Things that break your heart......

You're absolutely right Shanma - crying doesn't alter anything. C.S. Lewis famously said: 'Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.'

For me it's often a response to sorrow and frustration and it's a healthy one I think. (Has a quick look on google.) Yes, crying is actually good for you according to various researchers.

My mother says she only ever remembers me crying once as a child - I used to bottle up a lot of hurt and pain. Now I am comfortable expressing those sorts of emotions - I've been doing a lot of crying recently and even though it doesn't actually change things I feel it's an appropriate response to my circumstances.

I never cry anyway, it doesn't alter anything.

So sorry to hear that Grannypiper. We have experienced 3 miscarriages and 3 failed IVF in the last few years from DD1, DD2 and DDil. So distressing for them and sad also for us as Grans/Grandads. The what might have been.

So many things big and small make me cry. Yes Deedaa, that was way beyond sad.
But that flash mob video was brilliant Lucky - have now added seeing a flash mob to my bucket list, whether I'm lunching or not.

The thing that has upset me most in the last couple of weeks is the story of the premature baby left to die on her own inthe sluice room. The thought that anyone could just dump a living baby - even if she wasn't viable is absolutely heart wrenching.

Sorry, grannypiper, that is sad. Two of my daughters have had miscarriages, one 3, but they both have 2 beautiful children now - there is hope.

A mum in the queue in front of me in the cafe today. Adult daughter was obviously quite mentally challenged. Mum calmed her by drawing her close, cradling her head, and calling her "my little dearie". So sad. So beautiful.

I'm so sorry grannypiper that is very sad.

so sorry grannypiper.

DD has just miscarried her baby so its a sad day

cry at lots of things! Buckets when reading Me Before You! Music often makes me cry. Remember going with my own kids singing carols round the streets near their school and crying when I heard those childish voices and saw those innocent little faces. They are all grown up now!
Posts on GN often make me cry and of course the news - such sad things these days that we can do nothing about.
And as for the OP - as a past sufferer of depression I can appreciate the tremendous effort it took to write that letter - but it is a good sign that things are improving.

Thank you Disgruntled and Grannee

Day6 your stairy about your little grndaughter brought a lump to my throat though. Its usually chiren which make me dewy eyed (i never sob) ike seeing my little grandsonslook of wonder When seeing father christmas.

Lucky thanks for that, I would love to see a flash mob.
I cry at anything these days and I appreciate things more too since I got older.
Often I just feel overwhelmed with love for my family, and that makes me weepy! No hope for me

Am welling up just reading all these posts, what a softy! I cry at the Christmas adverts, Strictly when the dances are beautiful, choirs singing, our DGD1 empathy and concern over my DHs health, people being kind, people being unkind - well you name it! Am in the WI but can't sing Jerusalem for the life of me with a lump! I just love the expression your eyes are too close to your heart, never heard it put like that before. I'll have lunch with you Ruby, would love to see a flash mob, might even want to join in ?

I lost my sister to cancer this year. Christmas cards are moving me to tears as so many friends are putting lovely messages in saying they will be thinking of us all this Christmas. I don't feel very Christmassy yet but both she and I have grandchildren and it's hard to stay sad when I've been invited to see school nativity plays etc. But that's another thing that moves me to tears!

From about now until December 14th is over......

The only event where I can recall sobbing was at a dear friends funeral many years ago. She was early 40s and the funeral was held in the Lady's Chappel at St Albans Cathedral. I held myself together until they started singing All things Bright and Beautiful ....

Apart from that event no tears! Is there something wrong with me. A rhetorical question ?

Day6 just reading your post made me well up!
what an awful time you have had, do hope things will get better for you all.?

So many things can bring me to tears. I just cannot look at any clips depicting cruelty to animals. I have to look away. The same when I see suffering on the faces of those poor families living in war zones or in parts of the world where they starve or are stricken by diseases. The unfairness of it all hurts.

Some songs make me cry. I am having Danny Boy played at my funeral - I want a multi-Kleenex send-off.

Yes, young children singing carols always sets me off too. My heart hurts so much when my grown up children suffer. My sons have suffered horribly this last year and I feel so helpless, but their pain is my pain and I do cry myself to sleep sometimes, praying that life will be good to them..that they'll endure.

My darling granddaughter (3) had me in tears a few weeks ago.She was tiny when her Daddy became ill and died. I was sitting on her bed reading her a bedtime story recently which mentioned a Mummy and Daddy Owl going to sleep in a tree...She looked straight at me and said "My Daddy was poorly and he didn't get better. He is asleep in the sky now..." I had to look away and blow my nose. Whenever she drifts off to sleep as I sing to her I want to cry. She is such a sweet, innocent thing. The preciousness of her touches my heart.

I still cry at the loss of my dear Mum. She died in 2000, at a good old age but I miss her so much - her cheery nature, unconditional love and words of wisdom were my strength when my life was hard.

I like to think I am slightly cynical but I am not. My insides are melting as I get older and the outer shell is trying to hold it all together.

Hearing about your nephew Katek reminded me of DS apologising to us for being a nuisance when he came round in intensive care because we had flown to Japan to see him.

Swanny - your post moved ME to tears!

Please lets be nice to each other even if we dont like their postings. I am sorry Rubylady I can only think that the difficult day you had and the stress of being smiley akll day was just a bit to much for you and you took it out on Shanma. sending you some to cheer you up

Thank you lucky girl

Learning that you've become a great great grandmother on Facebook is heartbreaking enough and then being denied access is devastating. There are all kinds of cruelty which you just have to accept