Noisy kids

BlueBelle...there are limits to what we have to put up with. Kids these days have taken up "screeching" and not the normal "shouting" that we did in our youth....most are ill mannered because they're parents are! I avoid children where possible. I have to attend a wedding this weekend where I know there will be quite a few...I have armed myself with table games for them to play. I will hand them over and then retreat without anybody noticing!

I don't mind noise but the lack of respect does for me. My friend who often wants to take me out with her and her kids, well, the way they speak to her 'you are an idiot mum' or 'drunk,drunk,drunk all the time mum' and they fight non stop...........my kids had to sit still (more or less) in the car and shut up while I was driving......they were not allowed to go through my hand bag looking for treats, fight over my phone and so on (not sure I had a phone back then) but no one DARED go into my bag.

We did play i spy games and sing songs but this constant screaming, fighting and what my mother called 'smacking and dabbing' was not allowed

I did not respond to bullying either, demands for MacDonalds or else...........would have been 'or else'and plenty of it.

And, I did the smacking and dabbing on the rare occasions it was required.

Before my grandchildren came along I found other people's children intolerable. Now I can withstand any noise they make. It is just what you get used to. We're going on a family holiday to Tenerife. Six adults and four grandchildren. Bring it on.

I think there's a time and place to make a lot of noise...and in the hallway bouncing a ball off the wall and in the back of the car isn't, in my view, included in that. I would also find it very trying...infact do..so you're not alone there. The trouble is, younger people do seem to be around noise all the time-it's just their lifestyle-and so they don't notice it at much. When you're used to being in a quiet environment as many people are naturally, as they get older, it becomes very noticeable. I think it's a shame that they can't value peace and quiet sometimes but I guess we can't change the way if the world. I just say nothing unless it's a total extreme-and decline invitations if I really don't feel like it...and accept plenty of others when I do.

My three are very outdoorsy children. They go stir crazy if they are stuck inside for very long. We've had quite a bit of rain these last few weeks (lovely for 2 days now so shhhhh) but I have been putting their wellies and raincoats on and going out on the beach anyway. You can only get so wet then it doesn't matter. Then they are able to run and scream and shout and not bother a soul. On Tuesday we went to the BMX park on their bikes. It was lashing down and they had the whole place to themselves. A bit slippy but apparently all the more fun. I love to hear them having fun.

There's a thought to hold onto BB ?

Oh dear poor kids we moan if they sit in their bedrooms we moan if they are on their phones, we moan if they play loudly it sounds as if they may have been boys and 13 year old boys have masses of energy and are still totally daft (until they re about 24 if you're lucky) you don't like the Mums talking and chatting in the car so to be honest I think if you are so uncomfortable with the kids and the Mums probably best not to go, than to go and be miserable and uncomfortable
When my three kids were young teens I had a 90 year old living next to me one day I said to her do tell me if the kids annoy you with too much noise I ve never forgotten her wise words she said. 'My dear I love hearing their noise I know I m still alive'

Ignore the boisterous behaviour and the noise will tune itself out, or, as Eglantine says you'll just get used to it. Better than sitting at home in lonely but peaceful splendour - you can do that when you get back home; and you'll enjoy it all the more.

A lot of children seem to run around screaming at the tops of their voices these days, but you would think the 13 year olds had passed that stage happydais wouldn't you?
It sounds horrendous.
can you and your DD go shopping together once the DGC are back at school?

It's what you get used to. I was a teacher for 35 years so I find that I just tune children out! Music though that's another thing. Anything with a insistent beat really gets on my nerves!

There is absolutely nothing worse than healthy boisterous children playing! Enjoy your peace at home!

The fact that there was going to be 3 children of those ages would of been enough for me to decline that particular trip, kids make noise when they play/enjoy themselves and like you my toleration levels to noise are not what they were.

I'm sorry your trip was spoiled but I'm sure your daughter thought you would enjoy spending time away. Maybe stick to trips with just your own family members in future.