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TriciaF Sun 12-Mar-17 11:54:24

I don't cry much, I must be a Hard-Heartd Hannah. Even when my parents died, I shed a few tears, but not much. They were ill and very old. I think I would for a younger person, but thank God haven't had to experience that yet.
But one thing that brings the tears suddenly pouring out is reading history things about WW2 where my Dad was involved. Maybe it's all been suppressed since those days (I was alive and quite aware at the time.)
Do you cry easily?

DanniRae Mon 13-Mar-17 09:22:14

I cry so easily. I can't watch sad tv programmes or read sad stuff in the news papers. I even cry when people tell me sad things about their lives and sometimes they have to comfort me! BUT I laugh very easily too, which somehow balances it out I guess? sad smile

rosesarered Mon 13-Mar-17 09:45:33

No, I don't cry easily, but like Danni I do laugh easily.smile Life seems so absurd a lot of the time doesn't it?

Skweek1 Mon 13-Mar-17 09:47:47

I don't cry much - when the love of my life returned to his other life and I knew we probably wouldn't ever see one another again, over films and books, some music has me howling, when DD1 created a family split which could never be healed. Overall, family deaths have been a merciful release from pain, anguish and any tears have been selfish ones of missing them and unresolved regrets, but since I believe that there is a future existence opportunity to clear up these matters, why cry? Did cry when DS's best friend died after long and painful illness, as he was only 21 with his whole life ahead of him and we felt as if we'd lost a son. Worse, we knew he was living on borrowed time, but didn't have a chance to say goodbye properly.

Bluebe11 Mon 13-Mar-17 09:48:09

I am a terrible cry baby, always have been a bit, but has got so much worse now I am older. Films, books, sad news reports, looking at old photos, my pride in kids and grandkids, slight disagreements, life frustrations etc. The list is endless and as others say, quite embarrassing at times ! Not just a few tears either, we are talking buckets !

radicalnan Mon 13-Mar-17 09:49:41

I can hold back tears now and rarely cry........just now and then when my control slips, I miss people but crying makes me ill. Migraine sets in, headaches red nose, blotchy face.........however, a sudden happy thing will catch me unawares, cried all my tears years and years of them...........take things more to heart literally now the pain settles in me and no tears to release it.

Kitspurr Mon 13-Mar-17 09:53:25

I'm a cry baby, always have been. I do wonder if it's because I was mollicoddled as a child and it's now my default setting. Having said that, I've had an awful year and cried buckets for many months, and now I find I'm not such a cryer these days. Don't think I've got many tears left now!

GrannyLondon Mon 13-Mar-17 10:00:10

Downtoearth, How dreadful for you, I am very sorry. x

Juggernaut Mon 13-Mar-17 10:02:59

My DF used to say that all the women in our family 'have their eyes connected to their bladder'.....well, we do all get damp eyed very easilyblush

HG15 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:03:51

My husband died suddenly just over 2 months ago. He has been very ill but was not expected to die when he did. Since then I have been surprised at how little I have cried, given that I loved him very much, miss him greatly and, certainly when I was younger, cried at the drop of a hat. Of course, grief is a strange thing and I don't have a clue what lies ahead as regards how I will be and how I will cope. There are reminders of him everywhere, and sometimes they upset me and sometimes they don't. If I do cry, I usually feel a better, but crying does make me feel tired. And I do try not to cry in front of others as they want to comfort me and say it is early days. I think people are often distressed by the distress of others. By the way I am a great believer in crying. I have never subscribed to the stiff upper lip school of thought.

GrandmaMoira Mon 13-Mar-17 10:12:05

I thought I was odd that I don't cry at the worst things such as the death of husband and parents but do sometimes at small things but I see others here are the same. I didn't cry for years but nowadays do cry more often though I try not to as I feel worse afterwards. I also cry if I lose my temper, though this is rare.

DotMH1901 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:18:25

I hate going to things at school, both with my own children and now my grandchildren. I find it very difficult not to cry at school concerts etc - when my kiddies were little my husband just used to pass me a packet of paper tissues. Odd things make me cry, like hearing my late husband's favourite song unexpectedly. I lost both my parents many years ago now and, although I did cry when they died, I didn't shed a tear at their funerals.

Smithy Mon 13-Mar-17 10:19:06

Same as you Granny60. I also felt like I'd already lost the mum I knew through dementia and still feel guilty ten years on that I didn't cry. Sadly my brother died a month ago aged 67 and I've wept buckets.

sarahellenwhitney Mon 13-Mar-17 10:25:45

Child and animal abuse. I can weep buckets with what I witness is happening to the innocent in this sick world.

Bellanonna Mon 13-Mar-17 10:34:14

HG15. I'm so sorry for your very recent loss.

Redheadcat Mon 13-Mar-17 10:36:35

I cry at the drop of a hat but laugh very easily too.

Lilyflower Mon 13-Mar-17 10:42:16

I cried all the time when I was teaching as it was all so stressful and bullying. Since I retired (early) five years ago I have hardly been upset enough to cry.

cloverpark Mon 13-Mar-17 10:43:38

These past few weeks I've needed a hanky by me as I watch Call the Midwife! Last of this series yesterday though.

grandMattie Mon 13-Mar-17 10:45:37

Gosh, I now am a fountain/tap - no, a waterfall. I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry watching TV, I cry when reading, I cry when hearing beautiful music, hearing children play, seeing something beautiful - set me off nowgrin The family has become used to it.
I used to never even well up until menopause... though I would have the occasional storm of tears over nothing, then not cry for another Oh! 18 months or so.
We are a funny lot of ladies, aren't we?

Kim19 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:55:32

My husband used to say 'one day I'll see what it takes'. He used to cry readily at emotional pain. Me? Never. That's not a boast; merely a fact. However his untimely death has been my only occasion in this life so...... he didn't get to see it. Maybe the fact that he caused it will suffice!!

ValC Mon 13-Mar-17 11:02:57

I too have got worse since I have got older. I was always very emotional but now I cry at the tv, stories in the paper, even some thoughts. I lost my sister recently and something will just set me off, we were very close and I have such good memories of the things we did together.

hulahoop Mon 13-Mar-17 11:16:22

I cry at the drop of a hat especially anything to do with children it can be good news or bad oh fills up if I'm upset but as been known to cry . I find if I try to stop it my head and throat aches .sometimes I just feel I have to cry and feel better for it pathetic really I suppose . I'm like you grandemattie . My family are also used to it .?

sue1169 Mon 13-Mar-17 11:17:59

Hate crying...dont feel in control..but been crying since about 6a.m...on&off...over things that can generally cope with....

Bellasnana Mon 13-Mar-17 11:49:10

No I don't cry. I seem to have lost the ability to do so even when feeling very sad. In the past I was a terrible cry-baby so perhaps I'm all cried out smile

annerogers Mon 13-Mar-17 12:50:52

Downtoearth I really feel for you, having lost a son years ago and then my mother and young niece within weeks of my niece's wedding I know grief at first hand but what you have gone through, well I have no words but I do admire the fact that you contribute on GN to the benefit of others. Sending you a huge cwtch [hug] flowers

mischief Mon 13-Mar-17 12:57:31

Yesterday, I was watching the news and I cried when the Syrian father, who had lost 3 of his children and one of his legs, was crying in anguish as he was taken to hospital. It was heartbreaking. I just wanted to hold him.