Today I am sad

Thank you all again for your kind words. It's good to know I can come onto GN and share a little of my issues. The friends whom I would normally have a good chat with are part of the current problem, dd1 makes comforting noises, dd2 is of the brusque 'man up' variety and ds is up to the eyes with work and small children. DIL is very kind but in same position as ds-apart from which there's only so much you want to share with family. I shall adopt that mantra-it's so true, nothing stays the same forever but I think I need to be proactive in sorting some things out.

The situation with my friends is bothering me, possibly if this was the only issue I had to deal with it might not figure so large, but at the moment it does. There are three of us who go back a very long way, have children of similar ages who were at school together and a shared interest in theatre. We used to meet fortnightly in a local hotel for dinner but that became difficult for various reasons so we changed to a weekly lunch. This has been going on for around 4 years, we don't necessarily stick rigidly to every week, life does get in the way sometimes. In the last 4 months, however, one or other of the other two has cancelled or rearranged almost every other week. They'll arrange to meet someone else later or have something delivered, so shoot in for an hour, throw a sandwich down and then off again. I, on the other hand, make no other arrangements for that day-I keep it free for them then I'm left sitting like a lemon. Sometimes they only tell me they're only there for a quick coffee when they get there (one is also usually late) We've not fallen out, no arguments, no nothing, but I'm starting to feel that I've slipped down their particular ladder and that they consider their time to be more important than mine. I have suggested that we cut down the frequency of our lunches but neither of them want to do that either. It's making me frustrated and unhappy and I don't want this to colour our longstanding friendships.

On a more cheerful note the play was absolutely fantastic! My friend and I were crying with laughter and left with sore faces! It really was a tonic. If you're interested have a look on YouTube, there's an 8 minute video of The Play That Goes Wrong at the Royal Variety performance. What made it even funnier was that we've both been involved in amdram for years and have had some similar experiences to those on the stage-just not all at once fortunately!

That should say Katek I'm sorry!

Kate's, isn't it rubbish some days, try and pick yourself up but if you can't , cry yourself out , shake it off and then try again and see the good stuff in life, I wish you the best I really do xx

Lots of sympathy to you Katek. Maybe think of it as being in a tunnel... and there is light at the end of that tunnel, no matter how faint. It will get brighter.

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hope you feel better today Katek.

Was play good Katek

Are you feeling any better this morning Katek? I hope so, and also that you enjoyed the play. Good wasn't it?

Horrible feeling Katek, I don't have any solutions to the problem either, but it does seem to happen to a lot of people, all seem to have a remedy of some kind. I think if perhaps we could have some prolonged sunshine and a little warmth for more than a day it would help everyone's spirits to rise. Hope you enjoyed the night out.

Hope last night's The Play That Went Wrong did the trick katek?
Looking for a similar effect from the latest "streamed" Twelfth Night with Tamsin Greig as Malvolio myself this afternoon. Not sure DH will necessarily agree , he doesn't like his Shakespeare too "mucked about with"

I'd give you some tips but MarBroon echoes my sentiments entirely. It's awful though isn't it and can be hard to shake off. Hope it's a better day today.

The Play That Goes Wrong should do the trick, Katek . We saw it yesterday and it's a hoot. I hope it helps and that you feel better soon. My friend who has major issues in her life just now always says that saying "This too will pass" to herself is a great help TriciaF.

and to you, Katek

There's a saying "This too will pass", origin unknown, which I keep repeating to myself when problems keep happening. In 3s (at least).
Try saying that to yourself as a mantra, Katek.

I know that feeling, expect most of us do. Yes, the play should help, katek, sadly no magic answers. Be kind to yourself while you have a think about being less overloaded, sometimes small things make all the difference, for me it's a walk by the sea or a river. Hope it passes soon.

Sorry to hear you are having one of those sad days, Katek. I hope that once you have made the effort to get ready for your evening out you will begin to feel better.Some warm sunshine is also needed.

Thank you all for your kind wishes- I'm definitely in overload in all directions so need to step back and put me first today. I'm going out for a meal and a theatre visit tonight so hopefully that will help. At the moment though I don't really want to make the effort to go-I will though as I couldn't let my friend down. It's a very funny play ( The Play That Goes Wrong) so should lift the spirits.

I can offer no solutions but hope a (((hug))) makes it a bit more bearable.

((Hugs)) from me, count your blessings first, then indulge yourself, it will soon be tomorrow and you can feel totally different then.
I think it's normal to have these low days

It is miserable isn't it? At times like this, I just grit my teeth and bear it. In most cases the feeling passes with time.

I always find that going for a walk helps me in this situation kate - I hope that your spirits rise as the day unfolds.

So sorry to hear you are down Kate
Speaking for myself and not wanting to sound glib or a killjoy but my life has been so disjointed and full of "happenings" for so long now that another irritation or botheration just adds to the rest and is no big deal.
This does though mean I have very little or no joy in my life and I hope you soon get some back into yours Kate

A familiar feeling katek and I wish I knew the answer! For me it can sometimes be a phone call out of the blue, a friend popping by, an unexpected piece of good news or a FaceTime/Skype with a DGC which is such a pleasure - all things which usually involve people especially those I love.
A dog walk? Or an episode from Yes Minister/To the Manor Born/West Wing/The Good Life can also be therapeutic.
Sometimes you just have to KBO but maybe going out for a cup of coffee and piece of cake will help to restore the equilibrium.
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When all hell breaks out and stuff hits the fan, I always tell myself that I am still breathing, think, is there anything I can do practically? make a decent coffee and disappear down the garden, with umbrella up if necessary, and have fifteen minutes to myself. I am so sorry katek that you feel it's all too much today and hope that you'll soon be feeling brighter soon

I am feeling a sort of apathetic nothingness

Treat yourself kindly and take heart from reaching out to others. Hugs from me too