This will please many of you

Oh, and for the record, I've met Elegran, who is terribly bright, kind and insightful.

I have only noticed your posts relatively recently Shanma, maybe you have changed your name as I get the impression you have been on GNet for a while? Could just be my rotten memory of course. Anyway, may I say that sometimes you come across to me as needing a little tlc, at others you appear ready for a fight with someone, anyone will do. Whatever, here's hoping you find solace and happiness away from Gransnet which obviously isn't for you.

I too have found Gransnet members very helpful and supportive and good company, especially for those of us who are far away from our DGC. If I disagree with any particular discussion or the way it is going I do not look at it again, although I have to say these are few and far between. Yes there are those who have very strong views, but that is life. If it is not to your taste move on but naming people is not helpful.

I had the pleasure of meeting Anya earlier this year at a GN Meet Up in Oxford. She was friendly, fun and articulate, so I speak from experience.

I have also been in touch with Kittylester who has also come in for some unkind comments from Shanma and she has a lovely sense of humour and I look forward to her posts.

This forum is obviously not for you Shanma so I think you are right to leave us to discuss, disagree, inform, tell jokes and generally enjoy each other's company.

Gransnet has hundreds of members and many more than three who post very regularly. Far too many to be cliquey. Of course there will be one or two members who one finds irritating, but that's life, it is no different to ordinary everyday offline life and even then one cannot always cut these people out of one's life.
I have been on Gransnet almost from inception. I have had the occasional clash but mainly I have found GN members kind, compassionate, and witty. of course there is the occasional spat, but again, that is life.

Personally, I only very vaguely recognise the name of the OP and I have no memory at all of which threads she posted on so have no idea which threads caused her so much upset. If I find I do not like the tone of a thread, I just leave it alone and move on to a more congenial one.

I am sad that a member is leaving the forum feeling so bitter and hope that one member's unhappiness will not stop others jpining what is a generally a happy and supportive forum.

Will you come back with a different user name ?

My take on this is that I think you really do want to belong to GN, but it's not developed in the manner you'd hoped for, and you're pissed off about that.

I seem to remember a thread you started when feeling fed up, and you had some kind and supportive responses.

Why are you really so angry and unhappy??

I realise that I am feeding the fire, but why mention it and not just stop posting?

Each to their own I suppose, no going gently into the non GN world Shanma. Hope you feel better having vented, have a great Christmas.

That's so unkind and unnecessary - especially mentioning individuals. Gransnet has been great to me over the years.

I've only vaguely noticed her posts but this one strikes me as hurt and angry. There are some threads which run, I can think of two running currently, where people are quite rude. Typed/written things often seem more harsh. I've seen one post today of someone saying she'd stopped using the site because of a few posters. The moderators say they have a light touch, I wonder if a little more kindness and thought before posting, especially at this time of year might not be good. And before someone calls me a snowflake, as I saw hurled out today, well, that's just bullying.

Och s/he's obviously a poor soul who's completely missed the point of GN.

Must be chilly up there on that high horse

…and some Gransnetters think it is wrong to have a report button and a rule about personal attacks? That is a truly horrible OP. I think I have probably disagreed with all the people mentioned in the OP at one time or another, some more than others, but I wouldn't dream of saying anything so directly rude, unkind or supercilious. What on earth has happened to Gransnet? I am at a loss as a I read some of the recent threads.

Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

Have a nice flounce.

What an arrogant and smug post.
If something is Just not your style, accept it as that, no need for personal insults.