Any one with a perfect husband?

I'm just in shock he cuts the hedge! My Mr Perfect 'Not' doesn't do a thing in the garden.
Everything he does is right & if he knows he has a failing he just won't do it ( gardening, decorating etc)
Mind you if you want a programme written on HOW to do anything in any electronic format you can think of- he's your man!!

Mine is the love of my life, but he isn't perfect - difficult, cantankerous, knows it all etc. He, on the other hand, wouldn't admit it, but he does have the perfect wife!

My DH, as much as I love him has the tendency to be controlling as there is a fine line between 'advising' you to controlling you.
Don't worry, I only let him go so far before I say enough is enough.

When we go shopping he packs the bags at the checkout. The woman on the checkout will say what a good DH he is and all that but his true reason for doing it is because he thinks I can't pack bags properly, don't know how I managed before we met!
He doesn't even like it when the lady on the checkout starts packing bags, he will stop her and say "I'll pack my own bags thank you"

He always makes tea in a teapot but when he's poorly I'll only make the first drink of the day in the teapot for him, the rest of the day it's teabag in a mug.

oh I could go on and on but I can tolerate his bossiness, what I am having trouble with is are his mood swings caused by pain and his forgetfulness where he will almost argue with me over something he says he did or didn't say.

As an good friend of mine keeps saying, "growing old ain't for Sissy's"

Oh dear! I think I'm the perfect one

HildajenniJ I had some similar advice but the older I get, the harder I find it to follow.

My Dad always said there were two views on everything - his and the wrong one. When he was alive he and my husband did not get on very well. Now, my husband has become my father!
My view is that my Mum's maiden name was Wright, so I'm always half right, even when I'm wrong. It makes for some interesting "discussions."

My mother gave me good advice on my wedding day. She said, "Remember that your husband is always right, even when he's wrong." It has stood me in good stead over the years!

In the 'Archers' on Beeb4 recently there was a story line about 'coercive control' and it really touched a nerve in the listening public's awareness and elicited a huge response. It takes on many guises and is generally hidden from view to all but the unfortunate recipient. If someone is so perfect then let them get on with it and if the worst comes to the worst the only solution is to maybe walk away.

chocolatechomp your post so made me laugh out loud - I spilled my coffee and am just off to change my shirt! .

My DH is a darling but can be prone to switching the blame .. we've now turned this into a joke, fortunately he is able to laugh at himself.

I think it must have been your fault somewhere along the line LulkyDully, like mine he has a truly amazing knack of blaming me. I think he would have said I shouldn't have let him borrow the hedge trimmer in the first place

Or he didn't know the wire was there I should have told him.

Or not his fault the wire was there.

Or the hedge was thicker than I'd said

Or the silly person shouldn't have put wire in the hedge - that wasn't you was it

The list goes on
Let us know if you find a solution to cure this.

I knew I'd married Mr Right but didn't know his first name was Always and after we got married I sold my complete set of Encyclopedias cause he knows blimmin everything ?

Appears that that all have this in them!...mr always right...even when he's wrong....I just let it go over my head now...Not worth the energy...I used to say that if the world blew up it'd be my fault..
but who cares....what are they without us to blame...NOTHING...

Greyduster apology is such a difficult word to pronounce, my OH has difficulty with it as well

I can so relate to the bit sbout him turning the blame on you!! My dh was an absolute master at doing that. In fact, whenever he dropped something or broke anything, or did anything wrong, i used to say "how on earth did i make that happen?" My sarcasm was wasted on him though, as he usually replied "well, its funny but if you
Had'nt done....../put........./moved........./ changed..........., it would not have happened!" I remember he dropped my mil's very precious china teapot one day whilst i was out and when i came home he said it fell out of the cupboard because i had not put it way properly!!! The fact that it had sat on the same shelf, in the same cupboard, in the same position for over 15 years was of no relevance! They are to be pitied for their insecurity!

BPJ are you my bil. His wife knows everything and is never wrong. From baking bread to retiling the roof. She is an expert driver (will admit that she can do parallel parking) but forgets about the TWO dogs (both her husband's) she has run over.

Luckily they live in France so we rarely visit and she has never come to us.

I'm sure my DH would agree with BPJ. My best friend is always saying I have the perfect husband - but she doesn't have to live with him! . We went out on Sunday and had to use the satnav for the first time in ages. I set it and thought it was okay until it took us down the road, round the roundabout and back into our drive, where he had a complete meltdown and blamed me for not being able to remember how to set it up! So I told him to b****y well set it up if he was so clever, and he did - and it took us down the road, round the roundabout and back into our drive! We gave up in the end and got the map book out, but it is difficult to give directions if you are barely on speaking terms! He doesn't know the meaning of the word 'apology'.

Mrs P does say I'm not perfect sometimes, but She can't always be right.

Not just me then!!! Mr LD is off to Tescos this afternoon for his clickncollect replacement hedge cutters !!!!

Oh yes! I was out recently and when i came home the back door key was missing. He tried to blame me, even though it was there when I went out, and gone when I got home. After much searching there was no sign of it. The next day he suddenly rushed out to the car. He then came in and said he had worked out where the key was. I must have thrown it in the bin with the recycling. He then went to the bin and came back with the key! I was astounded, and told him it was obvious he had just found it in his car. It was so blatant he had to admit that's where he'd found it. He couldn't bring himself to admit he'd been the one to lose it.

My DH thinks it is vital to his amour propre to be right all the time and so it is devastating for him to be found out as wanting. I couldn't give a stuff about being wrong as, after all, who is perfect? Making mistakes is also how we adapt and learn.

I made a huge batch of ginger marmalade from ginger Tesco's delivered and wouldn't take away when I said I hadn't ordered it. It tasted OKish but the 'bits' were stringy and I threw it without a qualm. My DH was very upset though on my behalf feeling shame for my 'bodge up' that I certainly did not feel. I felt this was counter productive as, without experimenting on a 'no judging' basis, nothing would move forward. And anyway, the ginger debacle made me feel even better about the other jams I have made which were successful.

What is it with men and their silly pride and 'face'? They all think they are what my dad used to call 'Body Every Self'.

I thought all men were perfect.
My OH has always said so therefore it must be true. nodding sagely

Snap Teetime. We all had silly nicknames in my family, which my DH found very amusing back then. He became known as Peter Perfect (behind his back), because he was always 'right'. My sister married an American and we called him Rupert, because of his preference (then) for checked trousers. As he hadn't come across Rupert Bear he never understood why.

Gosh I had one like that. You said black he said white etc. Genorous to a fault, fabulous holidays lovely lifestyle BUT I lived in a state of anxiety. In the end I divorced him. Best thing I ever did.

Mine too!