Floods of tears.

Have you been going through a stressful time Henetha? I've sometimes found that I can deal with masses of stress but then something little will start me off. I remember a few years ago lots of big things were stressing me out and I coped admirably until one day I was pegging the washing out and a peg pinched my finger. It hurt a little and I started crying and ended up crying for 5 hours! Obviously my body's way of letting off steam. So I hope you're feeling loads better after your crying jag. Xx ? ?

poor you, Henetha - scary feeling being out of control. Its happened to me a couple of times recently. Its horrible at the time, but delighted to hear you are feeling better now. Better out than in as they say.................. In my case, I don't really know what triggered it but I know I was very over-tired. Look after yourself, and give yourself a nice little treat maybe?

That's often the downside of living alone, things go wrong that you can't fix, I'm quite a practical person and usually manage to cope with most things, but when something comes up that I can't deal with I feel useless. But, like you, thank goodness I have a son living nearby who is even more practical than me!!

MIL was in floods of tears even though she hardly knows this woman

Maybe she was crying for her granddaughter who is sitting waiting paddyann . I can understand that. Trying to protect them from sadness and harm and then finding you can't, is very upsetting.

I'm not normally a cryer,tend to keep it all inside, where as my DH will cry at programs. Sporting achievements Britains got Talent. Back in November I had a horrendous row with my friends husband, over his treatment of Her and many other people.I was shaking and crying with anger and frustration.My lovely Burmese cat who witnessed all this,became ill with cystitis,I could not believe the vet when he asked me had he had any upset recently.
After an exploratory op,revealing nothing! All in his head. A bill for £300.Insured fortunately. But will have to hide myself away with a pillow over my face if I feel the need to let it all out ?.

As you don't normally cry, your " sadness/frustration" storage was clearly full up and needed to unload ! I am the opposite, I cry at the drop of a hat ! Everyone knows and expects it now so it's not even embarrassing anymore !

No Gaggi3 - not in my world at any rate .

I sometimes feel like having a good cry, over something fairly serious, but nothing happens,but show me a sad film, no matter how trashy, and I'll be awash. I've been known to cry at ads. Am I very strange?

I think sometimes we just soldier on dealing with whatever life throws at us until one day, something quite petty seems to trigger the release we need and the floodgates open.

Possibly the bodies way of releasing stress and pent up emotions.

Glad you're feeling better now.

I think living alone throws up all sorts of problems we wouldn't have thought twice about before. Something relatively simple to fix occurs and it seems a mammoth task. I was seriously ripped off by TV aerial men recently and I wept at having allowed myself to be in a vulnerable situation, not only the cost, but having two con men in my home.

It's because we feel overwhelmed by something we don't know how to fix. We've always been capable 'fixers' and now we're not quite so good, so we cry more than we used to.

Crying is cathartic. A good blub is excellent - I's so glad you are feeling better now henethan. Probably was the letting out of all the YEARS of holding things in...
Be happy!

It sounds as though it was just what you needed to do. It sounds as though you feel better now, lighter. It doesn't really matter what triggers it, it all needed to come out. You've been washed clean!

Did this problem make you feel vulnerable or not in control?

Did it being fixed so easily just make you feel old? I suspect we can all relate to that one.

We have a thing socially about crying don't we-it's not considered a good thing. I see it as just another way to release emotions. We may not even know what they are or why we're feeling, but it doesn't really matter, and we often feel better afterwards. I've no doubt that some smart person could talk with you and analyse it all and say that it triggered deeper feelings about something which ultimately led to the crying but I'd just go with it..let it pass...let it go..

Being in floods of tears for no good reason has happened to me twice over the last two or three years. I too was shocked and mystified, but both times I was taken ill within two days. Nothing serious, I hasten to add. I have come to the conclusion that the bug was to blame for this totally out-of character crying!

More recently, I have had a few more wobbles, but these are quite definitely related to the fact that my dad is terminally ill. A kind of advance mourning, I suppose. Totally pointless, but I can't help it some days.

henetha your post reminded me of a Chinese saying:
'Great grief is silent.'

I think lots of people will relate to your experience. We can be going along apparently 'just fine' - and then something triggers tears in us and they flow and flow. Often with no apparent connection, but if we look deep there is good reason - especially if, as you say, you are 'not a cryer'. pain, sadness, anxiety, fear, grief ... will out eventually.

sometimes its really good to have a massive cry...as kittysays it has to come out...I can cry over something on t.v and that leads me to cry..just cry over everything!!?

Oh henetha I'm sorry but I hope the tears were cathartic they were proably waiting a while to come out and had all built up.

Do you remember Warren Mitchell? (Alf Garnett etc). I once saw an interview with him, about getting old, and he said one new thing was that the least little sad thing would make him cry. He'd never been a crier before.

I am a little envious henetha, but glad you feel better

Yes, I agree too kitty, it's all inside and it's so hard to let it out usually.
Glad you feel better henetha.

I agree with Kitty.

I just had my MIL on the phone ,her Grandaughters MIL is on her deathbed ,they are literally waiting for her last breath..she's 51.MIL was in floods of tears even though she hardly knows this woman.She couldn't explain it as she said she didn't cry when FIL died 11 years ago and hasn't since and they were married over 50 years .I couldn't give her any answer just told her she should try to be strong for GD who has never sat by a deathbed before and is just 23 ,she and her gran are very close so I'm sure she'll turn to her once its over

There was a point n my husband's long term illness when I couldn't stop crying. I cried in the supermarket, I cried in my bed, I cried sitting on the toilet, I cried into the potatoes as I peeled them. I'm convinced it gave me wrinkles through dehydration! I can mock myself now but truly I just couldn't stop.
There is a reason they say "go with the flow"?
Glad you're feeling better now.

Thing not think - my flipping phone could be the tipping point if it doesn't stop trying to out think me!