troublesome committee member

First of all I wonder what sort of a committee yours is? I have served on quite a few -from the very formal, all comments made to the chair, everyone using titles and surnames etc and very casual ones which just let people say anything. I would suggest that if someone is beginning to say personal things it is up to the chair to reign things in. He/she can suggest that meetings are taking too long and therefore it is necessary that a more formal procedure be adopted. If this is done across the board with everyone being asked to address their comments through the chair this should stop any personal remarks without identifying the person who is the real problem. No one will be saying anything to other members all remarks are addressed through the chair.

I agree Teetime but please make sure everyone knows exactly why you're resigning and point the finger of blame exactly where it ought to point.

We have someone like that on our Trust Board but unfortunately he is now the joint Chair. I'm sick of his attitude and decided to call it a day. There is no excuse for rudeness and I think these type of people know exactly what they are doing and are only interested in having their own way. It doesn't matter to me how good their 'work' is as no-one is indispensable. I had quite enough of all that when I was at work (management in the NHS is full of bullies) so I am going to quit and wait for another door to open. Sorry if this sounds like a rant. I hope you can persuade your committee member to reign it in a bit unfortunately if its her/his character to be like this it may only be a temporary improvement until she returns to type.

Agree with asking her not to speak to you in a rude way. Just tell her 'that is neither polite, constructive or an acceptable way to speak' or 'do you realise how rude that sounds?'

And get the Chair to address the issue.

Not sure whether you are on the committee also or just a member of the group. A couple of you could talk to the chairman and maybe suggest at the next "committee meeting" a topic such as "how to attract new members" or some such could be brought up and include friendliness, social interaction etc, maybe having "heard" that people were not feeling at ease or welcomed.

Hopefully she will get the hint - but as DanniRae says she may not realise how she comes across so do make a gentle but firm response to the lady in question.

Well I would say "Please don't speak to me like that" in a very polite way. They may not realise how they come across and therefore be apologetic and, hopefully, mend their ways.