Gransnet today....Just my opinion.

Well I suppose we can all misread posts DB when there's not much to go on. But I did reply calmly and without ranting or throwing accusations about.

Well actually the original post was meant as a little gentle "joshing" but As a newbie I hadn't appreciated that Anya doesn't take kindly to that sort of thing. I won't do it again?

Which may not be quite what was meant?

I can of course see through your post Jayanna as I said I'm very astute like that. Not very subtle I'm afraid.

Yup. Agree with you there. One face to their friends and people who are in agreement with them and a completely different attitude to others.

I said I was a real softie when it came to the sad and lonely if I remember correctly Jayanna and I think I encouraged those on the thread to bite the bullet and give them some company when they could spare it. And yes, I was shocked by some on the posts in that thread but said little.

Now when it comes to nastiness and potential bullying, then I'll step in and say ' that's not on' or 'back off'. I suppose that's another way of sticking up for the underdog.

Because I'm a soft touch for my grandkids, street people, and the sad and lonely doesn't mean I'm stupid.

I'm very aware of how some people operate, manipulate and show one face to their friends and a completey different side to others. GN is a microcosm of society.

Is this the Anya who said she was "a real softie" and who just a few days ago was telling an OP on another thread to be kind? Or am I mixing you up with someone else?

How does the 'bickering' start?

Well said Mumsy.

Im not being holier than thou or need to lighten up thankyou.

Elegran, like you I too am getting sick of the nastiness and sneering on gransnet, ( it always seems to be the same posters every time!) theres no need for it and its spoiling the forums for a lot of gransnetters

My attempt to lighten the tone has crash-landed - what else can my DGD say to raise a smile?! Can it get any worse?

I'd rather have a short burst of foul language than a succession of snide remarks, too. There are too many of those bandied about, with their inherent unpleasantness inflicting more hurt than a brief swear word.

In recent months, a lot of veiled nastiness has been rife (and some open sneering) and I for one am quite sick of it. It has happened before, and will die down in its season, but it does not make Gransnet fun to be on. Surely that is why we post, to enjoy the company, not to put others down.

Sorry you're not feeling great Anya. I thought your response was pretty funny. Something about the timing I suppose. 'Its the way you tell them' as Frank Carson would say.
Lighten up Mumsy!

Be careful Mumsy with holier than though posts, I'm in a particularly bad mood due to a horrible cold that I've had for a week and a non stop hacking cough. Not in a conciliatory mood and liable to bite back.

Why do threads have to turn into a childrens playground with the name calling and bickering! Grow up!!

Anya ! and

I agree ffin so on that note, you talk a load of shit Shanma

I'd much rather have an out and out swear word or clarity of one's feelings, than snide comments or sarcasm, which are often wrapped up in saying ^ it's just a joke^ .

I don't think saying a post is pathetic is calling anyone names to be honest. I think I get my posts put down now and then ( And I don't mean just these ones). It's a forum we don't have to all agree.

One thing you will not find from me is foul language, which seems to be springing up quite alot on here of late. Personally I don't like to see/hear it. I think it is a poor thing if one cannot express oneself without using a profanity.

I don't complain about it though because it is allowed, as is being able to say what one thinks about another person's post.

But we do. Like at school when the teacher said we would all get detention if the culprit didn't own up.

Nobody should feel guilty if they aren't.

Shanma . As many on here appear to suddenly feel they are in danger of being "accused of sneaking" the atmosphere on here seems very like that of what I have heard about the Mccarthyism era.

There will be no age restriction in Hell's Kitchen Luckygirl. Your DGD is in!

I think I qualify too - as does my DGD aged 4. Took her Mum onto the playground and wanted to show her the prams that the reception class play with. She said that she and a friend had been naming them - that one is called George, that one is called Sam and that one is called The Fucking Pram - how random is that?! It has been the source of much hilarity as you can imagine!