Holidays... not for me I'm happy at home

We used to like to visit different places each year, but nowadays prefer either to holiday in this country for a few days or occasionally in Winter, a week or two at a favourite/familiar place abroad where it's a little warmer. Favourite and familiar places because then we don't feel the need to dash around sightseeing. We can relax. We find going away makes us appreciate it all the more when we get home.

It's like Jane Austen said - 'One half of the world can never understand the pleasures of the other.' I think she was talking men and women, though!

The sort of people who are always off somewhere, and planning the next trip in between, will often, I'm afraid, think people who are happy at home, or frankly CBA with all the faff of packing/airports, are a bit weird or boring. But as another poster said, some people are over fond of telling others what they ought to enjoy. There should be no 'ought' in enjoyment!

We have done a lot of travelling in the past, and I'm just not bothered now, but will still go sometimes because Dh is still keen, and I do still like warm sea now and then! However I have not felt at all bad for saying I don't want to go on certain trips with him - e.g. to see far flung relatives I don't, or barely, know, or to visit WW1 battlefields. He was quite happy to go on his own, though.

We once had a holiday at home, going out after breakfast, visiting local places we enjoyed and then going home late afternoon, getting changed and going out to eat at nice pubs and restaurants.
It was such a change and so relaxing and we slept in our own bed.
House work kept to minimum so it was like being away.
However I still would like a holiday in the sun, sitting on a balcony somewhere after a good meal with a bottle of wine and putting the world to rights until the early hours.
A pipe dream now of course, I am always in bed by 9:30pm.

You said it Tegan! I think I am still nervous of flying what with suicidal pilots, malfunctions AND terrorists but now I'm nervous about being in tourist sites. I know that's what the terrorists want but these attacks on the street are virtually unstoppable once they happen hence we're being warned to think of escape routes wherever we are. I even found myself pondering in Paddington station recently and thinking that a bomb would bring the glass roof down. I also find everywhere so crowded these days I have begun to think travel is such a hassle why would anyone bother. Each to their own indeed. I just wish we had better weather!

There's a whole world that I want to visit but I don't want to leave the dog, I haven't got the money, and, quite frankly, I'm now scared. Was only talking to DD tonight and we both said we're no longer scared of flying but scared of something dreadful happening when we're there. It's lovely where we are now in Northumberland, but I miss the mental stimulation of travelling to other countries; seeing new places. My achey bones also want to lie on a beach and soak up some sun.

It also depends on your definition of a holiday. In my impecunious youth, unable to afford a holiday away from home. I planned a home based holiday.

I lived in a bedsit in Chalk Farm so I got a good London Guide book and planned a holiday sight-seeing around London, avoiding visiting any of the big famous attractions. I spent a day in Hampstead, within walking distance of my bedsit and visited the poet, Keats, house, Fenton House (NT) and Kenwood. Another day I went to south London and Dulwich Art Gallery and the Horniman Museum, and so the week progressed. I also went to the prom concert every evening as I had bought a season ticket.

I really got to know London and its suburbs and visited so many small less well known sites. It was one of the most enjoyable holidays I have ever had.

I go to France with children and grandchildren twice a year. Ferry crossing and short drive other side and no airports. I have been abroad flying, I like planes just not queuing to get on one. I've had several holidays with a best friend in this country and enjoy it just as much ,we usually go by coach which is less stressful than driving ourselves. We also go and stay with each other. She lives in Wales I live in the SE. I love spending time alone in my flat and doing as I like but I do enjoy a holiday as well. Going self catering in a cottage as we do means taking lots of magazines and books to read and my knitting so I can relax in peace with the grandchildren.

paddyann why do u care what other people think or say, ignore them and continue doing wat makes U n DH happy

We have had a holiday home in France for over 25 years. It is in Normandy so easily accessed by ferry, so most of our 'holidays' are there. The six hour ferry journey (we loathe the fast ferries) is wonderfully relaxing at the start and finish, especially if we treat ourselves to a meal in the serviced restaurant.

DH's work has always involved lots of air travel and as airports and air travel have gradually become such deeply unpleasant experiences, guaranteed to ruin any holiday before it starts and/or as it finishes, we have taken to train-based holidays.

We have had two such holidays in recent years, one to northern Spain and the other to Switzerland. At lunch time today we were reading an advert for a train holiday to Vienna and Prague and considering it for next year.

I am just back from a bus trip , 5 days in Gorey near Dublin , I loved it . It was organised by our Seniors Club and we all had a terrific time , lovely food , no washing up . Great room , no cleaning . Beautiful scenery , knowledgeable guide and good company , we chatted and relaxed . Time to ourselves when we wanted , some people did their own thing , others stayed close , recharged the batteries for another year , what's not to like ?

Love to travel and have new experiences and will do so until I am not able. However in the words of the song ; it's very nice to go travelling but it's so much nicer to come home. '

They can't be enjoying it that much if they are trying to force you to join them. It always amuses me when family & friends try to validate their own choices by insisting that everyone else will ' love it' &. must 'try it' .. . I always think it comes across as being a bit needy , perhaps I am being a bit harsh , but I just don't get it , even worse when the photos come out & you have to politely listen to the running commentary!

I'm no longer bothered, either, although I do still love a bit of warm sea once a year. Have done loads of travelling in the past, inc. plenty of the far flung and exotic, and we also,lived in the Gulf for many years. Dh still often has itchy feet and has been on a few trips on his own, but mainly his own relatives across the pond, and Ww1/2 battlefields. We are both happy for him to go on his tod, we're not one of those couples who have to do everything together all the time.

One reason I've gone off it is that I don't sleep well nowadays, so I HATE being cooped up in hotel rooms, with nowhere to escape to. Short breaks close to home, pref. by car, self catering with a spare room where I can listen to the radio at 3 a m, suit me fine. I do find airports a complete PITA nowadays - funny how I used to think they were so exciting!
Whoever said, LEAVE ME ALONE!! - I feel just the same about the odd friend/relative who thinks I 'ought' to be dying to do a tour of Vietnam/China/you name it. I've seen loads of Indonesia and Singapore - Dh was based in both for a while - that'll do for the Far East, and we 'did' Thailand/Malaysia, years ago. Even if I won a free trip I just don't think I could be bothered any more.
OTOH I still have a yen for lots of places in the U.K. we've never yet made it to. A few days, just jump in the car and go, lovely.

When we lived in Cornwall we didn't have holidays, a) we couldn't afford them and b) who needs a holiday if you live in Cornwall! When we left Cornwall we were in a position to go to Italy 2 or 3 times a year, but now DH is too ill to travel and even days out aren't happening. I do miss Italy.

Another one here who hates holidays but my husband would love to go away. We went to NZ 2 years ago but it was a very quick 2 week trip and as we were visiting our new grandson who was only 6 weeks old it was taken up with his needs and that of his 2 year old brother so we didn't do any sightseeing. Its very difficult for me to take time off work too as there is no one else to do it so even if we've had a week off I've still worked early morning or late at night to keep up. Then there are our two cats and no one to look after them so that's always been a problem - we've put them in the cattery but it's not ideal. We did go to Florida 3 years ago but that was a works trip so I was in meetings for 3 days while my poor husband had to just amuse himself although we did then have a few more days free. I'm just a home bird I guess

I love it. We have spent the last 12 winters in SE Asia travelling for 3 or 4 months at a time. Now when we go we spend less time travelling and tend to base ourselves in Cambodia and Laos where we now have strong connections. I love it when we come back at the end of Feb and I cook my first meal, light the fire and put on the telly. We have the odd few days away during the rest of the year, usually in Wales and loads of days out. We have friends who are always telling us to get a motor home but that is my idea of hell. We are all different, my love of travel stems from childhood as a forces kid, always on the move. Do what you enjoy is my motto

We love being at home pottering, it suits us to have short breaks by the east coast. We are thought of as odd/tight! But I'm ok with that
We have been abroad in the past & the pyramids are definitely on my bucket list, just when I'm not sure

We're all so different, aren't we? I'm firmly in the tourist camp. We just love going away, as often as possible and particularly to places we've never seen before. We haven't done beach holidays since the kids were small, and would only choose to cruise if it's somewhere difficult to get round, like Alaska. We've never hankered to lavish money on the house - it's comfy and we have everything we need, but our kitchen is the one we took over when we moved in 30+ years ago and I'm more than happy about that. It seems to come back into fashion every five years anyway! I'd sooner have the lovely memories of travelling by train across Canada, sailing down the Mississippi, exploring all those places in New York and San Francisco we recognised from films we've seen, etc, etc, etc. I even enjoy the planning and the travel, once we're actually on the plane or the train (or even the bus!) and on our way, preferably with a glass of wine in hand. In fact, I don't even mind the airport, once we're through security, because it's a great place for people watching. My dad was the same and my mum a home bird, which was hard for him as they didn't travel at all in their early years. His dad's proud boast was that he'd never slept a night away from his own bed and never wanted to. I couldn't ever imagine that, but each to their own. I'd never try to persuade anyone to travel who didn't want to - it's lovely these days to find somewhere that's not full of other tourists!

We travelled a lot for a few years but now I'm glad we've "been there, done that" and can stay at home. I love my home and my hobbies. I spend a lot of time sewing and am always being told to get out more. I'm happy! LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!

I travelled for 17 years in a camper van and it's ideal. The van becomes a home from home. We went all over Europe.
Those days are gone now but I still love travellling. But it is becoming more difficult and I truly loathe big airports.
I too now prefer short breaks, - had a lovely one recently in Cornwall. The trouble is I do have itchy feet, but I now wish they would stop itching!

dont get me wrong we've been to a fair few other countries and quite enjoyed them ,several in europe and Canada,But I dont want to do it again,I couldn't go back to the same places year on year like our friends do ,it would drive me nuts.I like going to concerts so if theres one I want to see we'll book a room nearby and make a night of it and I'm happy with that.I love having my kids and GC close by ,have 4 GC for 5 days and nights this week,its manic but its great fun.Maybe thats the difference ,our closest friends dont have a great relationship with their family and no grandchildren.IF they say cruise to me once more I'll explode...lol

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Just do what you like doing, I'm mostly retired so have plenty of time at home, taking our grandson and visitors out locally, visiting friends all over the country (off to stay in our daughter-in-law's Dad's house in Yorkshire soon while he is in France and to visit friends in Bridlington for the middle weekend of the fortnight. I have to admit though that I do love traveling, don't spend money on many other things, mostly cook from scratch, run one fiat panda between us, buy most of my clothes from charity shops - they are more unusual and you can get great quality for next to nothing while supporting charity. We've been to some amazing places, met lovely people - some of whom we have kept in touch with and have some wonderful memories. Just had a month traveling in Quebec Province with our daughter who lives there atm, we booked air B&B, B&B, even some 'posh' camping in a national park which was my favourite place, lots of wildlife, fabulous experience but I understand not for everyone.

I love going away on holiday, I also like getting back home for a couple of weeks seeing family and pottering about the garden but then I'm going stir crazy and just want to get out and about seeing new places again. There is a big world out there and you are a long time dead, lots of time when you get older and maybe aren't fit enough to go away to be stuck indoors in my opinion anyway.

Another one here. I hate going on holiday. My husband loves it, so I have to go. I hate the planning, the packing, the travelling and visiting other countries. Just not interested. I also hate travelling in this country. I am so happy at home, so contented . Why leave it? Cruise holidays have their good moments, but so many people talk about where they are going next all the time. It's like they've got ants in their pants. I expect they have nice homes and plenty of money and yet all they want to do is go, go, go. When it gets to that stage to me it's like a sickness.

When I come back people always say "Did you enjoy your holiday"? "Well no I didn't actually, I'm SO happy to be home". They look at me as if I'm mad. You also get people who as a conversation starter say "Planning your holidays yet?" "No, Go Away".

This weekend will be spent sorting and packing clothes for our trip to England for our niece's wedding in 2 weeks time. I have lost a bit of weight which is making it harder. We are taking the car and taking the ferry from Santander rather than driving all the way. In September we have housesitters so we can have a couple of weeks touring Spain. My DH has been looking at this but will bring it up when it is time for bed and it ended up last night with him cancelling a hotel he had just booked and saying I could sort it all out. Reading the posts here perhaps forgetting about holidays and just pottering about locally would be easier.