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MawBroon Tue 04-Jul-17 21:31:15

I simply do not understand why anybody should feel guilty about what they do in their own time. What are we? Slaves? Robots? As intelligent adult women we are free to do what we like (as long as it doesn't frighten the horses)
There is no particular merit in being 100% busy you know?
(I am being absolutely serious.)

LadyGracie Tue 04-Jul-17 21:27:44

I still feel guilty after retiring 4 years ago if I sit and read or knit, or even just sit. While I was working I always spent time doing all the housework in the evenings so I'd have weekends free. Since I retired my housework gene seems to have departed, I do what I have to when I have to! Although the kitchen and bathrooms do get a thorough clean once a week! My DH finds it hard to sit down even though he has various medical conditions.

BBbevan Tue 04-Jul-17 21:07:44

We have recently moved house and there is a lot to do to make it ours. Some things I can do like gardening and painting. Others I can't. I feel guilty when DH is constantly busy and I am knitting or cooking. I feel I should be helping him.

Alima Tue 04-Jul-17 20:29:46

I know what you mean about feeling guilty, sitting and relaxing. In my case I spent a lot of time reading, never watch TV during the day, that's when DH watches either sport or the oodles of stuff he has recorded. In my defence as I always wake at silly o'clock I have done loads of jobs before anyone else wakes up. The days still fly by!

shysal Tue 04-Jul-17 20:24:08

I feel guilty if I sit on the sofa during the day, but at the laptop on the table with GN is fine! I live alone so nobody will be any wiser, but can't watch daytime TV or sit and read. I like to be busy outdoors or exercising, but still do little housework blush.

Stansgran Tue 04-Jul-17 19:58:02

I feel guilty sitting down and watching the leaves sway but I do think it makes me feel better. I wish I could do nothing but watch tv without guilt like DH.

kittylester Tue 04-Jul-17 19:49:45

I do. DH doesn't. I have no idea why I feel guilty but I hate sitting down in the day as I worry I'd never motivate myself again. I have to be busy all the time. I should ok d be thin really - alternatively, how enormous would I be if I did sit down! shock

Luckygirl Tue 04-Jul-17 19:41:22

Absolutely not - it is just brilliant!

Ilovecheese Tue 04-Jul-17 19:27:21

Yes I do. Always feel as if I should be achieving something. Doesn't stop me doing it though! I just feel guilty afterwards.
I don't mind ironing as I watch a programme I have recorded while I do it, but find it very hard to do in the morning, as it is "an afternoon job"
I don't know why I feel like that it is certainly not pressure from anyone else, there is nothing my husband likes better than to see me taking it easy.
Perhaps because I am not getting my state pension yet, just occupational, and feel I should be looking for more freelance work.

Sar53 Tue 04-Jul-17 19:13:55

Oh yes very guilty, especially if OH comes in from work early. I don't know why as I only started getting my state pension 3 months ago when I was almost 64 and I have worked hard all my life. Love the tennis at the moment, it makes a change to have something decent on in the afternoon.

TwiceAsNice Tue 04-Jul-17 19:12:15

It's one of the pleasures of retiring. Enjoy as much as you like and remember how hard you worked before and think you deserve it.

grannylyn65 Tue 04-Jul-17 19:12:04

You'll soon get over it and wonder how you had time to work !

Grannyknot Tue 04-Jul-17 19:12:00

Never. grin I revel in it.

travelsafar Tue 04-Jul-17 19:08:26

Does any one else get that guilty feeling when they just sit for an hour and do nothing apart from read the paper or watch tv during the afternoon of the day. Since I have retired two years ago i still cant shake this feeling off and convince myself its fine to do this.