This will please many of you

Nelliemoser,what did I do?other than point out that some people here are very nasty to the verge of poisonous,which they are,and the fact that two wrongs don't make a right.
The reason I felt the need to point this out is because I can't stand injustice or hypocrisy.Those self same nasty things will hand out very sympathetic advice on other threads,are they also condescending and patronising?You tell me.

I didn't mean it like that - my ego is not dependent upon having the last word. I just thought absent's post said it all. Why so scratchy?

You're very keen on having the last word Rigby .

Telling people to end a thread never works .

That's the trouble with a public forum , you put your thoughts out there and then its out of your control . This thing has legs for as long as people with to discuss/debate/pontificate and neither you , I or anyone else will stop it in its tracks sadly.

Yes , a good post absent - it's measured and balanced and it would be a good way to close this thread now.

Good post, Absent.

Well said Shanma, and welcome back.

I know only to well what its like being berated by the bullies on gransnet and its about time admin sifted them out!

Shanma You are correct in saying that on a public forum you have every right to say what you think – and that includes Gransnet. However, on Gransnet, you may not verbally attack individuals (see Gransnet rules). Equally, other Gransnetters have a right to say what they think, but may not verbally attack individuals. Some on this thread have, clearly, overstepped the mark and this is equally wrong. Others haven't.

I glance through Gransnet only occasionally these days and have seen few, if any of your other posts. From what I learn through reading this thread, I am sorry to learn that you are going through a tough patch in your life and wish you well. Nevertheless, I don't think having a difficult, trying or painful time in anyone's life justifies rudeness, aggression or superciliousness towards others.

Bye then.

Thanks to those who have been kind on here. I do appreciate it.

In answer to some of the other's questions. I didn't " Flounce". I didn't type off a quick after midnight rant either. That time of night is normal for my postings. I am normally not to bed until about 12.30.
It was not a rant, it was a measured voicing of my opinions of certain posters on GN. I didn't leave because to be honest I thought I would just get kicked out by the powers that be. A couple of days later on checking my e mail I saw that this was not the case, so came on and had a look.
There are people on here telling me to go, telling me that most of my posts have been " Nasty"?? I have looked back through my posts, I don't know what you have all been reading but I doubt very much you can show me these nasty posts, there are none.

I think that some of the posters, especially those who have been on GN for a long time think that they hold the monopoly, and that if someone...anyone, disagrees then they are, by definition, being nasty.

I was shocked and pretty disgusted to see many posters with whom I have had NO communication jumping in to berate me. Shame on you
shame on all those who act this way.

It has also been suggested that perhaps I come back with a different user name and start again!!, what? a whole different persona, no thank you that is not my style.

For your information, and this is directed to the bullying group on here, of whom there seem to be many. This is not a private club, it is a public forum open to all, and I have as much right to say what I think on here as do any of you. Don't presume to tell me what to say, having read some of the things SOME people have put on this thread none of you has the right to question what I say.

Don't tell me what to do, you have been the prime mover in flogging this particular dead horse.
The thread had disappeared off the page until it was resurrected this afternoon as far i could see, to add precisely zilch/rien/nada/Nichts to a non-thread.
Only too happy to ?Let It Go?

Anyway, mum is right and that includes you DB

Nellie well rightly or wrongly I thought you were including me in your comments snd it really annoyed me. I really hate this 'some posters' rubbish - if you (and others) want to make accusations against certain posters, you should name them rather than throw out some generality that tars many with the same brush. You may not like the stance that I have taken on this thread but that's another issue

OP flounced. OP left. left, OP didn't.
End of.

Can I repeat what I said 24 hours ago? Please can this thread now RIP.

Rigby46 To answer your question, what I am thinking is that stillalive shanma and Marmark1 ?perhaps AN Other seem to me to all have a similar style of posting and the content of what is being said seems familar.
I am wondering if some of these posters have been on GN before. I don't know what former names to suggest as a number of past posters have had several names.

And a bit of judicious stirring was entirely accidental

Well DB because when someone, who yes may not have behaved well, is pilloried and bullied by many others and who I suspect from previous threads is probably vulnerable, I ( and others) felt it was right to offer support. I would call that being kind snd humane and not you know walking by on the other side. You walk where you want.and answer to your own conscience and I'll do the same. OK?

Why don't didn't you just leave shanma to speak for herself?

Jud as would be said on MN, I am clearly over invested in this thread. But there you go - why do we need to know what caused the OP? It wasn't OK but neither were many responses. Of course it should be left now but some posters are now throwing around pathetic conspiracy theories to keep it all going and I couldn't resist reacting. If you're worried about the OP why not PM her or else leave it

Well, firstly a reassurance to anyone who may have thought I was defunct, should anyone have missed my presence on GN. I just got a bit fed up with some of the unnecessary unpleasantness on here and decided to give it a rest. However, I missed the contact and have been lurking today.

I just happened to be browsing the active posts this evening and came across a heartfelt post by Shanma on Tue 22-Nov-16 00:02:56. She was clearly feeling miserable and several people responded to her in a supportive way for which she seemed to be grateful. So..........what has caused this latest post? I am confused!

So come on Nellie, Kitty and Granny what do you actually mean? Just say it rather than being so oblique

When I first posted on this thread I said there were some honourable exceptions i.e. not everyone was being mean to the OP. What on earth is it now with the conspiracy theorists? I don't have a profile page - is this a rule of Gransnet Royalty? I not in a group of posters working together - I simply sent a PM to the OP checking she was OK after the onslaught some of you put her through? Can't some of you believe that there is an unconnected group of decent people who think there has been some pretty awful posts on this thread and are prepared to say so - if I were into conspiracy theories I might hazard a guess that those who think that way may be basing it on their own nefarious behaviour.

And none of them have Profile pages. I think we are being taken for a ride by someone who thinks they are very clever, Hmm. Best left to talk to themselves

I was thinking along the same lines. Nellie.

Why do I get the impression that there is a group of posters all working together here. Or alternatively one person with lots of different internet devices.