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An equal way to share the father of the bride's roles at a wedding?

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MarionHalcombe Tue 08-Aug-17 23:51:30

The aisle isn't wide enough for more than two Paddyann or that would have been an ideal solution.

I think the usher role is for someone good at chatting and even though he's older he isn't a confident sort, bless him. It also means that he wouldn't be in the car with his sister.

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paddyann Tue 08-Aug-17 23:45:42

stepdad could go in the car with her and BOTH brothers take her down the aisle ,anything goes at weddings now ,Whatever she decides have a fantastic day,it all goes far too fast after all the time organising..so just enjoy every minute

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Coolgran65 Tue 08-Aug-17 23:41:49

I don't think Usher is such a minor role. He is Meeter and Greeter, the first official face of the Wedding Party. There not just to direct guests but to make them feel welcome, tell the guests how happy the family is that they are sharing the day.

No need to worry about not knowing all of the guests, just ask how they know the couple etc exchange a few words, make everyone glad to be there and look forward to the rest of the day. (Especially as most men would rather be anywhere rather than at a wedding).

A very important and worthwhile task. Could just make the day for some guest(s) who perhaps feel they don't really know anyone.

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MarionHalcombe Tue 08-Aug-17 23:11:20

Dd gets married next year, she has a step dad of 13 years, 2 younger brothers (24 yrs and 21 yrs) and a son who will be three. Her dad has been dead 3 years, but we're not sure he would have attended if he had been alive.

She is trying to share the roles out between the three men and have them all equally involved. She has asked dh to do the speech as neither son would be comfortable speaking in public and has asked her 21 year old brother to walk her up the aisle. The elder brother will be in the car with them but after that becomes a bit of a spare part. He could be a witness but that seems a ' hidden' role and they don't want to do a father/daughter dance. It's been suggested that he could be an usher, but once again it's a minor role.

Neither dd nor I fancied the idea of me walking her up the aisle, I'm doing one of the readings.

All suggestions gratefully received. Thanks

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