What a Day

She didn't go Nina

Didn't shanma not tell us she was leaving the forum ?

Yes, Shanma, I hope you've had some good news by now. Do let us know. It's an anxious time waiting for results.

Hi Shanma just wondering how things are and if you you are getting a better nights sleep.
Also how your Mammogram went and if you have had news back yet.

So all those Specsaver's advertisements are TRUE!

We ve all done it I was on a train journey with the grandkids and pointed out 'the geese over there' only to be told Nan they re sand bags

Good luck Shanma I haven't followed your previous posts so not sure what the meeting was for but glad it went well and nothing to add to all the positive advice that's been given Take it bit by bit break it down or else it overwhelms

Good luck with the mammogram

rubylady - I remember years ago yelling at what I thought was the dog only to realise it was a pair of my black boots. I was quite stressed at the time!

Shanma I wouldn't call myself sensible, I was talking to a pair of black trousers the other day that had fallen on the floor, thinking they were the dog! #losingit!

Thanks Tizliz! Good to know.

For those worried about pets whilst in hospital The Cinnamon Trust can help www.cinnamon.org.uk/cinnamon-trust/

Shanma - ten hours of sleep sounds ideal!

Thanks Ruby,
So many good suggestions . It is nice to talk to someone sensible when one's own head is all over the place.

I did sleep for TEN solid hours last night though!! I think the day took more out of me than I thought

Another idea is Age UK, they might know things too.

Shanma I'm glad that you got to your meeting in time and without any hassle. That is one thing done and dusted for you.

You are very brave to go back through the doors of the breast clinic. I have put mine off until the New Year. I can't cope with anything else just now.

I got told today that I need a blood test to see if my heart failure if getting worse and an operation is in the offing. I will have a similar problem, no one to look after the animals here while I am in having the operation. But something will work out, it has to if I need to go in. There is a lot of help out there, it is just trying to find it. Have you got in touch with SS? Maybe they can help with your husband? Is there a Ring and Ride in your area for your hospital visit? Or hospital transport from the hospital you are going to?

With respect of worrying about going into hospital, it is right to go with the flow, but to have an understanding of how you would cope is not a bad thing. Maybe have a word with a practice nurse at your surgery? Or, and this might be a long shot, but the pharmacy might know a thing or two or even the library. Our old library used to have folders of leaflets of organisations which help people etc.

Write down your worries in the middle of the night, get it out. And then sort out what you can do something about, what you cant. Then promise yourself that you will make phone calls etc in the morning about what you can change.

I wish you all the best with your mammogram.

So glad the journey worked out well and you were able to have your say at the meeting. You will sleep better tonight. ?

Thank You all so much for the support and helpful suggestions. I did get to the meeting on time, and the buses ran like clockwork ,
The meeting was delayed a little as the Chair who was travelling from Huddersfield was delayed as he travelled by train and there was some flooding in a tunnel. I will not know the outcome of the meeting for about a month, and of course everyone had their poker faces on so I can't tell how it went really. I will say though that it also ran like clockwork, very professional, and I was given as much time as I needed to put all of my points accross, and I did.

The mammogramme isn't a problem to get to, it is on the mobile unit a very short busride away. I am worrying in advance in case I need an operation!! I do have these worrying tendencies. I guess made worse by the fact that I have had Breast Cancer, and was discharged three years ago, so this is the first mammogramme since my discharge. I don't have any symptoms but then neither did I when they found the first one. I am going to try to stop conjouring up trouble now and try to go with the flo.

I must say I am very tired after today, and I had no time to eat from 6 in the morning until I got home at teatime, That won't do any harm anyway, the odd fast never hurts.
Thank HYou all agin, it is nice to get a different perspective on things, and to realise that one is not alone .

I hope things work out for you, Shanma, and you got back home safe and sound.
I'm like you, always thinking of all the problems that might crop up. On Sunday we had to go on a long complicated car journey to a big city. All night I was thinking, we'll get lost in the dual carriageway system, the satnav won't work, the car will have that old problem etc.
In the end all 3 dreaded things happened, but we lived through it and got home ok. Thank God.
Hope it taught me a lesson, but I doubt it.

shanma Best wishes and a hug, I too suffer dreadful anxiety and nothing seems to make it go away. I hope your journey is event free and you feel a bit better tomorrow

Can't better the helpful suggestions made by others shanma, hoping today is going as well as it can and you will sleep tonight. The middle of the night thoughts are the worst.

. Shanma Sending you good wishes.
There was storm in your head as well as tempest outside.

I hope you make your meetings with out too much disruption
I can't add to thoughts and suggestions other than things usually work out one or another.

I have used ambuline
This is a ambulance type service
(seats)
I booked it to take my father to his hospital treatments as it was to difficult to get him in to my car.

Some hospitals run a car volunteer service.

I hope you are able to get some sleep tonight after your exhausting day.

Can you try for a Personal Assistant from Council in interim?

via Google I mean

Shanma My DH used to volunteer for a charity which provided transport for patients who had difficulty getting to hospital appointments. I think the patients had to pay a small charge. Perhaps you could find something similar in your area re Google. Good luck.

My best wishes to you Shanma - I hope it all works out for you. Easier to say than do but "ONE DAY AT A TIME"

Oh dear Shanma I do feel for you. To paraphrase Shakespeare's Hamlet,
"When sorrows worries come, they come not single spies, but in battalions.'
And I can understand why these worries are keeping you awake.
I too have had sleepless night worrying about how on earth DH could manage if I were ill or incapacitated (he wouldn't he needs more or less constant care) or who would look after my poor elderly Grace (no-one) and dreaded my last mammogram just a few weeks ago for exactly those reasons.
What can you change about your worries?
Not a lot about the weather conditions, but if you are affected, so will other people be and no one will think the worse of you if that happens.
The mammogram - well, easy to say after the event, but if you have had no symptoms this is a case of being on the safe side. You know that ignoring something does not make it go away, worst case scenario is that early diagnosis gives you a better than fighting chance.
I hope the clear light of day will help you to find a calmer frame of mind, that your journeys will be safe and that your mammogram result brings you peace of mind.