Tell me it will be okay!

No problem,Ellakat, I didn't notice any spelling mistakes ( possibly I make the same ones?) Deep breath, take it a day at a time & don't be afraid to speak up & say you are unsure if something will work or not, & don't shoulder all of the responsibilities. It's easier to add extra later but much harder to stop doing something once started. When I was growing up my gran came to live with us ,I was aged 7 ! It was decided I would have to share a bedroom with her( she didn't like being alone!!) my sister had a room to herself! hence why I say take your time & primaraly arrange things that suit you best , that way hopefully it will lessen the loss of some freedom that you are currently (understandably) concerned about , big hugs, be strong

Oh Ella what a lot to cope with so suddenly, of course you are nervous anyone would be. When things have calmed down a little sit quietly with your husband and take stock of the situation. Don't try to do everything yourself, get and accept help where it's available. Take one problem at a time and care for yourself too.

Thank you norose and sorry for all the typos in first post, typed too fast under stress!

Just waiting for them to arrive. Dad still in same condition, thankfully my brother is with him at the moment, but i will need to make th long journey to visit tomorrow.

My stomach is churning. I need to get a grip, dont i?

So sorry to read about your situation ELLAKEAT, yes we never know when our lives can be changed in a blink of an eye. When you reach a time or place in your life when you feel happy & contetend without responsibilities, it is perfectly understandable that you would be feeling as you do.We always paint a worse picture than it may actually be. Try to take a step at a time, and perhaps see what outside help/ groups associations their maybe available in your area for your mum. Also perhaps be cautious in time & help you give her intially, so that she doesn't get to rely on you for company etc all of the time. Goodluck, & best wishes