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Have you put your dreams on hold?

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Day6 Mon 24-Jul-17 15:42:00

OH and I moved not long ago to our 'forever' home together, a place where we could grow old, with facilities nearby and countryside not too far off. It's a lovely house in a lovely location. We moved away from our children slightly - very slightly, only 10 miles further on from them!

However, much as I love the house and garden I have realised that's it. My dreams of living near the coast didn't happen.

My dream would be to live near the sea, I have always wanted to, and we could, now that we've both retired. However, when we were house-hunting we stayed close to family. I would miss them if they weren't nearby. Having said that, one of my children has just landed a good job in the south and they will be moving away in a few months time. sad I am already feeling a bit bereft!

Dreams on hold? Who am I kidding. My dream has been cancelled.

Family won out over life by the sea, but there is nothing to say all our children could move far away in time.

We went for familiarity, habit and the love of family, and it was a conscious choice, but I feel now that we have compromised. This is it. We shan't go through the upheaval of moving again. I'll never live by the sea.

Have you ever followed your dreams? Did you go for it, or did you settle for something less?

Jalima1108 Thu 27-Jul-17 18:56:52

we should have been more brave and adventurous!

petra Thu 27-Jul-17 18:25:46

jalima
That picture was taken as we were leaving to go away for a year through the French canals down to Marseille.

Jalima1108 Thu 27-Jul-17 15:03:55

petra that sounds wonderful - you must have an adventurous streak!

I still have seaside withdrawal symptoms years after moving away and was only having a moan to DH yesterday about needing to see the sea - daily! Although like you, JimmyRFU we do live in a lovely area.

Jalima1108 Thu 27-Jul-17 15:01:44

understand that they are charging £4500 upwards these days!
jaw dropped and gasped shock

devongirl Thu 27-Jul-17 14:04:43

gilly that's the route I'm thinking of going down in my bedroom! Moved 2y ago from a much bigger flat, and still have lots of boxes around the place, and I thinkI've binned everything I can/want to - so am thinking of tubs on shelves.

petra Thu 27-Jul-17 14:04:17

devongirl
No, we don't miss living on board. We are lucky that when something has had it's time, it's time to move on.
After selling we lived in 2 different countries. Then the grandchildren came along so contented ourselves with travel in the motohome.

gillybob Thu 27-Jul-17 13:56:35

I can't imagine there being too much mess Auntieflo. Surley just a case of making a door and frame. You could buy sets of shelves from the likes of Ikea or Argos, B&Q etc. I have plastic tubs on some of my shelves holding all manner of bits and pieces. Not to mention a much diminished wine rack.

Auntieflo Thu 27-Jul-17 13:50:54

Gillybob, thanks, I will try and get in touch with the chap who has done things for us in the past, but do you know, do I really want the upheaval? Dreams on hold for now.

devongirl Thu 27-Jul-17 11:30:21

Wow petra how wonderful! Where do you live now? do you miss life on board?

gillybob Thu 27-Jul-17 10:35:38

Oh yes I know Eshott Village Stansgran .... yooooo hoooooo We often drive through there when the A1 is gridlocked.

Are you getting out and about to Alnwick, Morpeth etc. or are you just chillaxing in the peace and quiet? We spend a lot of time in Seahouses and Bamburgh (up the coast) which is lovely too.

petra Thu 27-Jul-17 10:15:23

I achieved my dream. I always wanted to live on board, and I did for 20 yrs, on this boat. I still live by the sea, still very involved with boats, I can't be away from the sea.

Stansgran Wed 26-Jul-17 22:18:01

We're staying in a lovely cottage in Eshott at the moment(waves to gillybob and Kupari) I'm gransnet ting between scouring Rightmove and Zoopla

rosesarered Wed 26-Jul-17 21:59:05

Exactly gilly you can have a lot of cottage holidays for that amount of money.

gillybob Wed 26-Jul-17 17:56:16

We looked into buying a static caravan but the ground rent was thousands a year

Back in the good old days sad when we had our static roses we originally paid £1800 per year for ground rent. It went up to £2400 the next year and considerably more every year after. We sold up just over 6 years ago and understand that they are charging £4500 upwards these days!

Granted it is a lovely site but £4500+ blimey !

jimmyRFU Wed 26-Jul-17 17:46:31

DH and my dream was to have a little cottage with a garden and a bit of a garage/workshop. Not far from where we live which is convenient for M5/M4 so we could go up to visit his family in the Lake District or down to Cornwal or 'left' or 'right'. We had two kids, he was made redundant a few times. I was made redundant.

It hit home that it was just a dream. With house prices as they are and two grown up kids still dependant financially our dreams are 'buggered', gone out the window. Just dreams. Unless my dad at 92 wins the lotto. We will be trapped here for the duration. Luckily its a nice area and the neighbours are nice.

Day6 Wed 26-Jul-17 15:17:32

Have to rush off - GC duties - but will dig out and post a photo I found online of a coastal house for sale. (I scour the property ads, dreaming of a lottery win!)

Couldn't make out if it was my idea of Heaven or Hell! [grin}

rosesarered Wed 26-Jul-17 14:11:23

We looked into buying a static caravan but the ground rent was thousands a year.
Would rather spend the money on holidays in the UK but in different locations.

rosesarered Wed 26-Jul-17 14:09:47

kathjohn...... that road down into Robins Hood Bay.....grand going down it, but not so good coming back up it, puffing like a grampuss!

devongirl Wed 26-Jul-17 14:01:52

In Brighton there used to be a coffee shop on the pier that we sheltered inside once and watched a howling gail outside - wonderful!

Maggiemaybe Wed 26-Jul-17 13:59:49

I love piers too. I'm often to be found gazing soulfully off the end of one. On my own - DH hates heights and can't bear to look down through the planks, so leaves me to it and heads off for the nearest coffee shop.

devongirl Wed 26-Jul-17 13:53:31

Looks lovely, Soniah; I've got a thing about piers, are there any in North Wales (excuse my anglocentred ignorance!)

Soniah Wed 26-Jul-17 13:49:08

plenty of cheap and lovely houses by the sea here in North Wales, and no, it's not always raining here, in fact our visitors have often commented that the weather is always lovely here.

gillybob Wed 26-Jul-17 13:43:46

A long time ago, befor I realised DH was born minus the DIY gene, I wanted a cupboard under the stairs

Oh Auntieflo Can you not get a man in to do it for you? I shouldn't cost too much.

I love my cupboard under the stairs. Its huge I can walk right into it (It's in my kitchen) and DH has shelved it from top to bottom and made it into a sort of walk in larder/ pantry. A few of my neighbours knocked theirs out to make bigger kitchens but they are now really regretting it.

devongirl Wed 26-Jul-17 13:37:56

My favourite place would be the house Montalbano lives in in the Camilleri novels - right on the beach, in Sicily (sigh)

Auntieflo Wed 26-Jul-17 13:26:52

It's my dream to live as near to the sea as possible. You know, like the American films, where they just trip down the veranda steps onto the beautiful, long, deserted beach. It's not going to happen. A long time ago, befor I realised DH was born minus the DIY gene, I wanted a cupboard under the stairs. My clever neighbour had built one, so I drew a pencil line down the wall and waited..... When himself decorated, he just painted over my line. I am still waiting, and dreaming.....