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Would you want to know?

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Grannygrumps60 Mon 12-Sept-16 10:42:28

If I'd known then what I know now, I would probably have worked much harder at school and therefore been away at uni instead of at the party where I met my ex. Then my two wonderful children would never have been born and I would not have my beautiful 3 week old grandson now.

Angela1961 Mon 12-Sept-16 10:37:17

My mother had a terminal cancer diagnosis . She did not want to know but as I was with her at the hospital didn't mind if I was told. I've always needed to know the bigger picture so I found out. (Was told about 3 months ) As I was staying with her ( I lived over 250 miles away ) I remained at her house caring for her until she died 10 weeks later. If I had such a diagnosis I would want to know.
But if we are just talking about life's general path - my way on looking a things is life is about the journey not the destination.

Skweek1 Mon 12-Sept-16 10:30:42

As a clairvoyant/astrologer/tarot reader, I've discovered that the future isn't set in stone - only potentials. That said, I like to have some idea of where I'm going, planning for the worst, but knowing that it won't be that bad. Now I've done my best to be prepared, I can relax.

Tessa101 Mon 12-Sept-16 10:30:17

Falcon bird bless you, I'm with jane 10,I wish you well.Keep those positive thoughts.flowers

Falconbird Mon 12-Sept-16 10:17:24

Thanks Jane10.smile

I used to be a Girl Guide and believed in the motto "be prepared." I can't let go of it and often wish I could. It's good to have a realistic view of events to come but not good to be always worrying about how they can be dealt with or avoided.

Anya Mon 12-Sept-16 08:50:56

But sometimes the future can be altered....that accident wasn't inevitable. Yes, if I could be there to say, don't cross the road just now or take a different route home tonight or buy that sleep monitor.

If that would require knowing in advance then I'd want to know,

PRINTMISS Mon 12-Sept-16 08:27:50

Take each day as it comes is my motto now, I have worried so much in the past about what might happen, that I lost the ability to enjoy the day. That is not the case now.

Jane10 Mon 12-Sept-16 08:23:01

I hope you do falconbird and that you can enjoy at least a day at a time.flowers

Falconbird Mon 12-Sept-16 06:37:21

When I got married and started a family I was full of confidence and optimism. If I could have seen into the future I'm not sure if I could have coped with it. At the moment I'm just hoping I will make it to my 70th at the end of the year.

morethan2 Mon 12-Sept-16 06:22:35

No thanks. I think that's what causes half of my anxieties is worry about what's going to happen. I'd worry more if it was for the worse. I'm trying very hard to live in the moment. I don't always succeed but that's the way I'd love to live.

annodomini Sun 11-Sept-16 19:32:19

I wouldn't mind knowing about the next month. I've wasted a whole summer waiting for an ENT procedure at a local hospital and when I rang up I was told that the consultant hadn't marked it as 'urgent' although he had said that on a letter to my GP. Other than that, I think I'd prefer not to know what the future may bring for good or ill.

Elegran Sun 11-Sept-16 19:14:24

So would I, Charleygirl I would like to have a chance to tidy up a few things (physically and metaphorically) before I am switched off.

Charleygirl Sun 11-Sept-16 18:39:53

I go against the grain- I would like to know even if it meant a shortened life expectancy.

millymouge Sun 11-Sept-16 18:37:21

Newquay I think that is the best idea

Jane10 Sun 11-Sept-16 18:35:27

I agree with that sister!

Newquay Sun 11-Sept-16 18:02:32

The Good Book tells us not to try to look into the future. My dear sister always says you should prepare for the worst and hope for the best

Wobblybits Sun 11-Sept-16 17:58:15

There are web site that will predict your life expectancy, no way would I wish to know. Apart form anything else, if it predicted another 10 years, I could get killed in a road accident tomorrow.

DanniRae Sun 11-Sept-16 17:44:49

No I definitely would NOT want to know what is ahead for me. If it's good then it will be a lovely surprise and why would I want to know about bad things and dread the future? hmm

Jane10 Sun 11-Sept-16 17:25:41

Yes. Better to travel hopefully...

rosesarered Sun 11-Sept-16 17:14:11

No, we ( cancer sufferers apart) are a lot better for not knowing.

grannylyn65 Sun 11-Sept-16 17:12:21

If, in the past, I had known what my future would be, I would have shot myself!!

phoenix Sun 11-Sept-16 17:12:16

Someone I know has recently been diagnosed with cancer, they have a life expectancy of around 2 years, they regard themselves as privileged, as they can plan how to spend their time.

millymouge Sun 11-Sept-16 17:07:02

Talking with friends yesterday the question came up as to whether you would want to know what the future had in store for you. Assuming that to a certain degree our future is in our hands and we make our own decisions would you want to know everything that was going to happen to you. Would you want to know if something good was going to happen or something bad. It rather surprised me that several said they would like to know and be prepared for good or bad. Personally I would not want to know but make my decisions and hope that they would be the right ones. I worry enough now about things, if I knew what was going to happen in the future I don't think I would cope. confused