Should I expect him to help?

I too am very sorry to hear of your daughters illness Leah50

Men can have a very different coping mechanism to women sometimes although I am not speaking generally. Would he have normally washed the cups? or is he the kind of man that thinks shopping, washing up etc. is "women's work"?

Maybe he is feeling so sad that he has lost interest in the everyday practicalities. Would a gentle nudge help? Is he the type of man that needs to be told reminded of what needs doing?

I agree with Grannyknot do rant away (here) but not at your husband that won't solve anything.

Wishing you and your daughter lots of lots of

So sorry to hear about your daughter Leah

I'd be cross about the coffee cup too. Had he washed his own pots in the meantime or left them till you got home? I'd speak reasonably to your husband and explain everything you've said here. If he is too deaf to answer the phone could you send him text messages?

Leah I'm so sorry to read that your daughter is so ill.

You are justifiably upset at your husband. Rant away ... but on here.