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TriciaF Sun 12-Mar-17 11:54:24

I don't cry much, I must be a Hard-Heartd Hannah. Even when my parents died, I shed a few tears, but not much. They were ill and very old. I think I would for a younger person, but thank God haven't had to experience that yet.
But one thing that brings the tears suddenly pouring out is reading history things about WW2 where my Dad was involved. Maybe it's all been suppressed since those days (I was alive and quite aware at the time.)
Do you cry easily?

Kim19 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:55:32

My husband used to say 'one day I'll see what it takes'. He used to cry readily at emotional pain. Me? Never. That's not a boast; merely a fact. However his untimely death has been my only occasion in this life so...... he didn't get to see it. Maybe the fact that he caused it will suffice!!

grandMattie Mon 13-Mar-17 10:45:37

Gosh, I now am a fountain/tap - no, a waterfall. I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry watching TV, I cry when reading, I cry when hearing beautiful music, hearing children play, seeing something beautiful - set me off nowgrin The family has become used to it.
I used to never even well up until menopause... though I would have the occasional storm of tears over nothing, then not cry for another Oh! 18 months or so.
We are a funny lot of ladies, aren't we?

cloverpark Mon 13-Mar-17 10:43:38

These past few weeks I've needed a hanky by me as I watch Call the Midwife! Last of this series yesterday though.

Lilyflower Mon 13-Mar-17 10:42:16

I cried all the time when I was teaching as it was all so stressful and bullying. Since I retired (early) five years ago I have hardly been upset enough to cry.

Redheadcat Mon 13-Mar-17 10:36:35

I cry at the drop of a hat but laugh very easily too.

Bellanonna Mon 13-Mar-17 10:34:14

HG15. I'm so sorry for your very recent loss.

sarahellenwhitney Mon 13-Mar-17 10:25:45

Child and animal abuse. I can weep buckets with what I witness is happening to the innocent in this sick world.

Smithy Mon 13-Mar-17 10:19:06

Same as you Granny60. I also felt like I'd already lost the mum I knew through dementia and still feel guilty ten years on that I didn't cry. Sadly my brother died a month ago aged 67 and I've wept buckets.

DotMH1901 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:18:25

I hate going to things at school, both with my own children and now my grandchildren. I find it very difficult not to cry at school concerts etc - when my kiddies were little my husband just used to pass me a packet of paper tissues. Odd things make me cry, like hearing my late husband's favourite song unexpectedly. I lost both my parents many years ago now and, although I did cry when they died, I didn't shed a tear at their funerals.

GrandmaMoira Mon 13-Mar-17 10:12:05

I thought I was odd that I don't cry at the worst things such as the death of husband and parents but do sometimes at small things but I see others here are the same. I didn't cry for years but nowadays do cry more often though I try not to as I feel worse afterwards. I also cry if I lose my temper, though this is rare.

HG15 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:03:51

My husband died suddenly just over 2 months ago. He has been very ill but was not expected to die when he did. Since then I have been surprised at how little I have cried, given that I loved him very much, miss him greatly and, certainly when I was younger, cried at the drop of a hat. Of course, grief is a strange thing and I don't have a clue what lies ahead as regards how I will be and how I will cope. There are reminders of him everywhere, and sometimes they upset me and sometimes they don't. If I do cry, I usually feel a better, but crying does make me feel tired. And I do try not to cry in front of others as they want to comfort me and say it is early days. I think people are often distressed by the distress of others. By the way I am a great believer in crying. I have never subscribed to the stiff upper lip school of thought.

Juggernaut Mon 13-Mar-17 10:02:59

My DF used to say that all the women in our family 'have their eyes connected to their bladder'.....well, we do all get damp eyed very easilyblush

GrannyLondon Mon 13-Mar-17 10:00:10

Downtoearth, How dreadful for you, I am very sorry. x

Kitspurr Mon 13-Mar-17 09:53:25

I'm a cry baby, always have been. I do wonder if it's because I was mollicoddled as a child and it's now my default setting. Having said that, I've had an awful year and cried buckets for many months, and now I find I'm not such a cryer these days. Don't think I've got many tears left now!

radicalnan Mon 13-Mar-17 09:49:41

I can hold back tears now and rarely cry........just now and then when my control slips, I miss people but crying makes me ill. Migraine sets in, headaches red nose, blotchy face.........however, a sudden happy thing will catch me unawares, cried all my tears years and years of them...........take things more to heart literally now the pain settles in me and no tears to release it.

Bluebe11 Mon 13-Mar-17 09:48:09

I am a terrible cry baby, always have been a bit, but has got so much worse now I am older. Films, books, sad news reports, looking at old photos, my pride in kids and grandkids, slight disagreements, life frustrations etc. The list is endless and as others say, quite embarrassing at times ! Not just a few tears either, we are talking buckets !

Skweek1 Mon 13-Mar-17 09:47:47

I don't cry much - when the love of my life returned to his other life and I knew we probably wouldn't ever see one another again, over films and books, some music has me howling, when DD1 created a family split which could never be healed. Overall, family deaths have been a merciful release from pain, anguish and any tears have been selfish ones of missing them and unresolved regrets, but since I believe that there is a future existence opportunity to clear up these matters, why cry? Did cry when DS's best friend died after long and painful illness, as he was only 21 with his whole life ahead of him and we felt as if we'd lost a son. Worse, we knew he was living on borrowed time, but didn't have a chance to say goodbye properly.

rosesarered Mon 13-Mar-17 09:45:33

No, I don't cry easily, but like Danni I do laugh easily.smile Life seems so absurd a lot of the time doesn't it?

DanniRae Mon 13-Mar-17 09:22:14

I cry so easily. I can't watch sad tv programmes or read sad stuff in the news papers. I even cry when people tell me sad things about their lives and sometimes they have to comfort me! BUT I laugh very easily too, which somehow balances it out I guess? sad smile

Grandma2213 Mon 13-Mar-17 01:38:55

I start to cry when I am criticised (usually in jest by my DSs) so I have to leave the room. I also cry at certain music and when young children are singing or acting eg in nativities. I did not cry at the funerals of my parents but did at that of a friend when one of my particularly favourite pieces of music was played.
downtoearth sad One day you may find the tears flow at some unexpected stimulus but even if they don't, you know yourself that your dear parents and daughters were loved. flowers

nina1959 Sun 12-Mar-17 21:21:48

Downtoearth, you sound traumatised. Have you ever had bereavement counselling? Sending you a hug. xxx

Anniebach Sun 12-Mar-17 21:18:12

downtoearth, I ache for you X

SueDonim Sun 12-Mar-17 20:58:46

I'm glad I'm not the only one, Chewbacca!

Downtoearth what a tragedy, I'm so, so sorry. flowers

Grannyben Sun 12-Mar-17 17:49:20

I started crying when my first daughter was born and, since that day, i can cry at the drop of a hat. Sometimes, the smallest thing can leave me sobbing. I know i sound miserable but it's very rare i do it in front of anyone

grandma60 Sun 12-Mar-17 16:16:47

I loved my mum very much but she had dementia for the last years of her life. When she died I just felt numb. I suppose I felt I had lost her years before. I still feel bad that I didn't cry. When my cat was run over and killed I cried for days.