Presents for grandchildren rejected

Well, if that's the case, I'm surprised that you're surprised by your DIL's reaction, Happygran!

Hi Elrel.

No thanks at all, not even for the bag of presents I gave to son and dil themselves.

I had already given money to my grandson and granddaughter but gave a few extra presents because my daughter was here with my other two granddaughters and I just wanted them all to have the same amount of presents to open!

Happygran I don`t think it unreasonable to buy as many presents as you wish for your GC providing they are not very expensive . Since when have parents vetted presents bought for their children? I don`t think you should apologise at all . I am sorry you have been upset by your Son , he sounds a bit odd to react in that way but it takes all sorts I suppose . I wouldn`t buy anything next year , just send some money to your Son and ask him to buy something pre approved for his children . He is in for a rude awakening when they are older , this much control can backfire

Sorry Jane but you are way off the mark. Eight small presents is hardly spoiling them, I bought more for my other grandchildren with no problems at all from my other children. You know nothing about my son and dil and believe me they control every aspect of my grandchildrens' loves to the point of not sending them to school as they don't want teachers to impose any form of discipline and they tell my grandchildren that they don't need to say please and thank you if they don't want to! They have a large house by the way.

Thanks for your opinion though.

If DiL was that bothered she could have censored the presents herself beforehand and just dished out the amount she approved. The others could have come out later on. Concentrate on the fact that your GC probably love the gifts you chose for them and will have no idea that granny goofed.
Son may have found that phone call hard to make, did the words 'thank you' get included at all? Personally I think they should have been.

Oh dear Happygran.
I don't want to add to your misery, but perhaps you could try seeing things from your DS and DiL's point of view.
Perhaps they worry that their children are 'spoilt' with too many material possessions.
Perhaps they don't have space in their house for all the stuff you give them.
Perhaps DiL's mother feels she can't compete with you and feels lessened by your largesse.
Perhaps they would rather have had the money to put into a savings account for the GCs, for something the GCs might want or need in the future, like travelling or a university education.
Perhaps they are not controlling at all, but just want to feel that their values regarding their children's upbringing are being respected by you.
Perhaps you'd better get on the phone and apologise.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but if I was your DiL I'd be livid.