I don't want to just 'fill my time' when I retire!

I had to retire early due to having a stroke, but I used it to start a local disabled charity which is needed in a village outside Rotherham. Rmbc did away with the disability officer 9 yrs ago. Parish council had not got the foggiest. When checking with the local health centre I was quoted around 260 disabled. Yet the Papworth trust says there is a ratio of 1 in 5 that are disabled in england. I have just got involved recently in setting up thr Rotherham Disability Network. Pleas help in your area if you are a carer for someone who is disabled especiwlly with the smaller disabled charities as the bigger ones only support any that comes under there area,s and Age uk leave a lot to be desired when helpin disabled people especially in communicating and helping on a weekly basis.

Whitewave, you have just reminded me that I had bought watercolour pastels and artists pad about ten years ago and I put them away saying I may have time to use them when I retire! I'll have to look for them. Good idea JackyB tacking it a month at a time. I think I was feeling a bit overwhelmed, but am much better after all your suggestions. Thank you

We both retired together 7 years ago and a month later DH was diagnosed with cancer - all OK now- but after a fairly grim year we made a conscious effort to enjoy our retirement. We do what we want when we want, inc voluntary work, hobbies, travel etc. Or it may be choosing a lazy day with books and papers. This is your time, there is no timetable. Explore all possibilities and enjoy this special time in your life. ?

Thanks for the useful information mancgirl.

Although I don't retire for another 3 years, I've been wondering about this. I agree with the OP that "filling time" sounds awful - like we're just marking time till our time comes.

Attitude is important: It is a beginning, not an end.

It would seem to me that the best way to adapt to a new life style is to do it step by step. For example, in the first month, get into a daily habit of catching up with friends - writing e-mails, phoning them, arranging dates or inviting them round.

Then the next month, introduce something like a daily walk for 30 minutes or so.

The third month, set a certain time aside each day for going through photos or decluttering cupboards.

If I try to change everything on the first day, I'll never start! I just hope I remember this idea when I do actually retire!

You will be surprised how busy retirement can be. Enjoy.

I retired 4 years ago but was dreading it as I thought I'd 'lose my identity'. I was never one for having hobbies although I do belong to a book club (wine club is a better name for it)! With my DH we became members of a house/animal sitting website. We love it...don't get paid for the sits but have stayed for free in some amazing houses in the past 4 years (most of which are regular bookings now). It's a worldwide organization so you can choose to housesit in some wonderful places. If you are a dog or cat lover then that's a bonus and you get to explore places you've never visited before. Our friends keep asking us when we'll next be home so we can meet up. I know it's not everyone's cup of tea but if you're outgoing and love life I'd say it's for you.

I like that cherrytree ?
I usually have to think about what I did yesterday, then it comes to me.

You truly will have no problem at all. I fill my days splendidly! I Garden enthusiastically. Walk a lot. Meet friends for lunch. Go to the theatre, Days out to say the NT or local gardens or London . I love watercolouring. I read . Evening visits to friends or they come here. Belong to a couple of clubs. In the autumn winter term I will go to evening classes if there are any I fancy. You will have no trouble at all, just wait and see. Sometimes I think don't fancy doing a thing today, so I don't!

Waking up in the morning and trying to work out what day it is

Wise words from you all I really appreciate it and I feel far more positive now about my retirement than I did yesterday. CardiffJaguar, that is such a great thought, time is important, use it to find yourself. I will remember that.

Yes Kittylester I have supported Deaf children in school for 30 years, which I will miss but I am 65 so it is my time now. I would like to volunteer for something liked to that, teach people British Sign Language . Thank you for the list Luckygirl, I started a list today so will add some of them to it.

Don't plan before retiring. This is a strange time when for the first (probably) time in your life there are no demands on your time, other than the normal family ones. It takes time to adjust, up to a year for some. The family also needs time to adjust.

Maintain your usual out-of-home activities and accept some invitations that you feel you will enjoy. But let time pass without feeling you must do something. That something will happen before you realise it. Do things you have not done before such as explore a park you have never visited/ drive a route unknown to you/ go on a short holiday, say a week on a canal.

Whenever there is a big change in our lives it takes time to adjust and retirement is possibly the next to last of those. Making plans and dashing off to do other things is premature because when you have had time to adjust you realise those plans etc are not what you want to do.

Time is so important; use it to find yourself.

How come radicalnan is getting the cheesy grins? I'm the one with a lover, it should be me!

Hi Liz46. Virgin do occasional "sales" of tickets. The £10 each way fare was from Manchester. Booked another one for December

All the good advice above, plus........do what you like!
If you enjoy lying on the sofa with a bag of popcorn and watching Midsomer Murders at 2p.m. Then do it.Do what you like when you like.There is only one life ( as you, anyway) this isn't a rehearsal.?

radicalnan - I'll join with HootyMcOwlface.

The first thing I did was go to my nearest National Trust property and volunteer one day a week, still doing it 7 years later - new interest, new friends, feeling useful, talking to a wide range of people from all over the world (visitors). I also go to two book groups, (again new like-minded friends etc), a poetry group, our local choir (I can't sing but I try), social club,and there is also the U3A, walking groups, art and craft groups. There is so much out there, who needs housework?

Mancgirl, what is ew rail fare? I presume from your name, you may be in Manchester. £10 seems cheap.

Teddy123 my philosophy exactly. I love pottering in my garden, joined two local Meet Up groups, nice to have people to go out with (I'm widowed). I am a NT Member. Don't mind going places on my own. I took Early Retirement at 50 to care for my DH, following his death I had a year just adjusting.I'm only 62 now but unable to work due to health problems.

Almost 2 1/2 years ago I moved to be nearer my DD & DGC, my life has never been so busy. Take time to decide what you want to do & enjoy your Retirement.

If you are looking for voluntary work opportunities have a look at this website

do-it.org

as this lists all sorts of volunteer jobs. good luck!

I agree with the many useful and interesting suggestions already made. I retired early on 7th July this year at 56 years and I am excited at having the time to do as I please. I have bought a house as a project which I am going to renovate myself and let out and I shall enjoy making it look nice and I love choosing interior decor. I am going on hols for 6 weeks for a complete rest and when I get back I have loads planned from sorting out 2 spare bedrooms and de-cluttering then redecorating, I will bake every week which I have not had time to do as frequently before, I aim to seriously prune the garden back as some of the trees and shrubs are rather overgrown, sort out the utility room which is a mess, travel more frequently, visit my sisters who live 150 miles away once a month, lunch out occasionally just as a start.

I would start off doing all the things you have not have time for before, holiday, relax and enjoy your time and if you do get bored then look around and find either voluntary work, part-time work,or new hobbies and interest.

radicalnan

Within 2 years of retiring, I had 2 part time jobs, working 2 days each week in total. I enjoy the company and mental stimulation they provide, and the money pays for my holidays. Plus they both involve doing things that I believe are socially useful, so I feel I'm doing something worthwhile. The difference from working before retirement, is that I still have 5 days a week to do all the other things just for the pleasure of them, as others have said, and I do some voluntary work as well. Also, because neither of them are career jobs, I could easily give them up if I started to feel they were too much for me, or stopped being enjoyable or interesting

Luckygirl very impressive I think it's great to keep mind and body busy. I have a list of all the things I want to do or see with my time and I work part time, garden for the in capable and look after GD.