Is this being unkind or selfish

Your 'friend' handled it badly. It could have been handled more kindly and she probably meant no offence.

Our XTrail will take four passengers plus their luggage - provided no more than one (who gets the front seat) is of ample build. I would take a taxi and look hard done by - but enjoy the luxury of solitude. I assume someone else will draw the short straw on the return journey.

I am so indignant on your behalf!
Take the bus?.
with your luggage presumably?
I should coco
Take a Taxi and rise above her for this break.
But then like beautiful Elephant.....
Never forget,
The time will surely come when the witch woman requires help or a lift and then the rest as they say is up to you.

I assumed that OP meant she was '2 minutes' from the other group, who all live near each other, not '2 minutes from the station'.

I suspect, unless the ladies are unusually large (!) the issue is more the husband having to clear the boot for their luggage(I speak as someone who has half her boot taken up with 'emergency' stuff!)

I also have to say that I would only go on a break like this with very close friends, so would have thought she would have the measure of them.
If it's a group who are going away because of shared interest (medieval nunneries or cheese making or something) then maybe this is the 'unofficial' leader who bosses everyone.

I usually allow someone 'one pass' at something like this, as we can all be a bit tactless, thoughtless, or not quite on the ball sometimes. I do hope it's a one-off and OP has a good break.

I know what my answer would be the next time she asks you for a lift AlgeswifeVal.

And it wouldn't be positive!

Of course a Range Rover can take four people. That being the case it would seem that she's being unreasonable not including you in and she's being downright rude to tell you to take the bus. I would book a taxi to the station and to meet you on your return.

Ive had 2 Range Rovers so I'm a bit confused over this 'room' situation.
The other woman's husband is driving the ladies to the station?
There is room for 4 other people in the car?
Am I missing something?
All I can assume, is, 2 of the ladies are taking up the room of 3?

She does sound a mean-minded petty old trout AwV. I hope you enjoy your break away and make sure you are first in line when they give out the room keys. (Don't do what I would do and try and get your own back. Things tend to fester then).

If you are only two minutes away, could you walk to the station? Or get a taxi?

She sounds like a very wierd person to me if she was as blunt and unreasonable about the lift arrangements as you say. I agree with the suggestion that you rise above this silliness and perhaps think twice about doing anything with this person again. It's the kind of behaviour that knocks the feet from under you, so to speak.

No, no husbands phoenix. The OP's DH is disabled therefore can't drive her to the station, and the other woman's DH is driving the other three women to the station.

How mean!
If you only live 2 minutes away why can't the others be dropped off a few minutes early and then come back for you?
She sounds nasty and her DH sounds unchivalous. My DH would never leave one of my friends out, nor would I.
And a RR has loads of room.

I take it that the four people going are you and your DH, plus her and her DH?

She's a rotten cow ! There I said it !

How nasty . Mind you I think if one of the other "friends" don't suggest getting public transport with you , then they are no better .

What an absolute meany she is, my DS1 drives a RR and he can seat 3 in the back comfortably and enough luggage space for 4 plus a baby pram and the kitchen sink,I would never give this person a lift anywhere ever again.Enjoy your break and rise above her

Raise above it, but think hard about the future of your friendship with her.

Rise above it this time and if it happens again then tackle it head on because if it is bullying then she will soon stop as bullies cannot do what they enjoy doing with a strong person , they thrive on weaker or gentler natured characters.
Make your own way as she suggested and let her know that you are not fazed by her actions in any way.
It could be that she has done it because of the luggage taking up space or she's just not thought it through properly so don't go in all guns blazing until you really know.
Have a lovely few days with your friends

Not a nice situation to be in when going away with this woman.
Did none of the others have anything to say about it? Perhaps they have someone who could drive them to the station and they could swap with you.
I had a little C1 at one point and got 3 in the back for a short trip, there will be seat belts for 3 in the back and for a 4 day trip there won't be masses of luggage.
Why didn't you say something when she announced that you weren't getting a lift?
I would rather go away by myself than go with others who don't seem to have any sympathy with your predicament .
At least before you go speak to the others about it and tell them how you feel, also ask the wife of the range rover why you were chosen.
Good luck, and remember life is too short to spend it with selfish people.

I agree with mumofmadboys, don't let this person 's thoughtlessness spoil the holiday. If there are any further issues you don't need to go on holiday with her again. Enjoy.

It is her selfishness and thoughtlessness that is the problem. Rise above it and pretend it is no problem whatsoever. If she is rude in any other way speak firmly but politely to her. Resist the temptation to discuss it with the other two if you can. Hope you enjoy the holiday.

She also had the nerve to ask me to drive her home after our meet up tonight. Which I did , of course. I can't drive myself to railway station on Monday as cannot leave the car anywhere for 5 days. I have come home thinking I don't want to go now but of course I will, however I will never forget. I think she knows I was a bit miffed as I felt I had gone rather quiet. Still, I will rise above it. I think she decided to make me use public transport as they all live in close proximity. I am only a couple of minutes away. Thanks everyone for your feedback.

Oh how mean of her

How did she come to decide that you would be the one to travel by public transport?

How tactless.She is being extremely unkind and I would feel exactly as you do.In fact the other two should have risen to your defence.It would make me .want to drop out of the whole thing though I suppose you have got to try and be the better person

Of course there's room in a Range Rover for four passengers. I'd be hopping mad!

From the way you have written this, it seems that she decided you should be the one to get the bus. I would be asking myself 'why that assumption?'. It may be obvious: you are on the best route, for instance.
I have a car that theoretically seats 3 in the back, but it would be a struggle with 4 lots of luggage as well!
So a lot depends on other circumstances and if she's usually the one who bosses everyone about!
Did the others seem fine, or did they look uncomfortable?

Whatever, I hope you can enjoy the trip.

Do you really want to go on a break with such a mean minded person as she is? Rude, thoughtless and downright selfish in my opinion.