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grandMattie Sun 10-Sept-17 14:51:17

Having just changed the loo roll for the umpteenth time, it made me wonder why it was always my turn to do so?
It's also my turn to wash the saucepans - DH's domain is "his" dishwasher; I'm not allowed to load it as I do it "wrong"!
But it is also my turn to fold the clean towels, etc. We are both retired. OK he does the bill paying but it is not relentless day to day stuff.
Whinge over! grin

Imperfect27 Mon 11-Sept-17 09:07:17

Well OP, I think our husbands must be twins! I do wonder if it is a male thing NOT to change the loo-roll???

lemongrove Mon 11-Sept-17 09:04:44

Mawbroon smile

MawBroon Mon 11-Sept-17 08:53:07

If I am one of those being encouraged to "come out of the gloom" grandmattie may I say that I enjoy reading and contributing to lighthearted posts as much as anybody.
What I did not appreciate (and I promise I will not go banging on about it this is the last time I will try to clear this up) was being slapped down with a "got out of the wrong side of bed?" when all I had said was that you /we should "choose your battles" and to quote one of my mum's favourite sayings when one of us children used to bleat about size of cake/relative bedtime/pocket money, namely " nobody promised you life would be fair"
My subsequent remarks were a reaction to the apparent put down as I attempted to explain in my post of 16.25
I see I was not alone in my advice about "battles" (*christinefrance*) but there you go -perhaps I should indeed "choose my battles" but I am not some sort of Eeyore who needs "cheering" up or indeed patronising.
I will indeed look forward to further lighthearted and amusing threads.
End of.

lemongrove Mon 11-Sept-17 08:38:09

The lighter threads certainly keep me going grandMattie

grandMattie Mon 11-Sept-17 08:36:25

Thank you all for your encouraging comments. As one said, it is a shame that jokey posts are taken so seriously.
I appreciate that some posters have very difficult lives, but perhaps they should be ncouraged to occasionally come out of the gloom into the sunshine and enjoy a few minutes of lighthearted fun.

merlotgran Sun 10-Sept-17 23:20:10

I remember the days when light hearted threads about family members who seemed to think 'pulling their weight' meant lifting a can of a refreshing beverage out of the fridge would be met with similar replies and much humour.

What on earth is happening to Gransnet?

lemongrove Sun 10-Sept-17 22:53:31

Or indeed a laundry fairy, it goes into the laundry bin dirty and appears in the drawer and wardrobe, washed dried pressed and folded as if by magic.??

Cherrytree59 Sun 10-Sept-17 20:17:10

I think my first thread on GN asked if I was the only GNer who had a
'Toilet roll fairy' living in their house.smile

CherryHatrick Sun 10-Sept-17 19:13:31

I have been following a thread on another forum with a similar theme; OP said that DH had offered to help her carry in the shopping. He picked up a pack of toilet rolls, dropped them in the hall outside the bathroom door and wandered off to do something else in the garden. OP wasn't sure which was the more annoying, that he didn't give her any more help, or that he couldn't be bothered to put the toilet rolls away in the bathroom. She decided to leave the pack where it was to see if he would put the pack away later. He didn't, although he walked past it a couple of times to use the bathroom. OP stuck to her guns, left the pack there all week, cleaned round it, even removed a couple of rolls when the need arose, but her DH never once commented. Her daughter arrived at the weekend, walked in, saw the pack, picked it up and put it away in the bathroom cupboard. OP was quite disappointed that her little experiment had come to an untimely end, and we readers missed our daily updates, so the saga is now ongoing; when her DH leaves something in an inappropriate place, it is left there, and becomes "the item of interest" until he moves it. If he should ask if she has seen his "item of interest" anywhere, the answer is "No dear."

Izzywizzy Sun 10-Sept-17 18:37:41

Sorry MawBroon

Izzywizzy Sun 10-Sept-17 18:37:04

Rude in what way MawBoon ??

lemongrove Sun 10-Sept-17 18:29:43

To be fair to grandmattie it wasn't a whinge, just a light hearted remark about typical male/female jobs around the home.
Mr L likes to stack the dishwasher ( his way) and yes, It's me that changes the loo rolls.
Jobs that men usually quite like to do: Hoovering ( it's a gadget) putting the wheelie bins out, cooking on a barbecue,
Changing lightbulbs, fiddling with the boiler controls.
Everything else, down to moi! ?

MawBroon Sun 10-Sept-17 18:24:51

Or indeed izzywizzy being rude to someone just because they do not share your opinion hmm

Eglantine19 Sun 10-Sept-17 18:19:48

I'm widowed and I always have to change the toilet roll -or not, mostly I just leave it on the cistern. I didn't mind your post Grandmattie ?

Izzywizzy Sun 10-Sept-17 18:03:35

If you don't find a post interesting then 'move on'. I never understand why some gransnetters feel the need to respond to a post by being rude to someone who's just trying to be witty.
Of course there are bigger issues in the world and they are covered in other threads.
Thankfully some threads are lighthearted ,like this one.

MawBroon Sun 10-Sept-17 17:49:36

And HOW MANY you get in a box of six these days?
Only half a dozen shock

petra Sun 10-Sept-17 17:23:08

I think we've reached an all time low in conversation when people are discussing who's turn it is to change the toilet roll, I have no words.
Has anyone seen the price of eggs in Tescos shock

maryeliza54 Sun 10-Sept-17 17:21:44

I really don't like this attitude that criticises posters for not knowing what's going on in someone's life - not everyone wants to share personal details and moreover, all sorts of threads wouldn't be started but if we had to always think about how it might upset someone else. Could you post about your holiday and what went wrong when others can't afford even a meal out? This is 'chat' not an unkind post on the relationships forum ( of which actually I see plenty). Cherry got it right I think

MawBroon Sun 10-Sept-17 17:00:33

Oh ad in the nicest possible way, grandmattie, save your sympathy, I was not taking anything out on anybody.

MawBroon Sun 10-Sept-17 16:59:02

Thank you charleygirl and others (there is still fun to be had!) but my response was not to Grandmattie's "whinge - to which she is entitled - just don't expect everybody to nod in sympathy. A contrary opinion or just because I do not pepper my response with grin s and smile s does not mean I have got out of the wrong side of bed.

grandMattie Sun 10-Sept-17 16:58:10

Thank you charlie but I think I shall lurk for the moment.

I am sorry for maws problems, but they really aren't my fault and it isn't very kind of her to take it out on me.

MawBroon Sun 10-Sept-17 16:53:54

Not meant to nasty eloethan just stating a fact, namely that life ain't fair (and nobody ever promised us it would be)
So don't anybody accuse ME of getting out of the wrong side of bed because I dare to suggest there are bigger issues to stress over.
You could equally ask any of the thousands who have lost their homes,their possessions even their families recently in the US, in Mexico, in Bihar and think again about the relative importance of loo rolls, clean towels, or saucepans and other First World problems.

Charleygirl Sun 10-Sept-17 16:48:16

grandMattie may I say that you have no idea what is going on in Maw's at present. Life is certainly not easy for her and will become increasingly difficult as the months go by. She is possibly beyond the stage of having any fun at present.

grandMattie Sun 10-Sept-17 16:43:35

Mawbroom - you have no idea what is going on in my own life. It is a bit presumptuous of you to assume I live in a gilded cage...
What is wrong with a little levity, some jokes and fun. Surely it makes a difficult life a little easier?

chicken Sun 10-Sept-17 16:42:07

I always look out for posts from Maw. She's the voice of moderation and good sense!