Why are so many Gransnetters so misandrist

New word for me to
Does it really figure if you dislike a way someone works or don't agree with some aspects you are then a ' man hater' can't you like and get on with men but still dislikes some of their ways ?

Ana I think you are absolutely right.
Be careful Wb you might be cut off in your prime!!!

MOnica, it is a bit like a women's group or a man's group absolutely anywhere.
If the group is almost totally made of women or men, this happens.

Quite Bluebelle.

LOL, you missed my prime by about 30 years.

I'm an equal opportunities disliker: there are some men I don't like and some women I don't like. Not very many of each as mostly I like most people irrespective of gender.

Jane10, precisely

Feel the love

Hold on. I haven't seen the threads mentioned in the OP but the usual ones that crop up on Gransnet seem to be about silly nuisance things that someone's husband does habitually, such as offer to help cook supper once it is already in the oven, or carefully weed out a bunch of lovely planted seedlings in the garden. Surely a misandrist is a woman who actively hates all men, just as a misogynist actively hates all women, not simply a tired woman who complains that her husband never puts his dirty clothes in the laundry basket.

wobbly your post of 19:36 had me running off to check the meaning. I think we're safe.

Phew

The men on this forum have been known to make light-hearted remarks about their female spouses - I think we usually smile at these. We understand a joke when we see one.

Sorry guys, Wobbly, I certainly did not start the "I want a man" thread thinking that men would be put down. I would love to have a man friend, not a permanent fixture, but then I don't want a permanent fixture of either sex, but just a friend, who can have a laugh and men do tend to see things rather differently to women, in my opinion. I have had plenty of male friends in the past, from being a little girl and I miss them being around now. So no, not an intention at all, I like men, not all of them, but I treat as I find, in both sexes. Wobbly, you are one of the best, pity you have a Mrs. Wobbly

absent I agree entirely. The teasing and banter between the sexes shows affection rather than dislike. There is a huge difference but if you have to explain that to someone it probably means that they will just never get it. Lighten up springs to mind.

I like the word. My post yesterday was lovingly written I hope. Just tongue in cheek banter, as has been said. Part.of teasing really, not slagging off or point scoring.

P.S..Don't get a chance to speak to many women as the family is all.men.

Ruby, I never considered that you started that thread to have a go at men, and I don't think that it has turned out that way, quite funny in places.
I did consider asking Mrs WB here opinion, but I thought it better to let sleeping dogs lie, I might not like the truth.

On Monday nights I play with Maldon Ukulele Group. We are a mixed group in every way. The banter/teasing between the sexes is endless. However you can tell by the blank faces, a few just don't get the humour. Come home every Monday night with a smile on my face.
The banter carries on between meetings on our Facebook page.

Most of my women friends have annoying traits too and if there someone started a thread about it I would join in. It doesn't mean that I hate them, just that they are not perfect, thankfully! Just like DH or even me!!

I'm sure all of us have traits that some others find annoying, hopefully when we choose our partner in life those negative traits are outweighed by the positive ones.
I'm sure that if I asked Mrs P (I'm not risking that though) she would say, messy, untidy, grumpy, miserable, etc etc.

I seem to remember a thread where we posted what we were each wearing which revealed we also have the ability to criticize/see the funny side of ourselves

I don't think there's real misandry here. There are a lot of women letting off steam about their nearest and dearest and that's not quite the same thing. Misandry suggests a dislike of all the male species and I don't see any sign of that!

WB you will have to be careful - Mrs WB and Mrs P

I have a funny feeling that it is not so very good to know words like misogyny or misandry as you can then be on the lookout for it to take offence. I have to confess that neither DH or I knew the term misandry until today but I don't think it will add anything positive to our lives.

If anyone heard DH and me sometimes when we are on our own and calling each other names they would be hard put to understand why we are still together after all these years. We know and understand each other so well that we know exactly what a reaction will be to anything that is said. When DH calls me a ratbag I just say," But I am your ratbag" and he knows that is what I will say (and vice versa) and so we both laugh and any situation is diffused.
I really enjoy the banter with male friends in particular and have a really good laugh. It is never serious. As wobblybits says it really is good fun and you do have a big smile on your face. Sometimes the fact that some people don't see the humour can make it even funnier and we can be helpless with laughter.

We all sound off to friends whether they are RL or virtual and often it is a method of diffusing situations. It is so interesting to see that what we might find so irritating is actually pretty common and often folk realise that life is too short for all that and we shouldn't get so steamed up about 'stuff'.

When it is sheer bullying then it is a very different matter and can be easily seen as such. Care certainly needs to be taken when reading situations and shrugging things off is to encouraged for a happier life so if it helps to have a virtual sounding off session then why ever not?!

Synonymous you have reminded me of an old couple H and I knew when you say about yours and DH's banter. They never seemed to have a good word for each other but were still together in their 80's when when it came to Dolly's funeral Len cried like a baby.
My friends H and I rib each other a lot. She says I'm the only one of her friends who knows how to take him. I love him to bits

Nina I have to confess we don't do it in public intentionally - although we just may???? Thinks! Don't know!
Anyway, we also tell each other just how much we appreciate each other and give thanks for nice and /or kind gestures. We both know we would be totally lost without the other and yes we probably do irritate each other sometimes but life is generally calm and pleasant so we have much to be thankful for.
We both like to laugh!