: That doesn't mean homeless, although some were. Most are people like me who have somewhere to live but would otherwise be sitting at home alone. This was just one of several such events in Oxford, although probably the largest.

NanaNancy Tue 26-Dec-17 20:19:16

The reality is that those of us able to give of our time and other support such as hard cold cash, should do so year round. However, if there is a Christmas bell that rings for so many to give, then give. Many gifts extend into the year.

And, since I am here, let me ask you all to consider what I find a very unrepresented volunteer segment; the elderly especially those of low income. I don't think I am being petty when I see all the glossy advertising for the big "diseases" and for children, pets (too much), international care etc etc. Ask yourself when you saw any campaign aimed at helping the elderly.

Low income elderly women have been over the last 20 years a significantly growing number in society. Divorce in part has lead to additional impoverishment of this segment as well as the increase in length of life.

As one, who volunteers to serves the elderly, I ask you all to consider what you can do. Aging is the one things we all hope to share. We for the most part do not know if we will have the means to support ourselves as the future is not clear. None of the low income elderly I know ever imagined themselves needing support. They worked and contributed.

This new year, add to your resolutions to help. All year round.

durhamjen Sat 30-Dec-17 10:57:33

NanaNancy, I came to this site through AgeUK.

Here's a way that those in power can help the homeless.

www.theguardian.com/business/2017/dec/30/a-fraction-of-persimmon-bosss-110m-bonus-could-house-all-homeless-of-york

Give up their bonuses, or even just part of it.... I wait with bated breath for a positive response from the chief executive.

durhamjen Sat 30-Dec-17 17:09:18

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2017/dec/29/council-apologises-as-grenfell-households-miss-out-on-extra-cash

I bet nobody involved in handing out the money went short over Christmas.
It's time Kensington and Chelsea started being proactive.