Is this being unkind or selfish

She should have asked which of the three of you would be happy to make their own way there, if she is telling the truth that is. I wouldn't go to be honest. I wouldn't spend money and be away from my family to be in the company of such a nasty person.

Oh how awful - what a horrible person! Honestly I do despair at times at some people!!!

You're fully justified in feeling hurt, AlgeswifeVal, and they seem a selfish lot. I hope you have a good break, despite the bad start. The Range Rover woman is certainly no friend. What a shame you weren't "going on somewhere else" after the meeting - I'm sure she'd have been happy to take the bus. Please don't be available to help her out in future.

I hope that she didn't intend to be mean, and suggested it as she knows that you are the most capable, the fittest or live closest. Sometimes we make suggestions and the reasons why we make the suggestions are clear to us but not at all clear to anyone else.

I think on this occasion you should presume that she meant it as a compliment, and you enjoy the holiday. Presumably too expensive to back out now.

But, in future (and far easier said than done) ask 'Why me?'. I can remember a friend being very upset over something similar, and her sister said 'But you are family, and the others are too divvy to make their own way there!'

Have a lovely time ?

This is interesting to me because all my life I have given in. But recently. I came out of my drive onto the single track and a little way along a car appeared round the corner, so we became car to car. I knew there was a place covered with grass he could have easy backed up to to let me by. I was going to do voluntary work and was late. Normally I would have backed up. But the passenger a women got out the car harranging me. My type of person. Etc. I was trying to explain just a little way behind and there was a passing place. She said she would call the police. So eventually I backed back into my drive. I realise now some people must go all there life with conflict. Which I haven't had. Just let it go and if she is the type of person that makes you feel bad. Give her a wide berth. There are so many lovely people out there. Unfortunately they do hide but just find them .

First, she s mean. Don't let it spoil your break, rise above it for ur own sake and for the others u are going with. Do they feel uncomfortable about it?
Second, she s probably jealous and feels the others are more friendly with u than with her. That's her problem.
Third, once u come back, don't be so accommodating to her, she s using you. Have a reason practiced so you can't give her a lift, e.g. No, I'm going somewhere else after this so I can't take u home. Bloody cheek of her!
I'd be stewing over this for ages, I'm too sensitive . But have your holiday first then either say something in front of the others " why couldn't u fit me in your big car." Because if u don't address it, it will fester away at u. I regret things I didn't address and years later I'm still thinking about it. Say it calmly, and let her know her behaviour was out of order. She s the nasty one, not u.

PS, what do your other two mates make of it?

Did she pick you as you are nearest the station? Try not to see any more in her decision maybe than there is. Don't let it spoil your holiday and get a taxi sorted, both ways.

After the holiday you can reasses the friendship......but put your own interests first now and make the most of your break.

Why are you going on holiday with a person like that?

Well, I can't say that I'd be very impressed either

Why dont you end the speculation and probably the hurt by asking "why me?"

As you live a couple of minutes away I am wondering if this isn't her but her DH's decision- "Well I can pick them up but I'm not going there!". Do you know the DH is he a bit controlling? I'm trying to think of a reason why she might behave like this. If it was a close friend who had said this to me it would've been met with some sort of come back-"Thanks very much (bitch)" being one. But I also know that my other friends would have protested loudly and thought of another solution. Hope you have a lovely time and get chance soon to pay her back!

I'm not able to rise above that sort of thing and wouldn't be going! Far too deliberately mean. But still hope you enjoy the break. Hope you're not sharing rooms x

This story is beyond belief, of course a Range Rover has more than enough room for four passengers and their luggage. She is not a friend of yours. If it was me I would never want to see her again.

You missed a trick there ....when rude woman asked for a lift you should have said "oh no, you'll have to get the bus"!

AlgeswifeVal.....are you sure you still really want to go on this trip? Sounds like a non-starter to me. I was more disappointed by the lack of camaraderie from one of the other lift recipients than I was by the callous person. It's natural friendship to react to such harshness by combatting it methinks. On the other hand, being independent has many advantages so rise above it if you can. Will be very interested to hear how this trip goes if you are willing to share on return. Good luck and I genuinely hope you enjoy.

Would it not have been possible to book a taxi to collect all 4 of you + luggage, most taxi firms have 7 seaters for Airport runs. Transport should have been discussed not a decision made by one person. I would not be offering this woman a lift, if she asked for a lift I'd find a convenient excuse

Hope you have a nice holiday

My sister did that to me, except that she brought a friend along to a family outing with my mother and her husband (who I hadn't seen for several years as they live abroad) and announced that there wasn't room in the car for me. This was fairly typical of my family dynamic and has made me very intolerant of bullying by exclusion.
It was rude and, even if she had made that decision, there was a better way to raise it. Will you have much luggage to carry? She could at least have offered to help with that.
Hopefully you will enjoy your break and you know now to have as little to do with her as possible.

I wonder why you were singled out to get the bus and not one of the others. I would have felt uncomfortable if I was one of the other ladies on your behalf.....and a bit miffed myself. Perhaps if she had handled it differently ...for instance ...sorry can only get three in the back who"s going to draw the short straw etc. I wonder if she thinks you are too easy going and would put up the least resistance. I would toughen your stance with this woman a bit ...don"t be available to give her lifts or anything else for that matter or the others either ...NO .. is a word they may not like to hear but you will feel better for it.

It's not so much that they didn't have room but the way it was delivered. That's how I see it - it should have been disgusted with the option of someone volunteering who takes the bus!
I would have found that comment extremely rude, and the fact that your husband has a disability I would have thought you would have been given priority.
Are these people your friends?
My hackles would have come up if I had have been spoken to like that - very uncouth

Rise above it and take a taxi to the station.
I suspect this is a few days away with some people you don't know that well otherwise you would have been able to say something!. Just enjoy the break, not worth saying anything IMO. Did you get to the meeting after the arrangements had were made?. Never mind life's too short.

The next time she asks you for a lift say you have no room in your car, when it patently obvious you have room.

I cannot believe anyone could be that rude and insensitive. She's created a rift, deliberately. What a vile thing to do!

Wouldn't it have been better if she'd thrown it open to the group, and said something along the lines of "Hey girls, we have a problem. DH can only get three of us in the car." (Even if her Range Rover can easily fit three on the back seat!)

At least that way there could have been a discussion and perhaps one of you might have suggested they'd make their own way to the station, or shared a taxi or something. It would have been much more diplomatic.

Some people are just plain nasty and that 'friend' of yours has just revealed her true colours. I do hope the others speak up or they'll be colluding with her. Not a happy situation for a trip away together.

She sounds mean. I would go this time but think twice about any further trips with this person.

Why pick on you ? And why did no one else speak up? Have you been on holiday with them before .? gosh I wouldn't want to go, what if there's only room for three on something on the holiday I d rather be on my own than have this kind of 'friend'

I doubt if angleswifeval will get a lift back it ll be the same ones jumping in and driving off