Photos of DGC on social media

My DL doesn't want me to put photos of the grandchildren online, and actually I agree. Who knows who is looking at them! I do send them sometimes in private messages.

I thought it was a parent's job to embarrass their children at some point! I'm sure we've all done it.
I do agree that we've gone PC mad and it's ridiculous in most cases. I remember a few years ago a TV presenter was prosecuted for taking naked photos of her 2(?) year old in the bath into Boots to be developed and Boots reported her to the Police. Stupid. We have to be so sensitive to anything and everything these days, it makes you wonder how the world has survived as long as it has without the "benefits" of PCism.

I wouldn't dream of posting photos of my g/kids despite having very tight security settings. I see many posts popping up on my timeline of strangers' photos that one of my family have posted a comment on!

My bro does not want his grandchildren on fb so I abide by this. I post my own grandkids ones but I select them carefully. Only friends and family but I choose very innocuous ones

In future I will be more circumspect when it comes to putting photos of my DGC on my Facebook page, although none of them could be deemed in any way provocative. Some of these posts are scaring me! I would actually hate any photos of myself on FB, especially now that I am 'mature' with all the warts and wrinkles that go with it.

I feel exactly the same, auntieflo
I absolutely hate the thought of my picture being put up on Facebook. (Though I don't know why anyone would!)
I hate having my photo taken at the best of times, and the thought of it "going public" is horrific, especially without being consulted.

I have said elsewhere that I only have Facebook so I can "stalk" my late brother's children otherwise I have very little idea if they are alive and solvent. I do this every so often usually on my parents ' anniversaries. I am amazed how much they divulge on their Facebook accounts. And I know Facebook must read my emails as people I email suddenly pop up as Facebook friends. I once emailed Hanoikids when I was going there and now have a dozen or so people in Hanoi offering friendship!

I think there is a total paranoia about paedophiles salivating over every picture of a child they ever come across, even if the child is bundled up in bed clothes to the neck.

Of course everyone should steer clear of posting pictures of children in any state of nakedness or in poses that could in anyway be considered provocative but recently DS posted a picture of DGS dressed as a bear in an old adult fake fur jacket, furry bear hood with ears, pulled well over his face, and clawlike bear gloves and slippers. He was only recognisable if you looked hard and already knew and loved him dearly.is that really going to get anyone hot under the collar?

As for me, I hate having my photo taken but if anyone gets one I am utterly indifferent to what happens to it afterwards. I am not my photograph.

If it helps with the 'privacy' debate my 25 year old daughter doesn't like anyone else putting pictures of her on social media so I do not suppose she would be happy with pictures of (potential) offspring being shared by others.

I really hate it myself when others put photos of me looking old and ghastly on Facebook.

I think it is a bit of an assumption of 'ownership' to make free with the images of others. Perhaps publishing images is so recent a phenomenon that we need a debate about it and generally to agree on a new etiquette about it.

My DH was a publisher and he says, make no mistake about it, putting images on public sites is publishing, legally speaking, and you are liable to libel laws.

Personally, I think a bit of common seense is called for. Everyone has pictures of their adored grandchildren and they have always shown them to family and friends. Still, a public website is something else.

Our FB settings may be secure, but how do we actually know our friends' settings are secure? It's not about whether pictures are provocative or not. It's the whole internet safety thing.My stomach is churning reading the posts. They have brought back to mind some very upsetting memories to do with photos of children and names mentioned on Facebook accounts with no privacy settings.

My son and DIL are totally against us putting photos of beautiful grandson on FB. Whilst I understand where they're coming from, I do feel sad that we cannot share photos. I should add that occasionally their friends posts photos of him and that seems to be ok. Funny that or, am I being paronoid?

A family, or family and friends, website is a more secure option.

I read somewhere that parents have posted pictures of their children asleep on Facebook much to the embarrassment of their offspring, as others have said, it's an invasion of privacy and I think the parent/s should consult the child before doing such a thing. Of course this is only an option once the child is old enough to understand. I have photographs on my phone of my grandchildren asleep on our sofa, but even if I were on a social media site, I wouldn't put these on it. I guess not having grown up with the internet, possibly our generation appreciates the right of the individual to be consulted about releasing an image of them which may embarrass them at a later stage.

Posting photos and proudly showing off our dgc to the world shouldn't be a problem. Unfortunately it has the potential to be. Redpaws makes a good point about Facebook having copyright over any photos posted - I don't understand copyright well enough to know what any individuals rights are, but feel cautious as this is not the first time this has been mentioned. My son tells me that it is not uncommon for potential employers to do an internet search of potential employees - one hopes that a pic of an applicant sitting on the potty 20 years ago would be meaningless (having doting grandparents
Should not be an impediment to employment) to a potential employer but who knows!
Generally speaking I think we need to support children in the concept that they have the right to control who does what with, or to, them and this could/should include images. My dil expressed clearly that she didn't want any dgc pics posted on social media and I both agree with her and respect that wish. I am occasionally horrified by some of the pics I have seen of friends children in the bath, naked on the beach etc., and not because of any prudery on my part but solely because of the reported incidence of peadopiles getting hold of such pics. It's a sad comment on current times, but the old adage "better safe than sorry" definitely applies on this case.

For myself, and I know I'm in the minority, I just find it weird that every aspect of peoples lives is now "shared" on social media.
I don't think anyone can know how a child will feel about it, once grown.

Thaat is a problem when I think about it, icanhandthemback.

Does your DIL actually tell other parents they can't post photos of birthday parties if they include your GC? And expect you to do the same?

We must be , as a family , in the minority then, looking at these posts forbidding pictures, never posting any , worrying if the children will be offended .

We have good security settings, those friends we share with have similar settings. We don't post provocative pictures but we do share in the lives of our children and grandchildren by posting photos on line.

My daughters have no issues with it, I can't believe the children will either .

when my eldest grandchild was born, I was told in no uncertain terms by DIL never to put any pictures of her or any other grandchildren she would produce onto FB or anywhere else on the Internet

My elder son works in on-line marketing and he does not want his children to have an on-line presence. This does not mean we can't use modern technology to share lots of wonderful photos / videos but only on direct links between specific people.

It depends on the photos - in my view, they should always be tasteful (not in the bath). I never write names.
My friends love to see the photos especially those who can't see them often or at all in real life.

My DIL strictly forbids anyone posting pictures of my DGS on Social Media which has caused great angst in some quarters of the family. It can be awkward at Birthday parties or other social events but I feel rather than denigrating her for her choice, my DIL should be applauded for having consideration for her child's rights. We may sometimes moan about this generation but they often don't trample on their children's rights in the way the generations preceding them did.

Craicon you can set up your security so that doesn't happen.

Sad, to see how we rush to embrace every new stricture and paranoid thought. Why would anyone be upset if a future employer could see a photo of them on the potty as a kid ? Everyone has sat on a pot, what we are doing is pretending that our common humanity is rather private and something to be hidden..........and ashamed of.

Is an employer so empowered as to censor the every picture taken, God only know most of the big companies are mired in the worst of corruptions, how soon do we want them to have power over us?

Before you all howl about cropped photos and paedophiles ........they don't need your family snaps, they have plenty of ways of plying their evil trades, encouraged by us in many ways.

We all use phones, computers, tablets and fashions made in sweat shops by kids abused in other countries and their pictures aren't on FB. Is it just our kids that matter and their familiar faces?

I have been up all night in pain and watching documentary about child brides aged 12........in America, land of the free.........not seen anyone marching about that, and dear old, trout faced Meryl never said a word.

Why are we so selective about what abuse we will accept?

Happy Valentines Day child brides of America, I expect your faces will be on FB somewhere..don't let it ruin your career opportunites.

I think we need to look at the bigger picture (no pun intended ) Since camera's have been around there have been Bonny Baby competitions which are posted in local newspapers .Way back in the 50s /60s in they hey day of holiday camps young children were pushed up on stage to do a little dance or a song. In the grand scheme of things there is not a big difference.

My daughter very rarely puts pictures of her children on facebook and I only do it with her consent, there is a great possibility of these photos being downloaded by anyone if the privacy settings are not selected properly