Having a terrible day

Right with you Lucky, fully understand xx

I know that our DC get very annoyed if we keep anything from them, but equally I can hear myself or DH saying 'don't tell the children'.

It's a dilemma.

So sorry Luckygirl
I can only hope that tomorrow is a better day for both you and your DH.

Maybe the time has come to share with your DC.
They will want to offer some support and not see their DM bend under such a heavy burden.

Wishing you both a peaceful night

Because of the nature of the delusions it would be very difficult to talk with the children about this - his behaviour towards them is mentally totally normal and towards everyone else. They know how weak he has become though.

I fear telling them because the nature of the delusions would shock them. I also value my OH's self-respect and dignity - I would not want to take that away from him in relation to his family.

It is such a grim disease. We do not know whether it is the start of PD dementia or (hopefully) the effect of some of his many medications - but he has been on them for years, so it is a bit of a faint hope.

Sending {{{hugs}}} Lucky and maybe some

Lucky my heart goes out to you. Please don't try and take all this on your own shoulders - let your family help you. ?

Pd is Parkinson's disease.

It's Parkinson's Disease Iam64

My aunt had it many years ago and my dear neighbour.

Luckygirl, so sorry to read your post. Apologies for this but what is PD?
i understand the reasons we try to protect our grandchildren and their parents. My mum tried to shelter her adul children from dad's deterioration. I understand why but we were all aware and found it difficult to broach the subject because we didn't want to make it more difficult for her. I've no easy answers but it's something to reflect on, that is whether to begin to be more open with your children at a time when you feel strong enough
I'm not trying to encourage you to do something you feel wouldn't help. Sending positive thoughts

Oh lucky that is so hard. Maybe, just maybe, your children are entitled to know about their Dad?

My DHs Dad was we found out after the death of his Mum quite ill mentally, but she had successfully kept it from us until she died. The tragedy was that because of his unpleasant behaviour we kept away. We so wish we had know as we would have been so different with him.

I do hope tomorrow is better, but you can't deal with it entirely on your own and you shouldn't try.

Ow, Lucky, can't say anything but send you (((Hugs))). It must be so difficult fir you. We are here for you!

I think that your children would like to know what is going on. Your Dh is their father after all

Luckygirl I can offer nothing but some sympathy.
It must affect people in different ways, my neighbour had PD but the symptoms seemed to remain physical.

Do you need to keep this from the DC or would they rather know and offer you some practical help and respite?